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Everything is a self fulfilling prophesy

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That's actually quite interesting. Anything you look for evidence in the world of you will find a reflection of that's. The interesting thing is it's called confirmation bias. Anything you look for, you will find, you can believe in, have a belief that you're unworthy. Because of that, you'll go out into the world and you'll find a reflection of that. You could have the belief that money comes easy, and then you will find that that comes in your reality, whatever you believe to be true is reflected back to you.

I have a hang drum right here. One thing I've been doing myself to break out of my old identity is I used to always tell myself a story or have an identity around me believing that I'm just not a musical person or, but like believing that music doesn't come easy for me. Like, I meant to be a speaker.

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I speak for a living. That's what I do. Music that's not really me. But think about that. What I was then saying is I'm not a musician, I'm not into music. All I was saying is that my old personality, my old identity hasn't really focused on it. Because I then had that perspective, I would then block out being able to play any type of music. While I'm not like a genius, I guess a limiting belief. Right. But saying that, but I've been spending like 20, 30 minutes a day playing the hang drum or playing other types of drums. I really like drums. I've realized that since doing that, it's really changed my identity. It allowed me to tap into a part of myself that normally wasn't really activated. I mean, it's like something mind blowing. I'm not here to tell you guys like, look at me now, the most amazing musician ever, but I will say

Doing this as a sense of accountability for myself as well, like posting about this, because I believe that when we do things that our old identity was maybe afraid to do, or just didn't define ourselves as we begin to break out of our own box. I recently moved to Sedona. It has got a very magical energy. One thing that I've been doing here just in general is tapping more into parts of myself that helped break me out of my old identity. Playing things like, like drums, we've got little instruments, other drums, bongo, and there's a piano over here. You know, these are all things that I can practice. As I do guess, what happens? It allows me to tap outside of the way that I used to view myself, my old identity. Part of the purpose of this blog is just you showing and helping, you know, you can break out of any limitation and anything that just isn't natural for you because you haven't done it consistently.

You can break out of that. All you have to do is you have to decide that, okay, I'm going to do something that my old identity may have not defined myself at, but you begin to act as that. One thing you could do is if you've never saw yourself as somebody that you know is very into physical exercise, if you were to start doing yoga, you may eventually start seeing yourself as somebody that does yoga, being like a yoga type person. Guess what? That's going to change your identity, especially if you do it consistently. I’m doing the music and, and making music for 30 minutes a day begins to change my sense of identity. I'm like, wait, I am more a creative person. You want to know something crazy too. I told myself for such a long period of time that I'm not a musical type person yet.

When I was in middle school and high school, I played the trombone and I was in band and I had to learn to read sheet music. I was very passionate about it. At one point, I literally thought that I wanted to be a band teacher when I grew up for like a couple months. Then I got into forensics debate. I was like, no, I want to debate people. I thought I wanted to be a lawyer, but the reason I'm sharing all of this with you is anything you look for, evidence of you will find. You will find evidence of that. If you believe that the key to this is becoming aware of those limitations, become aware of those stories. You tell yourself, you may have a story that you're unworthy and you don't deserve certain type of love in your life. Well, you'll go out into the world and guess what, that's exactly what you're going to find evidence of.

You're going to be emitting then an energy that says, Hey, my energy, isn't my energy. Isn't magnetic or people aren't, don't resonate with me at this deep level. There'll be like these limited limiting thoughts and beliefs there. But the key to this is realizing there's so much information about around us. Think about that. Let me sit down for a minute. Think about that. There is so much information around us that would ever perspective. If we focus on, we find, and you want to know the crazy thing. Most people hold other people in a certain frame of reality, and then they hold them there. For example, I used to work with this guy that everybody disliked working with. One thing that I did was I decided that I’m not going to deal with him this way. I’m good to almost act as if and pretend that he is positive. Guess what happened? I tapped into it and I don’t know if it was me that pulled that side of him out.

I ended up enjoying working with him much more than I enjoyed working with some of the other people they worked with. We connected in a deeper level because I didn’t hold that frame inside of that perspective. One of the best things that you can do is to become free of all the beliefs and all the judgments about other people. As you become more free, it’s going to be a whole new world. You can use this towards everything even something like numerology. Same thing with astrology, some people that reject astrology is because they may reject the permission slip. But, I like using these things as I think it’s powerful and I’m also aware that it’s not the end-all be-all. You are not limited because your astrology is not favorable. It’s just showing you where the energy is and what you can do about it.

One thing that I can say that can help you branch out of your current identity is doing something the old identity would have never done. I realize that working really hard, I believe I can take my energy back and be passionate and I can get results from that. I also realize that by doing less, I’m getting more. It’s becoming very magical for me. If you align more to your vision and to your purpose, you become aware of the limiting beliefs.

What I’ve Learned from over 1,000 hours of Studying Personal Transformation

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You will not be the same after you read this blog. This blog has the potential to completely transform your life. It'll also save you a lot. A lot of time. I've spent since 2012, so much time, hundreds and hundreds of hours of going to seminars, listening to audios reading books, going through courses to learn and condense what I know about personal transformation into this video. By the end of it, you're going to have the simplest process that almost all ancient texts talk about many processes that I've made. We paid maybe five to $8,000 for certain seminars to go to. I'm going to share all of that with you in this blog. This is what I learned from reading, listening to and consuming over a thousand hours of personal transformation content.

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I'm going to save you a ton of time and that's because I'm going to condense a lot of information into a very simple, easy to apply process when it comes to transformation. A lot of what I'm going to tell with you and show you as well, you're going to be able to see it on many movies, any movie that you watch in that of a, that that is especially a movie that resonates with a lot of people. It is normally the hero's journey, which means you have some type of hero who then has a certain problem who then goes on a journey who then overcomes that problem and who is then transformed. The thing that I want to share with you is that you may go to those movies and you may watch them.

You may enjoy them, but you are the hero of your own movie. You are on the hero's journey and you are going through a process of self-discovery, a process of self-transformation. In this blog, I'm going to show you exactly how to go through that process and how to condense so much of this information in such an easy way. You can apply this process towards just about anything. What this process has to do with his understanding and just in general as well. If I look to maybe the Tony Robbins conference, I went to, for example, went to date with destiny last year with my buddy Victor. When I was there, it was like six days long and it was very intensive and there was a certain process that everyone was brought through. There was certain things I learned about becoming aware of the subconscious beliefs we have about who we are, what he calls our values or our value system of what we value.

He talks a lot about States and how we feel, whatever you focus on, you feel. Many of its correlates with some of the metaphysics of the law of attraction, much of it has to do with willpower taking action. I've also studied that of Dr. Joe Dispenza, who talks a lot about how our personality creates our personal reality and our personalities, how we think feel, and act. If we change how we think feel and act, we then change our personality, which then changes our personal reality. He talks about a lot about that. You’ll notice that this little, this little thing right here, I use it a lot because this is going to be so simple for you to understand how to transform. When I look at my own life, I had a certain story. I had a certain identity think about this in the form of identity, shifting much of the personal development information that you hear, whether that is from Tony Robbins or many other people, they have been influenced by a guy named Maxwell malts who wrote a book called Psycho-Cybernetics back in the day.

This book called Psycho-Cybernetics had to do with self-image and identity. What this guy was is he realized that his clients, he was a plastic surgeon, surgeon, his clients went through a process of after they would have plastic surgery, it would take them time in order for them to change their mental self-image for the X H experiencing the internal change. Even though the outer changed their, their fit, the how they looked, it would not change until they changed their inner self-image. What he became aware of is that everyone has an inner self image that is subconscious, that is running the show, and we will do anything we possibly can to remain consistent to this self-image, even sabotage ourselves until we become aware of it until we break out of it. Tony Robbins, many other personal self-help I've got a bookshelf right behind me and many other self-development books. Talk about the self-image in some way or another. I'd say you don't get in life, always that what you want, but you always get a reflection of who you are. Transformation is about shifting your identity. Think about people that go on the heroes journey.

They have a certain identity. Look at the movie limitless is coming to mind right now with Bradley Cooper. He has this guy that was like, couldn't focus. He had long hair, he was sloppy. He had nothing going from his life. His girlfriend just broke up with them. We’ll talk about your current identity. Your current identity has a certain story that you’ve been living on autopilot. That story has been comfortable. When we were born, we begin to identify with our identity. We begin to think that this identity is an avatar where internal spiritual beings live in temporary human experience through this meat flesh body and what we end up doing is we end up identifying with our avatar, because that’s what we learned growing up. What happens is we have a certain story we tell ourselves. Maybe certain limitations, maybe we were treated a certain way. We then made rules and labels that keep us enslaved. You are free to do whatever you want in life but you may tell yourself a story, “No, I can’t do that. I’m a shy person.” I used to tell myself a story and I think I have ADHD. That’s what the doctor told me.  

Think about your ego avatar, it just wants to survive. That’s it. Nothing extra.  As you look at my story, many of you seen many of my videos, and you know I tell similar stories about my past, so people understand that I’ve been through a certain process of my own transformation. Then, what happened, I had to let that identity go by becoming aware of it and unwire it and unlearn it. Once I became aware of that, I could start to get out of the prison system. One way to get out of the prison system of the survival mode of your ego is to start meditating. My advice to you is to not get into the point that you need to choose about who you are. The next step of the process is becoming aware of your future identity. Make sure this future version of you talks about that of imagining that future version of you, how you think, feel, and act.  Remember, you don’t always get what you want in life. The way that you transform, you look at your current identity and the future identity you want to be you.

3 signs their “secret plan” isn’t working

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Their secret plan. Isn't working. It's not working out when I say secret plan. When I say they, I'm talking about an elite group of people, as movies, as movie, as that sounds an elite group of people that have gotten together that have wanted to control millions of people on the planet to keep them in a certain box, to keep them distracted from other things going on so they can keep control and keep the resources going in their favor, things and their cards are literally falling down and there's signs that they are not winning. There's many signs that we are actually taking our power back. That's what they call the great awakening. I'm going to show you three signs that their secret plan isn't working and show you exactly what we need to do to make sure we continue to go down this path of us taking back our power.

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I'll be showing it to you those three sides that they're secret plan. They're really super-secret plan. They don't want anyone else to know it just isn't working anymore. Okay. When we talk about this, you might say, yo, Aaron, who's they? They have a secret plan. This sounds kind of conspiracy theory. Here's the thing about conspiracy theory, conspiracy theory, conspire simply means secret plan. Like a secret plan that's being brought out. That's all conspired means. What happened is back in the day, the CIA was like, here's what the CIA did. The CIA wanted to be considered. Really cool. At the CIA date is first off, the CIA's been infiltrating Hollywood for very long time. One thing they did is they said, Hey, this is what we're going to do.

We're going to get a movie called James Bond to come out, played by, you know, well, I mean, now it's Daniel Craig, but back in the day was Sean Connery. Even before that, I think there was someone else, but we're going to have them play that it is going to make us look super, super cool. People are going to really like what we do. We're going to do. They're going to think it's cool. Let's give the CIA a very positive connotation. Then what they did is this other aspect of it is they said, okay, we're going to make this word called conspiracy theory. We're going to make it and give it such a negative connotation that nobody wants to look into anything, a government, a secret plans the government would do would do. That's kind of what they did. We'll make James Bond and everything.

We'll make us look really cool. Then we'll make conspiracy theories look really bad and really dumb if they even look into it. We've been primed. I even want to look into this idea of a secret plan, which a secret plan, but okay, who is they? Okay. They is an elite, an elite group of people, very wealthy there. They, in their own minds, they, they think they're very powerful. Okay. The only power they really have those that we just have to kind of let them do things. That's it. Once we realize it, we then take our power back. That's what's happening right now on the planet. Part of the great awakening, what they call the great awakening is so many people on the planet are waking up and through these little different things that they are instigating. They're emphasizing one of the things, these elite people, and first off who they, who are they?

Some celebrities are a part of this. There are big time celebrities that are a part of this, but understand they're only a part of that because they have, and they harness such a great attention. Because they have so much attention, they're in a way Poole did and said, Hey, come into this cool little room. We're going to show you some cool stuff. They say, look, this is really cool. Then they see stuff. They think it's cool. Then they see stuff. Then they're in too deep. There's like no way out for them. Beyond that though, there are different. I think a lot of them are people we actually haven't even seen before that are kind of behind the scenes. I, I learned about a lot of this when somebody I personally knew for a majority of my life was a part of some type of not even government, but some type of thing where one did the underground basis in a way, and this person has seen and been around things that have been kept from the public that we would have no idea exist.

These underground facilities harness many different things. That made me aware that there's other things going on than what we're necessarily shown. When I started learning about a lot of this stuff, especially like the spiritual awakening stuff, I started to wonder, why don't they teach this in school? Why is this something that I just stumbled across? Then I realized that actually, this in a way is kept from, I think, us knowing it to keep us where we are now in the dark and not, not knowing this now. Okay. First off, what is the first sign, their secrets planet and what is their secret plan? Their secret plan is to retain and to re have control, to have what is called a new world order. Their secret plan would include also vaccinations. See the way this, their secret plan works is it works in the form of what is called problem, reaction, and solution. Here’s another thing, if we want martial law and curfew, what can we do? Can we instigate a lot of what happened in the world? There are reports that there are people in undercover and doing a lot of things. It’s very interesting to see and the reason I say this is why would that be? Once again, there’s these things, the problem, reaction, and solution.

The first sign that this is not working is there have been post on social media of actually very good feeling things. For example, cops and African-American people hugging. There have been many feel-good signs that we are actually connecting more and more and that we realize that these are actually healing ancestral wounds. This is bringing us closer together. The second sign is they are desperate to stage and instigate. The third sign that it’s not working is that I believe that if it was working, there will be way more things that would have already been brought out. I believe that this is our last desperate attempt at a power grab. This is their last desperate attempt to control and everytime something happens, the initial reaction, but then people start to waking up that there’s other things going on behind the scenes that were not necessarily aware of.

what is really going on right now? here it is.

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There are hidden agendas of things going on behind the scenes that lead us to believe and leave us to have this conflict with each other, not knowing who the real enemy is. In this blog, I'm going to be showing you what that hidden agenda is. My perspectives on it at least, and then exactly what we must know about what is called the great awakening, which I believe is happening right now.

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Today, I'm going to be revealing to you. Some of that, of the hidden agendas, things I think are going on behind the scenes and with all, if it having a certain intention that is still the same as what happened at the beginning of the year. Let me first off say this. It's not that what happened at the beginning of the year didn't exist at all. It's just that what happened was there was this thing that was happening and the media and the intention was to put people in such a mass amount of fear so that then they remained powerless. Then they didn't remember. Then they remain in a very controllable level of consciousness where then we can, they could also bring through different, different things that then would keep us safe. I'll explain a little bit more about this problem reaction solution mentality they work with. The idea is this is the level of consciousness we've got love, reasoning, willingness, anger, fear. If you keep people in anger and fear, they're much more easily able to be controlled. In the same way, what is happening right now is we look out into the world and yes, racism does exist. That is a thing that exists. But what is happening is there are things that are being instigated at different levels.

There are people that are undercover. There are people that are financing. Some people that are instigating and causing much more problems than there needs to be in order to keep, once again, people feeling separate, we think that this is us against us. We think this is black versus white. Yes, racism exists. But what we're doing is I also believe that at a certain level, these ancestral wounds are coming up for us to look at, for us to deal with, to let go, to decide that judging people based on the color of their skin is not acceptable. A certain group of people have been treated wrongly for such a long period of time. However, the other side of this though, is why is it that there are bricks being laid out in different places at these protests? As these rights, literally people seen forklifts bring over these bricks, lay him down, conveniently for people to then pick up and throw. Why are people at there's videos on Instagram of this of people at riot saying we did not vandalize that cop car. We did not even put that there.

That cop care car was brought in with graffiti already on it. Why would that be? Well, there's a certain narrative. When you can put it on camera, you can put it on the media and make it look a certain way. It then has people feeling, Ooh, this stuff is even worse than it is, but also people being instigated and provoked to be even more rowdy. Winner's many, many, many peaceful interactions, even. I mean, there's, there's a one's online of cops and black people hugging. There were five or six black gentlemen that were literally like protecting a cop that got separated from his group. Very good feeling things that you're not seeing everywhere. You're not seeing on the news, at least on mainstream media. When we talk about this, some of the things that are happening is those things may be there. The hidden agenda behind this is there's a guy named George Soros, who, if you look into this, you'll see, and you could follow that. There's a pattern this guy has with doing things like this with funding.

He's been kicked out of, I think, six different countries, but part of a, an organization or in a way controlling things so that it, then it gets to a place to where these things become much worse than they are. Then what happens is you've got one interesting thing that's happening right now is when this whole blackout Tuesday thing happened where there's the black square and everyone is going to post the black square. First off, a hidden agenda. This is going to sound esoteric to many people, but if you, I don't know if you remember, I have another hidden agenda video where I talk about the post of like Tom Hanks, for example, Tom Hanks had a post on his Instagram a long time ago, where after he got what he got, and can't say it for some reason, I'm on YouTube without it immediately doing something to the video. Basically, what happened is he flew across different countries. He flew to Australia then got this thing.

Then he got sick, but then just so happened to have a typewriter that was the brand name of exactly what’s going on in the world. There’s this group of people what we call the elite. They get up together and what they do is because they have such large audiences, what they do is what you call like rituals that charge objects with energy. They have these things that influence our collective consciousness.  These elite people know that there’s collective consciousness and that we’re all connected. I know this sounds esoteric but there’s a lot of evidence that shows they know things like these. The way that our reality works is we come to earth. We forget who we are so then we remember who we are. There are people on the planet that in a way know this but they have some twisted beliefs that are linked up to some very dark stuff.

They want to keep people in low vibration so they can continue to control things. We know the great awakening happening right now, it’s working in our favor. If you are reading this blog, you are in a positive timeline where so many people are waking up. Here’s what I think as well, it’s very interesting that on blackout Tuesday, the Hillary trials are also starting. There were post all over social media about it. There’s a lot of things happening behind the scenes right now that are not being talked about. The way that these elite people, the way they work is that they try to introduce a problem then they pay attention to the reaction through the narrative of the media. They may try to do some things like grab power for the election. I think what’s going to happen is as long as we remain in our power and we observe, we are not going to let that happen.

The 5D Shift has Begun… (what you need to know)

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I think it's becoming obvious that the 5D shift has actually begun. This is something that's talked about in the law of one as what is called the harvest. This is something that is happening right now on the planet is something that a lot of people may refer to as the great awakening. However, it also has to do with understanding this shift into what is called 5D consciousness, and in this blog, I'm going to be explaining to you exactly what that is, what it means plus to how you can make sure you are on the most optimal timeline so that you experience what you really want in your life and also progress spiritually in the most profound way you can imagine.

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In this blog, I'm going to be showing you the difference and what it is actually like to be in what is called a 5D level of consciousness. Sometimes we hear words like this and we think, Ooh, that sounds like super esoteric, kind of weird 5D consciousness. What does that actually mean? Is it a different reality? Is a different dimension. In this blog, we're going to learn all about that. First off, 3D reality, 5D reality. If you want more on what I'll be sharing with you today, there is a book called the law of one and there are actually five books. This is book four or five and I have all five. However, there are very powerful books that came from the 1980s they talk a lot about what's happening right now in the world.

We are shifting into a new level of consciousness. This doesn't mean that we're going to ascend into our bodies like the rapture doesn't mean that we're going to have to worry about our dogs and our grandmas and are they going to make the shift as well. It's much different than that. I'm going to share with you practically what this means. First off, you may notice that a lot of things are falling apart in the world. You look out, you see that of all of the fear and everything that's happening. You can tell first off that a lot more people are waking up. Am I right? Can you feel it? Many people are waking up right now. This is part of what is called the harvest. But what it is, is it's from a new level of consciousness that is meant to be here in the body.

In the past, what we may have done is we may have woken up, or what we may have done in different civilizations or societies at different times is we may have actually ascended into a new level of consciousness and not been in this reality anymore. That is something that the Mayans may have done. That is something that has been talked about in some ancient cultures. However, in this time in this life, we are meant to ascend to this higher state of consciousness in the body, which means there's no rapture. Grab her grandma and grab your dog, but you don't have to worry about that because we doing this together. What this means though is that depending on our vibration, meaning, depending on how we think, feel, and act, depending on our level of consciousness, that's going to determine what we experience as we go through this shift.

This is why it is so imperative that we work on raising our own vibration and elevating it to a new level of consciousness. You could have certain people in your life that experience way different realities than what you experience and it's because they may be in a different level of consciousness than you. First off, let's talk a little bit about the difference between 3d and 5D and let's talk about how you can more so be in 5D and I'll also share a story with you about a kind of like a message that I got about the future of what we can experience and it is, it changed my life and made me much more aware of these different aspects. Let's move into that of understanding 3D and 5D now a 3D reality. Our society has been in a 3D third-dimensional state of consciousness for a very long time.

The 3D is all about duality. We come in a way, we are, we are eternal. Spiritual beings live in temporary human experiences, and there are certain lessons of different dimensions we could say. In the third dimension, some of the lessons are learning duality, which means good, bad, light, dark. We have free will here. Part of that free will is us learning that, how to move through it, and the different aspects of it. Separation is also normally, it's kind of like a game of separation where we have forgotten who we are so that we can then remember who we are. That's another common aspect of the third dimension, state of consciousness, attachment.

Normally in 3D, we're very attached to possessions attached to things attached to people attached to an outcome rather than trusting the process. That's why a lot of times we'll create a lot of resistance. Then we moved into the autopilot mind. The autopilot mind is a, we're thinking the same thoughts, feeling the same things every day. Something that happened to me 2 or 3 years ago, I was in a plant medicine ceremony, I had this profound sense of unconditional love that swept through my body and then what happened was my heart was so open, and I felt so much unconditional love. As we raise our vibration, we will then carry more light.

The Great Awakening (an update)

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What if so many people are saying is true all over the United States, that there are cop cars being put in certain locations with graffiti already on it. If there really are bricks being laid out in piles, in these gatherings and at these protests before the protests even start, and they're being planted there, what this begs the question of why is that happening? Is there by chance, a group of people or a certain organization that wants to instigate a certain level of violence, and what is the purpose of it? In this blog, I want to give you an updated building on some of the video series that I made a couple of months ago.

We're going to be talking about some of the hidden agendas that might be going on. We're going to be talking about some more of what is called the great awakening and how this may be in a way instigated by that to help more or to have more and more of the separation in the world, which makes it much easier for people to be controlled, much easier for people to give away their rights and what we can do to team together, to create more equality in the world, more justice in the world, and to change the planet from the inside out.

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If somebody, you don't know, the great awakening is something that I believe is happening right now on the planet. Many people also believe this as well that a great awakening has to do with so many people waking up to understanding that there's been a certain level of control on the planet for a period of time. This control has led people to kind of externalize their power without even knowing it. It's almost like there are people on the planet that know that in a way, I mean, this is going a little more esoteric, but we are eternal spiritual beings live in temporary human experiences. What if there were people that knew that if they could keep people in fear and keep people in lower vibration.

It is just more easily able to control people in that way. The great awakening is where the vibration, which is an esoteric word, but our vibration on the planet is continuing to raise. As our vibration raises, we are becoming more and more aware. That's why as these things happen with what happened at the beginning of the year, that's why what things happened with what's happening right now with these protests and things going on. There is a lot of people that are that in a way, the more separated we are, the less powerful we are, even though every single one of us wants the same thing. We want equality, we want fairness, we want connection, but there are some certain things that may be instigated in certain ways. I'm going to be sharing with you some of what those are now in general.

Another aspect of this is understanding that there may be an elite group of people. I know this sounds conspiracy, but there are so many messages, DMS, I'm getting, I've also done research on this. It seems to be that there is some form of this and this isn't a, an elite group of people who have been in a way influencing certain world events. As it influences certain world events, it puts people into a certain state of consciousness, uh, maybe into fear. It opens people up to them, things that are like their intention. For example, if you wanted people to be open to vaccinations, one thing you could do is make people very, very afraid of other people and then have it to where then, Oh, the only viable option seems we need to get this to keep us all safe.

If somebody else doesn't get it, then, they'll do the work for that and, and shame other people for not doing it. That's an idea of one way to do it because then, okay, a problem. Then the solution, the solution is the vaccines. In a way exaggerate, maybe something that's happening and get people to a certain state and go into quarantine for four months or something like that. Then people will be open to it. Well, in the same way, what if there was a certain level of, uh, you wanted to create martial law and you wanted people to not want it, you know, not leave their house. You want to create curfew. I'm in Sedona right now. There's a curfew. We hear here till like eight o'clock every night where there's $2,500 fine. If you're caught outside these things, make it very easy for us to do those things. Here’s what I want to point out as well.

I believe that there is still in the energy itself. There's still work to be done. When it comes to George Floyd, for example, this is a reflection of in the collective consciousness, that is a reflection of what exists in the internal consciousness of people and what we need to do is go within and release our own inner judgments that we have towards people. Understanding that, yes, racism does still exist and what we can do is begin to heal within ourselves. One of the great ways to change the world is by changing ourselves. The important thing to remember is you came here to bring in the light. You came here to be grounded and to understand that there is a process to this. Do the inner change. Do the inner work. But, focus on things that will actually unify and enhance your energy. I believe one of the best things we can do is get together and do group meditations where we imagine a certain outcome. We imagine equality in the world. We imagine love and connection. What we need to do is connect together and have compassion for other people. To have compassion and to help unify, so that our energy is stronger together. We are much more powerful when we connect together.

If You’re a Millennial… READ THIS in 2020 (not what you think)

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I get it. I used to be stereotypically what people call a millennial. I was lazy, entitled, and somewhat good at technology and pretty good. Today, I'm going to be showing you the thing that all millennials need to hear. I mean, maybe not all of them to give, to be fair. I mean, I think I'm a millennial. Maybe I don't need to hear this. Maybe I do. I do know that I needed to hear this about three and a half years ago and I've recently been talking to a couple of other people that would consider being millennials by getting them, giving them some advice for how I've become successful and good at what I do and live a freedom lifestyle. Because I think that I may have a lot of what a lot of millennials may want, where I have the freedom to do what I want when I want to do it.

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I have the financial abundance where I could travel the world and live in a cool house. Really just the freedom to be and to do what I want away from tradition, not any nine to five job that I don't really care about. The thing I want to share was how I created that bridge from the old reality of working a nine to five job. I wasn't passionate about the kind of mindset I had, how I was kind of waiting for things to happen, and then how I just started to become it and how I, I became it using and understanding what I'm about to share with you in this blog. This really also has to do with the understanding of the common patterns within many millennials that I've noticed. This isn't stereotypical, does not judgemental in any way.

I am a millennial and I think anyone born after the eighties is considered a millennial between the eighties and early 2000. I think that would be me. In any way, I'm going to be talking about kind of about the shadow side of a millennial and understanding the way that a lot of manuals are. Millennials are looked at as in a way as the stereotype being lazy, entitled, and somewhat good at technology. Here's one of the things that I think has happened at a spiritual level. This is going to sound esoteric. We're going to go a little bit down the esoteric rabbit hole here, but I believe that we are eternal spiritual beings having temporary human experiences. The work of Dolores Cannon for example. A lot of the books by Dolores cannon are transcripts of people that were in a deep level of hypnosis.

What happens is their higher self or their subconscious mind come through comes through and then they are asked questions. A lot of times these people are in a trance state and they may see things like, I came here at this time to be a part of XYZ to do this. What was your relationship with your family like your dad, like your mom? Like what was the purpose of that relationship? This kind of information comes through and one of the common themes that happened for anyone that was pretty much born after the 1980s was that many of them said, I came here to be a part of a great change in consciousness. I came here to be a part of a great shift, and that in a way is what I believe is happening. What happens is you have these millennials, many of which know they're not here to keep their tradition going of the old system.

They get kind of bored with the old system, the old way of going about things. Maybe their parents paved the way in a certain way, but there was all this really hard work involved. There's this way of going about it that just seemed kind of old, outdated, and like there's probably a better way to go about it. What happens is the millennials then see that and go, yeah, it doesn't resonate for me to do those kinds of things. They may even use the word resonate that doesn't resonate. Do it, go do this deep heart, go do this hard work. It's like it doesn't resonate. It doesn't resonate. But the part of this that's easy to see is that a lot of millennials, they didn't come here to maintain the status quo. They came here to change up. Okay. They wanted to change it.

The thing is, is when we talk about that some of many millennials, let me see if this is you. If you're listening to this, you're a millennial or you have your millennial kids and you want to send them this blog. Many of the millennials want to make a change. They really want to change. It's just that they may not want to actually do it to make the change they want. They may not want to be the change-makers, but they want the change. Now, the key to about this, to understand as a millennial coming into their power, it's about knowing that you came here to not just want the change, but to come here to make the change as well. That's something I had to learn. I recently had a talk with a buddy of mine who's in the process right now of the kind of where I was about three and a half years ago of having a nine to five job. I'm not passionate about going full time doing what I love, which is making YouTube videos and teaching these ideas and traveling the world and doing live events like. I know I wanted to do this. I know I wanted to be a public speaker when I was still in high school.

But I don’t know exactly how to go about that. I watch the movie “The Secret” back in the day and I realized I wanted to manifest being a public speaker. First off, I have a lot of videos about the Law of Attraction. The way I was going about that is my idea of having just think about it. Set these intentions and part of my intentions is to come into work and manifest Tony Robbins. That was my idea of how it’s going to work. But, what actually worked was when I created the spark inside of me that said, I’m going to do this. I’m going to be this version of me. I realized I need to go through like a warrior initiation. It changed my self-entity and my work ethic. I was able to gain a level of confidence because I knew that whatever I put my mind into. I could accomplish it. Three weeks into that video went viral on YouTube and my channel started to grow. So, my advice to my buddy, who is also a millennial is to do what he wants to do and focus on it.

Whether you are masculine or feminine, I believe that the key to this is understanding your vision and having that vision and deciding that is who you are now. Be in that version of you. Don’t feel shameful if people call you millennials. You didn’t come here to make the same tradition your parents did. You didn’t come here to keep the status quo. You can here to change stuff.  In order to change stuff, you also came here to be a leader. And, to be a leader, you have to step into your power. I did that, and I got what all millennials want. I got freedom. I got some technology that I get pretty good at. I’m able to create life on my terms.

LET GO to LIVE in Your Dream Reality by doing this one thing

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Today, I'm going to show you how you must die to the past to live in your dream reality. I'm going to show you exactly how to do that and why that will change your life. I'm going to be going deep on an idea that I believe will change your life if you apply it in your life, and it has to do with understanding who you really are and why you're here in this life. Having this kind of experience, and the thing with this process that's important to understand is that we are who we choose to be in the present moment right now. The thing is, people, continue to choose things based on their past, over and over, and over again. They think the same thoughts every day.

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They do the same things every day. They feel the same emotions every day and therefore they experience the same things over and over and over again because that is the autopilot mind that is just running itself out. When you talk about going to a nine to five job that you're not passionate about. If you are passionate about it, you're going to be living alive while you're doing it and you're going to see every day as an adventure. But if you're just going through the motions, you'll find that you just remain in a certain pattern. Creating that over and over and over again. Based on things that happen in the past, there are certain meanings we give to the things that happened in the past, maybe even how it affects us at a certain level of identity and then that things that continues to create a self over and over and over again.

For example, I used to have this situation between seven and 15 years old, and my ex stepmom in my life who was verbally, mentally, and physically abusive. Between that period, I gained certain meanings of my past that said, I'm not worthy. It said that I need to be controlled. It said that I'm not powerful by myself. I need somebody else to tell me what to do. These meanings then became something that was on autopilot. It didn't become a part of my story, the story about who I am and it remained on autopilot, and what happened was even after 15 years old comes around, my dad divorces, I never have to see her again. I then had a job at Nordstrom's at women's shoes and I got transferred to a department after a couple of years of being there where the manager was the same exact personality profile as my ex stepmom and reflecting back to me things that I had not completed in the past that I had not questioned in the past, beliefs about who I am, the story I told myself that was on autopilot and therefore she was in my life for years until I do what I shared with you in this blog, which has to do with dying to that past and letting it go and completing the past.

That was a huge shift in my own awareness. I actually learned meditation. I learned how to observe my thoughts, and I became aware that I had these thoughts. I had these observations that I wasn't holding completely. I had these observations that that's just the way reality works. I realized that I always had someone in my life that was at a certain level of controlling me. I had my ex step-mom. Then after that, I had a couple of girlfriends. My first couple of girlfriends that I had were people that like to control, that was jealous or, would like to try to tell me what to do. I'm a rebel, so you tell me what to do, I'll probably not do it. It's just the way it works now. That was so, it was always an inner conflict I had because someone wanted me to be a certain way and then I didn't want to be that way.

I broke up with one of my ex-girlfriends. Then within a week of breaking up with her, I got transferred to salon shoes, which is a better department, a more expensive department. It's a commission-based job, so that's better. But the manager of that department was that controlling type way as you would treat people the same way my ex stepmom would treat people. For years we all would try to get her out of the department by going to HR about things because she was doing things that you just should not be able to do, saying things you should have able to say and being mean and really bringing people doubt. Do you want to know when that happened that she ended up getting fired? It was within a week of me learning this process. Am I saying that I caused it? I don't know. I'm not saying that. What I am saying is my reality is a reflection of my inner state of being and my inner beliefs in my inner patterns.

As soon as I changed it, she left my life. Kind of funny how that works. What if all reality is, is a reflection of your inner beliefs in your inner blueprint and your inner story about the way reality works? What if you have a certain narrative and a certain story that you've been telling yourself for so long she can't do what you love for a living and it's scary to do certain things? What have you told yourself these things and all it is it's been unclear, hasn't been questioned. That's it. Things that haven't been questioned. You just simply decided, this is who I am. My parents said I can't do this. This is the way reality is, and then that remained on autopilot and it keeps running itself out over and over again. I believe that awareness is the thing that changes our life. It's so many different ways. The more aware you become of yourself and the more you where you become of these stories you tell in yourself, the more your life will begin to change because then you can do it from a place of choice. You cannot choose something if you're unaware of it, and the part of this process that will change your life is when you stop reacting to everything that happens and you start really experiencing things. You start stepping into the unknown. You start questioning your beliefs and stories about the way reality works. You become aware of it and then you change it to be something you prefer it to be. You step into the unknown where the brain can't hack and it can't latch on to some idea and then projected.

Most of what people experience in their lives are words and ideas. They're words and ideas. Now what I mean by this is people go outside and they say, wow, it's called. People may go do something else and go to the gym and say, wow, that was hard. When we put these words on our experience and we believe may be other people tell us this is the way it will be, we then mentally label it. We take ourselves out of the experience of reality out of actually living and it then becomes a mental construct. It becomes something that is very, that is a very mind in the mind and the thing is most people are experiencing reality from the level of that mind rather than experiencing it for what it can be in the now, right now. This is the thing right now is the only moment that exists. You are recreating yourself, right? You're creating yourself right. Every moment's a new now, but the thing is the story we tell ourselves about who we are. We recreate that. We recreate that. Do the mental stimulation, mental stimulation, mental stimulation over and over again over and over again, over and over again. Why am I getting the same results? Why am I getting the result of the same results? Why am I doing the same things every day? Why am I thinking the same thoughts? Why am I feeling the same emotions? Why am I in this little bubble, this little box that I've kept myself in because I'm unaware that I can get out of the mental construct, out of the mental reasoning and into experiencing life new every so dying to the past is realizing you're new?

Every moment your new, every moment living to the past is living here, mentally constructing it, thinking about it a lot, doing this one mental label on it. This is hard. This is easy. This is this instead experienced life just for what it is without mental labels and from a level of presence of being in the present moment. You become more flexible to experience a different version of now when you let go of the story that keeps you in these now moments every moment it's to do now, but you will recreate these over and over and over and over again as you keep the charge going. As you keep the story going, you change the story. You change the charge. You change your life. How do you change the charge of something? How do you change the charge?

Anybody? What says YouTube? I can just get to do that. You change the charge because by looking at these prior things that happened in the past, past experience, something happened, something happened, something could have been something good, could've been something bad. The moment something happened, we gave it a meaning. We gave it a meaning that meaning based on the way something happened then gave us a certain emotion. That emotion we feel is some type of charge. This is connected to some type of charge. That thing will remain within our energetic field as long as we have not completely experienced it and allowed it to be there in a way. Then sometimes what we do is we keep that mental label there, that mental meaning, but if we were to question the meaning, maybe something happened like the analogy that I've been, we'll go with the same one.

I've been doing it. The whole ex step-mom thing. What is, I gave it a meaning that I'm not worthy and there were certain memories I have of maybe being treated a certain way that reaffirm I'm not worthy. Well, if I were to go back into the past memory and completely experience it without the mental labels and let it be there and understand the meaning of it, that maybe those things that appear to be bad. I believe that many people that go through a lot of pain are what we call lightworkers people. That is kind of accelerated their spiritual awakening to a certain way. I believe that once we changed the meaning of those things that happened, then we changed the result we get now in the present moment. You changed the meaning by seeing it from a new point of view. When I realized that all the pain of my ex stepmom actually led to me to a spiritual awakening, that changed everything I did, felt like I emotionally let go of that charge and of all those that passed, meaning I was giving to, it changed everything.

Then I was really able to die to the past. Think about it like this. Die to the past meaning and that meaning that built your identity and realize your new every moment, your new, every moment, your new every moment. But experiencing the past and letting it be there, not mentally labeling it, not mentally identifying with it. Well then allow it to let go of your energetic field. If you haven't seen, I do have a meditation. It's called completing the past meditation for feeling 100% where the whole incomplete. One of my most powerful meditations that will help you to clear out your energetic fields so that you complete the past. Imagine that the past is in a way a shackle hast. When you live in it, when you identify with it, when there are patterns that don't serve, you have these little chains that keep you tied to it. But when you realize and you become aware that these chains that you think are so solid are actually being projected from past conditioning, you can then let it go. To live in your dream reality, what you must do is complete the past and the way you complete the past is by becoming aware of it and experiencing it. From this point going forward, deciding that every moment is a new moment and you choose to actually be there. If you guys have heard of Sadhguru, he's like the enlightened guy from India that travels and does a lot of talks and he talks, I've heard some interesting, I heard him talk about lists when he is going to a new experience, he may do the same thing he does every single day.

The difference between what most people do and what he says he does is when he goes into an experience, he treats it as if it is 100% new. As if you've never experienced it before, rather than having a mental label that this is the way things work. This is the kind of habit that I'm in and this is what I do when I come to this place. He says that he doesn't bring the past into the present moment. He experiences it as if it was completely 100% new and he never experienced it before and by doing that he says his reality is very magical. Imagine every time you went to work you did it with a childlike wonder that it could be new, that you could experience it. You can focus on being president. It's a job you don't like. You focus on being present while you're there because you realize that you still chose to be there even for that day. What if you could take out these mental labels and realize that you can experience reality in a completely new level of consciousness and that when you do this, it changes everything. It changes the way you show up in the world. You no longer completely thinking of the past. You're no longer wondering when will things happen. You are dying to the past because every moment right now, right, right now, right now, right now you are creating yourself to be the way you are. When you realize that you can then create yourself to live in your dream reality because you realize that this right here, this is in a way a story you've been telling yourself, and if you're caught up in the mental labels, then you're recreating that story over and over and over again. In the mental labels is where that can seem a visualization of autopilot.

This is a certain way of being and your dream reality is also a certain way of being. You can create a greater degree of change when you let go and you die to the past and every moment you're recreating yourself. Who do you recreate yourself to be? You can recreate yourself and just be, see, that's the thing is as well with this other way of being. When we talk about the past and we talk about doing from the level of the mind that's doing and thinking instead of doing or thinking, focus on being, being in the present moment, experiencing reality, and giving yourself permission to be here now, but the thing that helps the most has cleared out the energy, the past. That's why you'll see that meditation right below completed in the past so you no longer have to repeat it. Also for filling, it helps you to feel 100% worthy, whole, and complete. One of the biggest beliefs that people have that holds them back is the belief that I am not enough. I am not worthy.

That's the belief that keeps people in low vibration and keeps people and lacks that keeps people that want to be in a relationship single. That is the most common belief is that I am not enough and that I'm not worthy and who would like me if I don't like me. If you question that belief, then you start to get somewhere because as you shine a light on past meanings, past situations that happened where that meeting was developed unconsciously, then you bring it into the light and you see it for what it is a belief. It is not who you are. It is just a belief. It is just a story. When you let go of that belief and you let go of that story, you then become more free. Then you fill up your own cup. Then you feel more loved, and then other people have and see that contagious energy inside of you and it's a completely different reality. Shine a light on the worthiness of that belief, on the belief of not being worthy. Then you'll see your life begin to change in the most powerful ways. That meditation will help you to do that.

The Truth about Why A Narcissist is the way they are (not what you think)

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Narcissists want attention because attention equals significance. The significance is the top value that a narcissist has for them to feel worthy. In this blog, I'm going to show you the inner workings of a narcissist and I'm going to share with you what you can do for yourself and for them and helping them in a very compassionate way rather than the old school society's way of looking at the enemy version of it. I've done a couple of videos on narcissists and sociopaths, and the reason being, many of you may have heard my story, but I had a narcissist or a sociopath. She was a mix of both in my life between seven and 15 years old.

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It was my ex stepmom. From that period of time, my brother and I had no freedom. My brother and I were a lot of times locked out of the house, working outside. We were always getting in trouble for things we didn't do. We'd have to admit that we did things that we didn't actually do. If we did admit that we did do these things, then we wouldn't be able to go to like school activities and things like that. We didn't have necessarily the normal childhood of growing up watching TV and hanging out with friends. We did up until seven years old. But then when my ex stepmom met my dad shortly after that, our freedom started to go away more and more. Then after two years, I think she started to get very comfortable. Then all of a sudden, my brother and I had to really learn how to deal with, or my dad's a firefighter.

He was gone 24 hours a day, back, 24 hours a day. He kind of would believe whatever she would tell him and she would really do things. In a way she would, it was a lot of it was around her in a way, making other people feel a certain way, and then she would feel better about that. That's where a lot of these things come around and I didn't realize till years later. I mean, I knew there was something, I thought it was maybe just borderline personality disorder or something like that. After, you know, my dad divorced her when I was 15 years old. Years later I realized I kept attracting people into my life that had these narcissist and sociopathic type tendencies. I was wondering, why does this happen?

I realized it was a pattern. It's what I thought I was worthy of. Once I became aware of this, I see it. It was like magic. It was like I became aware of this pattern that was within me, that was attracting, I was on the other side of this, attracting people like narcissists and sociopaths in my life. Not knowing why necessarily, but the faces would change, but the energy would remain the same. I didn't necessarily know why. Well, in this blog, that's why I want to share with you how you can move through it in a compassionate way. I've been learning more about how the narcissist thinks and their value system in a way. We all have our reality where our beliefs create our reality. Why is it that a narcissist thinks the way they do and has it to where they feel like they need to take someone else's energy or they need to have this sense of inflated sense of self.

Energy cannot be created nor destroyed. What happens is when we come into this, you know, reality, you could say we are experiencing reality in the ego. What happens is sometimes people learn at an early age to really emphasize the ego. The ego is what we use to experience reality. What happens though is that when people growing up learn that their sense of survival is based on self-importance, validation, or taking from other people, what happens is then they learn that that's the way to survive. That's the way to move through reality. They've learned it growing up. They've either learned it from someone that they were around growing up or they learned it from the opposite side of the spectrum. I think if you notice a lot of people that are narcissists, what they do is they crave energy. They want to be paid attention to, and many times if you look into their childhood, you know a lot of times in childhood what happens is childhood experiences kind of Mark and say, this is who I am.

There's something that happens in childhood where we say, this is who I am for a narcissist. What I believe happens if something happens and they decide that in order to get attention, they have to be a certain way. Maybe they have to act out, maybe they have to try to take it from other people. Maybe they learned that from a parent growing up or maybe they weren't given that attention by the parents growing up, so now they feel like they need to take it in order to get it. Maybe they were giving so much attention growing up that now that mom and dad are not around, they feel like they need to take it and they need to show off a little bit in order to get it or they need to always revert the attention back to them. But you see what happens is at a certain point in the past, a narcissist has a situation that happens to where then they feel less than and they see that the only way to survive is to have that of ways of bringing the attention back onto them.

Think about it. Beliefs in a way are a way of quickening the thought patterns that we have towards getting some type of result. If we don't have beliefs, it's like every situation is completely new and we always got to think of something else. Certainty is something that is one of the needs that we have. There are six human needs and then what we have is uncertainty. If everything was always certain, we'd eventually get bored. There are different degrees to this as well. Some people that feel certainty may crave security, but then you'll have some people that love uncertainty. They love adventures. They love going out and like not knowing what they're going to do. They don't like planning certainty. People really like planning. We all have different degrees of this. The certain one, the third one is the significance, which is feeling unique and special, which is feeling worthy. Then, we have a connection. Under connection, we have grown. Then undergrowth we have a contribution.

Here's the one I want to focus on. With narcissists, what has happened is there was a certain point in the past we were, what they did is they extremely valued significance and significance then became something that was all about survival in a way. If that significance wasn't there, then it means they're not worthy and it means that they might not survive. We all have an ego mechanism and the ego's job is to survive, not necessarily just with food and shelter, but survive in its ideal of what it thinks we are of who we define ourselves to beat. What has happened with the narcissist is the narcissist has had such a value of significance. We all have rules to these as how would I know that for example, connection. Like I say, I wanted to feel connected to my life and my connection.

I value feeling a connection with my family members and people in my life. What are the rules I have to when I know that that need is met, that I feel connected? Well, that rule is people texting me and telling me they loved me, which of course is not necessarily the best thing that it could be that people hug me when I see them. Could be that people call me to find out how I am. It could be that I reach out to them and I do this. Or you see, we all have our internal rules that are subconscious. The narcissist has a high degree of rule of significance that may say any wind people are paying attention to me, then my need is being met, then I feel worthy. What we'll find is that there could be many of these rules when this person feels this way.

When people feel less than that makes me feel better. These are things that are normally subconscious but what happens with somebody that is narcissistic is that they value significance. The very top of their list and they have some rules that they must meet in order to feel that significance and part of the significance intention are so that they feel worthy, they feel love. This is the thing and this is what I wanted to show you. It is not that a narcissist is an evil person who is out to get you. It is that they don't remember who they really are and if you feel like you may have narcissistic traits, understand that change is possible. The thing that the narcissist normally has problems with is seeing beyond the self-seeing beyond the self. We came into this experience to also be able to see through the eyes of others, which is called empathy, which is called being able to see how I make other people feel. What happens is a narcissist is so focused on the ego structure that it in a way blocks out. Being able to see how it makes this other person feel.

The power of this though is understanding that the narcissist at a certain point in their past valued significance at the top of their list. Maybe they learn that from the parents and then they had some rules that they had to attain in order to feel that worthiness and love. The narcissist wants to feel just as much love and worthiness as you do. They just don't understand exactly how to do that. What I wanted to do is to share a more compassionate view on this process because when I made videos on YouTube about this, and I talked about it on Instagram, I had people reach out to me and say, Hey, I feel like I may be a narcissist. When they said that to me, I then thought, you know, these people probably feel guilty about what and how they made other people feel before. There's nobody really speaking to them, showing them how they can get outside of that mindset, how they can get outside of feeling like they are in that survival mode.

The key to that though is realizing from the narcissist perspective that you have valued for just being you. You don't need to take other people's energy. You don't need to get attention from other people to be significant. You can give that to yourself from within and what you can realize is that your rules for worthiness are you feel worthy of being you not. Once you get attention from other people, you can really go inside of yourself and start to become aware and redefine yourself in a new way. The first thing you need to know as well is change is possible. Change is possible. If you go on Google and it'll say, Oh, this is some lifelong thing. If you can go beyond the self and you can go beyond the current story you tell yourself about who you are and what you need in order to get energy from other people, then you can begin to become aware of that.

The other side of this, we have the people that normally get kind of sucked into the funnel of a narcissist, and what happens is normally the people on the other side of the spectrum, here's the crazy thing, if they'd normally the lesson for them normally is to learn to have more ego structure in a way, have more boundaries in a way to develop their own sense of confidence to be able to say no drill to say, this is a, I need to focus on me and I think what happens a lot of times is that this person to become someone that over gifts and this is someone that overtakes. What happens in narcissistic type mentality is this person has a high degree of value of significance and is craving that from other people. A lot of times the people on the other end of it crave significance as well. It's just not the way in the rule they think they get significance is by giving. If I give to other people, then maybe they'll love me and the narcissist says if I take maybe, then I can feel worthy. You see the narcissist isn't so different. They both want significance. It's just the rules for significance are different. This blog is meant to help you become free on either side of the spectrum. Whether you feel like you have narcissistic tendencies or are a narcissist, or whether you feel like you've been the victim of a narcissist. Either way, you both have values of significance and the key is becoming aware of it and understanding that you have worthy of being you.

You don't need to be any way for me to love you. You don't need to act a certain way to be accepted and validated. You have worthiness for being you. It's just that when we grow up, we take on these beliefs, and these thoughts that it has to be a certain way and that we need to get certain things in order to survive. The key to this is all awareness and no, we didn't make an extraordinarily easy for you to feel worthy. Love holding complete. The key to this is understanding and practicing compassion. Compassion means the ability to still have compassion for ourselves on this side of the spectrum. If you find yourself, he is sucked into narcissists and giving them energy, it means having compassion for yourself. Maybe drawing those boundaries but doing it from a place of love, not from a place of you. Don't get to talk to me.

I love myself. And then here's the thing. When narcissists see that energy, compassion, the narcissist does not know how to respond from that level of compassion or that level of non-attention. I shared this story before, but one thing that my dad did is my dad still has to deal with my ex step-mom because they're, if they've been, even though they've been divorced, I have two half-sisters through my ex stepmom. What happened is my dad was going to therapy sessions for a while where it was like mediation for court and they would go to this therapist and anytime my dad would go sit in the waiting room, my ex stepmom would come in and just start yelling at him, embarrassing him, saying things, arguing with them, and my dad's just sitting there and my dad normally would like to start arguing back. What happened is one time I told him, I said, do you want a way around that? I'll tell you right now because I knew how she is. When she comes in and starts yelling at you in public and all this stuff, here's what you do. You completely pretend like she isn't even there and what he did is he just says, he just sat there. She came, she starts yelling at him. The next time that happened and he just stared and had a little smile on his face.

You wonder what happened. She yelled at him for about 30 seconds to a minute and then left. Didn't even stay for the appointment. She could not handle it because the attention was not being given to her. Either the key is the attention on this side of putting the attention on yourself and not feeding that reality, or it's having compassion and understanding that they too, whoever the narcissist is, it's just trying to get their needs met. They're just trying to feel significant. It makes it a little bit easier to understand what you when you understand it makes it a little bit easier for you to deal with this. Now I will say that one thing that really helped me with this process is forgiveness means forgiving my ex stepmom.  She was treated a certain way. My ex stepmom growing up and she decided that that's how she had to be in order to survive, in order to be a certain way, and having that perspective allowed me to then forgive her more because I understood that it was just a false belief. It was just something that she thought her away. She thought she had to be in order to be loved. As I did, and as I became aware of this, I was then able to really forgive her and as I forgave her, I started to be free.

That was something that was a game-changer. If you're a narcissist or have narcissistic tendencies, or if you're on the other side of this and you feel like you've been the victim of a narcissist, or you want to help someone that is narcissistic, one of the most powerful processes I found for this is something called Hoʻoponopono, which is an ancient Hawaiian technique of saying four simple statements, and it really helps to heal within your own energetic field. This has been used. There's a scientific study on this where the doctor in Hawaii that was doing research on this did something where he was working at a psych ward and what he did is he never even met the patients, but what he did is he did this whole point of Hoʻoponopono process, these four simple statements, and he healed within himself what these people's reports, these people's stories were reflecting back to him.

Here's an interesting thing. When he did that, you want to know what happened. Within a couple of years, every single person inside that psych ward was then released and was, was, was cured of whatever they were going through. He never actually even met them. He just healed his image of them. What if, what has happened is we expect them to be a certain way and because we don't have a whole incomplete image of them, it reinforces that reality and what if that image of them, they also have of themselves and what happens is that then they can stay consistent to that at all costs. What if I change in our image of them and healing within ourselves? We then notice that then we heal the outer reality. What if all reality is as a reflection of the inner reality? That is there to help us learn how to become more aware of our own ego structure, how to realize we don't have to over-give. If you listen to the meditation, which is the whole point of point of meditation, now I have, I think it can absolutely transform your life. Let's know for 21 days, watch what happens. This will keep the image of them in your mind and also heal what that means a

The Cure to Nice Guys and People Pleasers

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No more Mister Nice Guy, no more people-pleasing, wanting other people to view you a certain way, being nice just for the sake of being nice. This is the blog that changes it all for you. This is the cure to being a nice guy, people-pleasing. I believe that this blog has the potential to completely transform your life. I wanted to make a video that I think will completely transform your life. That explains why things are the way they are. Why you might be a very nice guy or a nice girl. Let's exclude no one here or a people-pleaser somebody. That's a people pleaser. Oh, man. The hardest thing for people-pleasers to do is to say no.

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To say, Hey, can you come to help me move? Can you come, help me do that? Can you come up? Yeah, I'll help. The reason being behind all of this has to do with understanding your childhood, understanding how you grew up, and then doing the shadow work to flip the script so that you start to be able to hold tension better. Also, it's kind of weird. I'll explain it in a minute, hold tension better, and have a sense of self-worth. This is what's important. Many of you may know, I've talked about this a lot. My dad grew up when I was growing up. My dad is the nicest guy you will ever meet. No joke. He's the nicest guy ever. He also got walked on when I was growing up. I watched my ex step-mom walk on him and my brother and me. My ex stepmom was very controlling, very manipulative from the age of seven to 16 years old. She was in my life and the role models I had growing up because she kind of brainwashed my brother and me not to want to see our real mom.

All we had was them two as the feminine, a masculine archetype in my life. What I became aware of is I would watch my dad many times. He's so nice, very good at his job. He's a fire investigator for a living, but I would notice that he would just get completely walked on no matter how nice he was. It wasn't like he would actually come out on top. Even after the divorce, when I was 16 or 17 years old, my dad divorced my ex stepmom and my ex stepmom lied about a lot of things. She lied about how much money she made so that she got more money from my dad. I watched how much pain that caused my dad by not having a sense of boundaries, not claiming his own power. And it made me really look at why he is the way he is because then I realized that myself growing up for a good chunk of my life, I was also a nice guy up until about three or four years ago.

Especially this last year or two, when I've come, I feel like I've let go of that at such a great level. The nice guy, what I realized is a, of not feeling worthy, holding complete already. If I just do something more for you, then I'll finally be worthy whole and complete it's that notion it's that underlying story. What I became aware of is the more I was like that first off, it just didn't feel authentic. The author, the nice guy, or the people pleaser is not being authentic. They are doing something being a certain way to get something out of you. That thing out of you would be the validation, the approval. If you're the nice guy of the people, pleaser, which you might be, if you're reading this blog, it's about understanding that shadow aspect, understanding that there's a sense of unworthiness there and a thought, a belief, a story that if I am a certain type of way, then I will receive that validation and I will gain that love, but it actually works the other way around.

The first thing that I want to tell you is that it doesn't actually work. You don't gain respect as a people pleaser because people see that you don't have boundaries and they will walk all over you and you don't gain the respect of a nice guy. Women are not attracted to nice guys, theoretically, in the mind, it sounds like this great idea and this nice guy that will buy gifts for someone to do whatever someone wants. But guess what women do not respect. Nice guys. It does not sexually attract them because it signifies to the woman that the nice guy is more of what they call a beta male. The nice guy. It does not have boundaries. The nice guy cannot protect and keep the feminine to feel safe because he's not even authentically re really being himself. The nice guy, once you realize that the nice guy and the people pleaser, they think that what they're doing is getting what they want to be realized it doesn't work no matter how many gifts you buy for some girl that you like, it's going to actually most likely deep.

If you're buying the gift because you want validation. If you're buying a gift, cause you want to buy your gift, that's different. But it's, it's about understanding why you're doing what you're doing. People can feel the energy. If you feel like you're unworthy, that's going to be reflected back to you. Once you realize that being a nice guy or being a people, pleaser is actually hurting you. It is killing sexual attraction and it is causing people to walk on you and not respect you. That's when you can then make a choice to change. I know that when I became aware of this, I really became aware of it on my dad first off. I can notice it. My dad, I'm like, okay, well that must have affected me somehow. In many ways, I'm actually, I do kind of the opposite of what some of my dads have done because I saw it.

Didn't get them great results with my ex stepmom. There's a lot of things that my dad wanted me to kind of do growing up. I've really rebelled against it. Like, you know, go to go to graduate from college and stuff like that. I was just like, man, I want to own my own business. I don't want to actually do that. I made the choice. I said I'm going to go do this. It's obviously worked out well. But what I had to do is I had to like pave my own path. It really developed me. You either normally take on what you learned from your parents, or you reject it, you rebel against it. In many ways, that actually helped me because it helped me to deter myself to become someone that creates life on my terms. A lot of times you'll notice that nice guys or people-pleasers this isn't always but many times nice guys and people pleasers will be in what is called middle management.

They may work their way up to middle management, but then wonder why am I not being promoted to even a higher level? I'm sucking up, I'm doing this. I'm doing that. Well, the things that would cause you to be the kind of person that could be at the high level are normally what you would resist because it requires tension. It requires not always being the nice guy, maybe having to fire somebody or having to be the bad guy. Sometimes you see. When you realize there’s, pain involved with being a nice guy or a people pleaser, it makes it so much easier for you to say, Oh, this isn't actually getting me the results that I think I am anything we do, by the way, we do, because of some type of payoff, there's some type of payoff there being the nice guy, the nice guy to be in the payoff is that I'm going to get what I want.

If I'm nice, then you're going to like me. It doesn't actually work that way. But that's the belief being a people pleaser. It's the same thing. Well, if I do what you want, then what I get is I don't challenge. The payoff is I don't challenge you to redefine the way you see me. I don't challenge you and do something that you don't approve of. Once you realize it's not authentic, you're seeking out validation and it lowers your value. Because as a, especially as a nice guy, by the way, you need to have boundaries. You need to create, be the star of your own movie, beyond your purpose. As you have this, then you can have feminine energy. Somebody that comes in that can feel safe in your presence. The nice guy though has zero boundaries and the nice guy will do anything.

He can gain your validation, gain your support, to get your approval. Because of that, that then lowers the sexual attraction. It's the same thing with people, pleasers people, pleasers. It's the same thing. It's hard to say, no, it's saying yes to things that you don't necessarily prefer. I used to be a people pleaser. I used to work as a sales commission job. I think that one of the reasons I did that for selling this because I enjoyed that, that spike of validation that I get from helping someone look at a woman's shoes. But the key was being aware of what this is now. What does it really? It is a safety mechanism. It is a safety mechanism. You are doing these things because you believe you will get validation or approval back in return. It will make you worthier and it will keep people, people around.

What comes at the cost of that though? Your own sense of happiness, your own authenticity. These are things that get put on the background because of that perspective. The key is understanding where this comes from now. This is what notice about people, pleasers, and nice guys. A lot of times, these, these people come from, I use the word parent pleasing parent. Imagine you had to please your parent growing up, your parents withheld their love unless you were a certain way. If you acted a certain way, then they would give you their love. There are many causes. This is one of them. It could also have not even been from your parents could have been from friends. It could have been from other family members. It could have been from people you're around growing up. But a lot of times people-pleasers come from parent pleasing having to please and do and be a certain way in order to gain the love of your parents.

Then this primed in a way that I'm not good enough already. If I can make you happy, then I will get something and I'll get that validation, love, and approval with my ex stepmom and my, my brother and it was never good enough. We were always in trouble. We had to, we were normally locked out of the house, working outside all day. We had to earn, going to certain school activities. We weren't allowed to have friends. We weren't allowed to watch TV. We were given a bowl of cereal in the morning and a TV dinner at night. We were very skinny. In order for us to gain approval, we would have to do all of these chores and then hope it was good enough. Well, guess what happened after my dad divorced, when I was 17, 16 or 17, I then would go out into the world and I would then try to do and be a certain way, get through your approval of other people.

If I would just do and be a certain way, then I would gain their approval. But this left me feeling weak. Let me fill it in. Authentic, led me feeling drained. Then once I became aware of this, though, this is when it changes. It's the awareness of it. A lot of times as well, nice guys and people-pleasers, they may have had someone abandoned them. They abandoned their love from them. Because of that, you know, realize that as a kid, as a, as a kid, we are little narcissists. What I mean by that is as a kid, anything that happens, your parents' divorce. Somebody calls you a name, your parents tell you to shut up. You assume it's everything to do with you. We think it's all about us. If a parent abandons you, you view it as you are not worthy.

That's how we think. We don't understand that maybe the parent was addicted to drugs and left and all this other stuff we just assume, Oh, it's because I'm not worthy. I'm not enough. Here's what I noticed. My dad, who was like the nicest guy in the world, my dad's dad. I never actually met him. From what I understand, he was drinking a lot of alcohol. He was in and out of. He was like very intermittently in my dad's life. My dad did not have a great relationship with his dad. My dad's dad abandoned him in many ways. Because of that, and he also, my dad did not have a masculine role model growing up. Because of that, I believe that that caused and was part of his reason for being a nice guy. Because then this is the key to all of these.

It's rooted in a sense of unworthiness. It says I'm not worthy unless I do X, Y, or Z, unless I people please unless I'm a nice guy, it's rooted an unworthiness. If you focus on your own sense of worthiness, that would change everything. That's what I did. I started focusing on why I'm already worthy. I started to become aware of it. 90% of transformation is becoming aware of the story that was unconscious become aware of your story about abandonment, about parent pleasing, about not being good enough. If you become aware of these and it could have been, your parent was there, but they just emotionally weren't there. That you were treated a certain way. You know, these, there are different variations of this when it's all rooted in a sense of unworthiness, which is a story that I'm not worthy of. The way you transform this is first off, you become aware of it.

The next thing you do, this is the cure. The cure is to actually be selfish. The nice guy and the people pleaser does not want to hear this. You might be resisting it as you hear this right now, I want to be selfish. That sounds so bad. But you got to understand that your sense of value comes from within, by you doing what you want. If the nice guy is selfish, does what they want says what they want acts the way they want. They will become more sexually attractive in general, which would actually raise sexual attraction. If they would actually be selfish. Of course, there's a balance to this, right? You know, I look at my dad sometimes who attracted a narcissist in his life, which is my ex stepmom. Even though that's like the people pleaser verse, the narcissists, and a lot of times that'll be the attraction.

It's actually because the narcissist has something to teach the people pleaser. It sounds crazy right now, of course, the narcissist is the complete another end of the spectrum, the unethical and unbalanced and dark side of the spectrum who is treating and gaslighting people and all of that. However, what the people pleaser can learn or the nice guy can learn from the narcissist is take a little bit of a taste of what they do and how they are and apply it in your own life. Start to fill up your own cup. Start to be a little bit selfish, do what you want to do a site. That's why that polarity is there. That's why they attract each other. That's why I believe my dad attracted my ex narcissistic except mom. What my dad could learn is how to have boundaries, how to be okay with saying no to things he doesn't want to do.

As the people pleaser or the nice guy, when it started to be selfish and to do what you want to do, people would respect you more. Hey, can you help me do this? Do you want to come to do this? Come out tonight. You're like, oh, I don't really want to go out. But I guess I make now I need to because I want to be, I want their validation and approval. I don't want to let them down because you didn't want to let down your parent when you were a kid. But the key to this is learning that you can say no. By saying, no, you are actually saying yes to something else. If you say no to doing something you don't want to do, what are you actually saying? Yes to? You're saying yes to yourself. You're saying yes to your own happiness.

The other thing that nice guys need to learn to do and people pleasers in general is to be okay with tension, tension creates attraction, tension. Tension is having boundaries. What is okay? What is not okay. Being okay with that pool of energy. Instead of trying to please it's focused on its focused on the self is focused on making yourself happy. Of course, there's a balance to this. It doesn't mean becoming a narcissist, but what you need to hear as a nice guy where a people pleaser right now is to be a little selfish and by selfish, I mean, as a negative word for it, but to put the energy on you and what you want, you will then be more attractive. People will respect you more and be able to hold tension. Think about any movie you've ever watched. What makes it a great movie?

There is probably some type of tension in there. What's going to happen at the end. What's the main character going to do any, if you were to watch a sports game and the game and say you watch a basketball game and it's 95 to 12. You're not, you don't really even care to watch the end of it. Because you know, one, team's getting blown out. If you go to a basketball game, people will leave like in third. Cause it's that boring? There's no tension, but it's there's if it's like 96 to 94 and then it's from 97 to 1996 and then it's 196, like 97. It's like, it keeps bumping up and down. That's tension, tension creates attraction. What the nice guy has to do is be okay with tension. He says, Hey, you want to go here, go do this. Actually, I don't want to do that.

But yeah, nice guy. I would never say no. The people-pleaser would never say no if you are okay if you can become okay, but you see the tension growing up with the parent pleasing or the abandonment, the tension met as a survival mechanism that I want to lose love. I'm going, I'm going to become less. But if you were to be okay with tension, it's realizing there's good tension, good tension creates sexual attraction, telling someone, telling someone what you think, touching someone sometimes the nice guy to be afraid to touch someone that they're attracted to because it's like, Oh, they might reject me. When you start to become aware of these different aspects, that you have been afraid of tension because you've associated attention that it's bad because your parent may have been withholding their love or the abandonment. Then you can start to see that you can be an intention.

You can say no to people. You don't necessarily want to go hang out with and everything's going to be okay because your sense of worthiness does not come from them. It comes from within. This is the key. This is the key to transformation. The key to this though first off is becoming aware of this process, becoming aware of the story that you tell yourself about your past. One of the most powerful things you could do is to complete the past. If you complete the past, you no longer have to repeat the past. There's a meditation that when I began to do I let go of the pattern of ever attracting someone like my ex stepmom and know my life again because after my stepmom left, I attracted an ex-girlfriend that was similar to her and then a manager at a department at Nordstrom's that I used to work at.

Once I did this meditation, it let go of those patterns. I became aware of them. I completed the past. I no longer had to repeat the past. There's a meditation I have on completing the past. It's one of my most popular meditations. Let's do it for 21 days and watch how your life changes.

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