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Today, I'm going to be showing you how to make it so that the balancing forces, when it comes to maybe a narcissistic person or a sociopathic person that you're around. How it starts to tip in a new direction, and I'm going to show you what you can actually do about that. A couple of weeks ago, I made a video on why narcissists and sociopaths don't get their karma, and that video did weight way more people were interested in that video than I ever thought of actionable.
I knew it was more of a niche thing, but nonetheless, it was something that I had experience with, which many of you may know from my ex stepmom who definitely had many of those different characteristics. For sure and I explained my personal story and some of the things I went through and then what I noticed of what changed the energy. Just to clarify it, the reason that I say that sociopathic people and narcissistic people don't get their karma has to do with understanding the energy dynamics.
Many other people play into the frame, and it keeps the energy pattern going where they don't realize their own karma. However, like I was sharing with my ex step-mom, it is mind-blowing how much she is actually able to get away with. When you look at her relationship with my dad who, you know, just to give it a, a very quick summary, which if you've seen my other videos and you've heard this probably many times, but I had, she was in my life between the ages of seven to 15 years old.
We weren't allowed to have friends, and we weren't allowed to go play. In the morning, we were given a bowl of cereal with some milk. And at nighttime we were given a TV dinner. Then she was also very physically and mentally abused, so she'd get mad, had a temper. And also, the interesting thing was she would kind of control things to where we would get the opposite of anything we wanted to do. It was a lot of emotional manipulation.
You think you're going to get out of that; you're going to that, you know? It was this weird thing where I had to like figure out, you know, I almost in a way would like to do the opposite. I'd be like, I pretend not to want to go to a forensics debate tournament, you know, and my brother and I in a way had to earn going to school activities, and that was our escape, which in a way made it so that I focused more on school. There were different facets of it. But in general, my brother and I didn't have any freedom. You know, if 15 years old came around, all of a sudden, my dad divorced her and then my brother and I are able to watch TV. We're able to have friends who were both very socially awkward because we weren't, we weren't able to have friends at all.
We were just kind of in our own world. What happened is then we had all this free in my 15 years old came around. To this day, I don't even have to see her again. I don't even have to talk to her again. My half-sisters, which we had the same dad, different mom, that's their real mom now she's already brainwashed one of them to be a certain way. Kind of like she brainwashed my brother, and I did not like to want anything to do with our real mom. And then, after 15 and my dad divorced her that we have a relationship. But what happened is, is now my dad has to deal with her and she does everything she can. They make my dad's life a living hell. She will lie. They go to court about things, and she will lie and say the craziest things of things that didn't even happen and things that my dad is the nicest guy ever.
He's like too nice to where he ends up getting taken advantage of. He does things according to the book because he is a fire investigator, which means that he, he just, he has this very strong sense of doing what's right. The energy dynamics there, it's like she gets away with so much. Unfortunately, she's doing everything she can to get away from that. But it's hard for her because her mom is that manipulative and that's kind of the way the court's work is they believe in this case.
She's also a compulsive liar. She would lie about everything. It's like lying to get what you want. It's all about me, me, me, me. The thing is I remember that word, this thing I'm sharing with you comes from what the one thing you must do is, I remember one time my dad was going to a, some type of a thing for me, one of my sisters and it was, I don't remember, it was like a counseling session or something, but I know when he went, she, my ex stepmom was just, was just trying everything she could to get to my dad was just like, you know, yelling at it in public and saying all these things.
You would say something, and he would kind of feed into that. But this is the one thing you must do around narcissistic pet people and sociopathic people. And this is what made the change. And I told them to do this one day. I said, just go in and when she's yelling at you and saying all these things to you, just have a blank stare. Don't even react completely. Ignore it. Don't even give it attention. And this is what he did. He said that he went there, she started going off on him, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah and public while they were at something like I think it was like a, an office or something, I don't remember. It was like a therapist's office there or something they had to go to.
And he was just a blank stare. And I think even you're just like, like this. And what happened was, is she did that for like a couple of minutes. And then as he was not giving any reaction whatsoever, she just said something and left just said something and left it. Because when you're not getting a reaction, you have nothing to feed on. And I actually learned about this idea and this concept from that of some type of study they did where they said that they're, I forget what it was exactly, but they were doing some type of study where they were noticing that what was more nerve-wracking to people wasn't when somebody gives you negative PR, like imagine you're in an interview, and this was the test. The test was like to see people's reactions and like how they felt and how they responded that were, that people that were thinking they were getting interviewed, and the interviewer would have delivered like one of three different expressions.
They would have like a happy expression at like really receptive, and then they'd have a reception where they were like, really just proving like, like this. The people that had a negative effect, they had more cortisol because they add, they did not know what was going on. It's like you almost don't have a context. I remember hearing that, and I told my dad that I was like, just don't give it attention. They're in their frame, they're calling their shots, and therefore the energy dynamic hasn't been able to balance itself out yet. When my dad, it's like we'd look at my accent, mom, it's just insane because of her; it appears to be getting away with everything.
She gets away with all of these crazy things, allegations that she makes that aren't true. She gets away with so many different things or like, okay, she's going to get her car, but she's going to get her car but going to go to Parma and appears that it's not happening. Well, why isn't it happening? Well, the other thing is that people that have narcissistic or sociopathic, they normally don't feel shame. They, they normally feel like they're not doing anything wrong. They just have to manipulate rap reality to get it to be a certain way. You see.
I've just been, it's like, how can you even, how can you even do something like that? Well, unfortunately for my sister, the thing I've had to tell her to do it in a way to be able to observe it and to realize that her mom has just kind of lost, not necessarily a judgmental way, but her mom was just in her own little belief structure, her own little control mechanism, and she's acting out as a full-grown bullying.
She is somebody that doesn't make me feel good about herself, and she's literally been a bully to other people, so it's hard for 14 or 15 years old to have that level of a weirdness, but it's like alerting lesson, you know, in a certain way when there are narcissistic and sociopathic people in our life, we did agree to that. Being around them for a period of time in our life doesn't mean always.
The thing though that makes all the difference is to stop playing according to their game. It means that you're a cameo in their movie and they're the villain. Instead, be the star of your own movie. Then you gain your power to where then you can develop the boundary. You can say no, and you can go in the direction that you want, but you see, that's the thing is the energy dynamics that are out of whack because everyone is feeding into their reality, and attention is what gives them energy. I believe that when they're controlling things and people are giving them their attention; they're actually feeling powerful.
You see, a narcissist or a sociopathic person feels like they don't have power. Therefore, if they can get you to pay attention to them, you can then give them energy, which then makes them feel powerful. But the key to this is you being within your own gravity, you being the star of your own movie and drawing the boundary if you have to. But the only reason they haven't got their karma is that the energy dynamics are still playing itself out. If my dad, for example, were to stop playing according to her game and just to beat in his own reality because he has a certain story about it now, you know, I'm sure he's able to go to work and tell his friends about how crazy that some of the things that have happened and just the things that you would, you hardly saw movies at.
It's like wow, like, and he has a story about it, a story that's keeping that reality perpetuated. And if he were to change his story, he would then and realize that it's not happening to him. It's happening for him to where he can maybe draw the boundary to where he can maybe stand up. Because I see sometimes he's such a nice guy that she's able to take advantage of him because she's the one calling the shots and being so manipulative in such a compulsive liar. It's about understanding the energy dynamics, and is it showing you, what does it mean for you? Does it show you that you can stand up for yourself? Does it show you that you can draw your boundaries? Does it show you that you can be the star of your own movie? Because I think I may have shared this before as well.
When I went through that experience up until 15, she was very controlling, and after 15 my dad divorced her. All of a sudden, I have freedom. One of the first girlfriends that I had was somebody that was trying to control me, that was very jealous, that had a lot of this like negative emotion. And I dealt with that for years. And then, when I was done with that, I got promoted to a department at Nordstrom's and women's shoes where the manager was almost the same personality as my ex step-mom. There was always a manipulative person in my life until I cleared this pattern. I changed the story around it. I observed my thoughts around it. When you complete the past, you no longer have to repeat the past. But what is the story that you're telling around this? When you reframe the story, everything changes.
You see, I believe that they do eventually get their karma, but the energy dynamics have to tip in the other way. At the very, very least, when every one of us dies, we have an experience when it's called a life review. If you studied thousands and thousands of NDE experiences, we have a life review. And what happens in the life of you is you feel what you've made other people feel in your life. If you've generally been getting, you know, getting either learning your lessons as you go, maybe you learn your lessons. You don't have to feel as much the drawback of it. But if you're somebody that's so rigid, so controlling everyone taking its part power and a narcissist or a sociopath, then guess what? At the end of your life, you will feel what you made other people feel, and you will experience that, and then you will be able to say, do I want to make people feel like that?
At the very least, at the end of life, when we have life reviews, these people will get their karma, but that's not our job to focus on. Our job is to focus on how are the energy dynamics within us? Are we played according to their frame? Are we or are we in our own frame of reality? Are we the star over our own movie? Are we focused on making everything about them? If that's the case, then we are keeping that energy dynamic in the place, and what we can begin to do is change that energy dynamic by first off, changing ourselves, changing ourselves. A lot of people that are taken advantage of in narcissistic or sociopathic relationships where someone's a sociopath towards them are people that are very nice people. People that get taken advantage of that have a lack of boundaries in the key is to become aware of that and then decide that you're going to develop your own level of boundaries.
You're going to develop your own gravity, which may mean saying no, which may mean ignoring completely. If you give them something to hook in on it, they will feed on it. They will come up with some crazy type of way of getting in with that. But if you don't give them anything to hook up and not to, they can't do anything. This is about being aware of that energy dynamic. The one thing you must do in order for that narcissist or that sociopathic person to get their karma is you must realize that it is not about playing according to their game and plain according to their frame. You must be in your own frame, in your own reality, the star of your own movie, and you must, at the same time, let go of trying to make sure they get their karma. Let go of the story you have about who they are, the story about everything you've been through, the story about all of these different attachments you might have to that identity, that story that keeps your certain, you almost might get an emotional charge from it, talking about it.
Yeah, she did this, and this, this, I kept to believe that blah, blah, blah. But until that story is like go off, it will continue to play itself out because they're just playing according to the role. One of the most powerful things for this process, as well as that of a process called Hoʻoponopono, which is a process that is an ancient Hawaiian technique, but it has to do with four simple statements, which, which I'll explain in the video below. But you do this process, and as you change your image of this narcissistic or this sociopathic person, you may find that as you change your image of them and the way that you relate to them within yourself, you may find that either they fall away out of your life, they no longer vibrationally resonate or they start to change within themselves. This starts to bear the question, what is reality other than a reflection of what we believe it to be.
What happened was in Hoʻoponopono, the experiments that were done with that, there was a doctor that would just focus on patients that were in an insane and silent, who would focus on their profiles, on their stories, on their files, and he would heal what that was showing him on the inside. He would look at these peach people, see them as a whole, complete and heal and change a story about them, and then they would begin to heal in real life. As he changed his image of them, as you saw them as to heal, they would then begin to change where they didn't have to be there anymore. He did that with over 50 people at this place. And it works. And it's an ancient technique, and it's something that I'm doing a meditation about that you can just listen to why you're in your car, listen to why you're doing things.
And what it does is it begins to change your energetic field. It begins to complete the patterns of the past is something that's very powerful that you can listen to. It's called Hoʻoponopono. Listen to it for 21 days and watch how you start to change how you can change your image of how you relate to them and that how that changes everything in your life. For this process, remember that what you can begin to do is change your own reality by being the star of your own movie. Realize that anything that's happened to you from them is a story. And what you can begin to do is let go of it, draw the boundary, but let go of it to become three so that then you can be yourself.