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Today, I'm going to be sharing with you the danger of over intention and on the other side of that over surrender why I see so many people going through the resistance of these two sides of the coin. I'm going to show you how to balance this out since you really experience what you want. And this is something that I've realized from experience.
And maybe this sounds, this feels like you're experiencing this in your own life. Do you ever feel like you have experiences where you really, really want something to happen? You really literally tried for it, and then you feel that the more that you try for it, the more you end up resisting it. On the other side of that, do you ever feel like you are surrendering and giving it up and trusting the process, but you still feel like nothing is really happening, or you feel like you're getting synchronicities and things happening that aren't exactly what you intend for or what you desire?
Well, that is the solution to that is understanding the balance of these two forces. These two ways of going about creating what you want in your life and in order to explain it, what I want to do is I want to show them from each perspective. First off, what is over intention? The intention is a determination and a declaration of what you want. Sometimes people ask me, what's the difference between a desire and an intention? It desires something you long for. It's a feeling that you maybe don't have anything.
You want it. And an intention is more proactive, and intention is like, I will have, or I declare this, I intend for this what a lot of people don't know about intention as well. His intention is and has included that of the action itself. Action is also intention. If I set an intention to go pick up something off the ground right now and I just set that intention, that's more powerful than desire. But that also means that to follow up that intention, I must go over there and pick it up. Many times, intention and action are inter interconnected very powerfully.
What a lot of people do is a lot of people's egos get totally immersed in the process of manifestation. And what happens is the ego thinks it must do everything. If the ego does, the ego says this has to be this way. The ego points out and then moves forward, saying this is the way things need to be, and they start to intend for it. What happens, and I've experienced this many times in my own life because, because I have had a certain level of success with what I'm doing, especially on YouTube making videos, there's a certain blueprint in my mind for the way things need to be for it to be successful.
And if things don't go according to that blueprint, I start to get resistant. And in resistance, you don't really create what you want easily. The key to this is knowing and remembering that it's not always just the ego. The ego must be going in a certain direction, must be being in the frequency that you prefer. The ego wants to be doing what it is passionate about, but at the same time, must be able to allow something even greater to happen. That over intention is when we start to create resistance. Have you also, I've known people also that like really, really want to attract a relationship they really, really wanted.
They intend for it. They're setting the intentions. Every time they go to a coffee shop, they're looking around like, are you my soulmate? Did you my soulmate? Are you my soulmate? It's kind of got that vibe behind it. And, and because of that, what they ended up doing is because they're, they're qualified. Every single person they meet as are you this or are you that? They end up creating resistance because the moment they also identify that that person is not the soulmate that they thought they were going to meet when they went out to get coffee in, in.
What that does is that it causes the resistance, and then it also creates more of an intention of what is not more of an intention of my soulmate. It's not already here. Then the vibrational difference becomes greater and greater. But also, it's also really emphasized and that we're not good enough for already. You've probably seen a big change in my energy if you've been watching me since November of last year when I went to Costa Rica and I had a pretty big transformation in my own energy before that I was very much over intending for everything.
I need to be this kind of person. I want to be like, you know, following and Tony Robbins footsteps and do it. All of this kind of stuff. And I put myself into a certain, like in a certain expectation I was carrying all this resistance. I intended so much, but I wasn't really enjoying life as much. You could have looked at my, the growth of my financial and business version of me, like the business aspects of my life. But in the personal aspects of my life.
There wasn't much I was focused on there when it comes to personal growth, when it comes to my relationships, when it comes to my connection with people in my life because I was so focused on making videos that it's like I always put everything else on the back burner and I intended so hard for this one area of my life, but I wasn't really paying attention to everything else in my life, and I felt like, I felt like what I needed to do is to let go of the over intention of believing that everything had to be really hard.
I realized I had a lot of beliefs that success meant working hard because when I lived full time on YouTube, I was, I was putting a lot of other things on the back burner, and I was just focused on making videos, and I made like, you know, I was working like 10, 12 hours a day. Even when I quit my job at north working at Barney's in New York and then I went full time on YouTube. It's just working so hard. That led me to having this belief that everything had to be from my ego had to do everything.
And I also had this protective mechanism where I was like protecting my ego. I didn't want people to, I didn't want people to know certain things about me, whether it was like me doing something like plant medicine or, you know, I was, I realized that I had this big shield up, but then what I did is I decided, I said, you know what? I'm going to let go of this, and I'm just going to start to be myself. And, and some people will like that, some people won't, but it's so who I am. You know, I wanted to make like videos on stars, seeds, and stuff, but I was so afraid of what people would think. But I said you know what?
I'm just going to do it. I'm going to make videos, and I want to make that I'm passionate about. And I did that, and everything got taken to a new level. I was working less, I was surrendering more, and I was getting more success than ever before. I stopped focusing on just my business life and YouTube and growth, and I started to focus on my personal growth, making me happy, doing what I want to do, enjoying my own life. And it was like a level of surrender that then allows more, more success to come than ever before. And I was doing way less. I had the best, like my everything took off financially and business-wise, got my channel, got taken to another level, everything. Once I surrendered more.
But then there's the other side of this. The other side of this is an over surrender. If you over intend, you put things on a pedestal, you make things important, and you create resistance. If you over surrender, you then become more complacent and lazier. That's what I learned from my own life, especially before I went full time on. I started making videos on YouTube. I was always telling myself the story. One day you're going to make it. And some people, you know, someone's going to find you. I remember I met, Jack Canfield. I helped him with the shoes for his wife. I remember thinking myself, Oh, this is meant to be, I'm helping someone like this.
This is a sign. But I wasn't really doing; I wasn't really taking action. I wasn't, and remember part of the action is the intention. I didn't have this balance. I was just surrendering like, oh, I'm going eventually going to meet this person one day. Let me just give you this class and for you to express yourself on. I look back at it now, and I'm like, that was just so ridiculous. They didn't think like that. And maybe some people would say that's limiting thinking you could have done that if you would have believed. But I believe that it's a little bit of both.
You have to meet the universe halfway. Then I started to make gaming videos and then the intention was there, and there was still a level of surrender, but that's when things just got taken to another level. But it was, it was about going beyond just that of the surrender, but you see, I think there are different personality types for this as well in away. Are you more so surrendering so much that you're not taking any action or you're not living in your passion? You see, when you're in your passion, when you're doing what you love, you are naturally taking action when you feel called to take action. When I am being in my passion that stayed and making videos, I'm in the flow state.
But if I were to like force myself to make more and more videos, that would be over the intention. When it doesn't feel like something I feel called or like I want to do, but you have to be honest with yourself too because, at the beginning of me making daily YouTube videos, it wasn't always easy to make daily videos either. Really kind of get used to that, but I knew that I had my vision set on it. I'm going to wire the sense that it is natural for me, and it eventually became natural for me before this.
What you have to do is you have just to be honest with yourself because, for me and my own life, I think a powerful lesson for me is learning to surrender more. It's alerting that it's not all about the action all the time and the intention all the time. It's like surrender, enjoy life, but surrender to the process and let the universe meets you halfway. The universe, it's like you taking action as you proving this is something I want. This is something I'm willing to work for. This is something I'm willing to, to give.
I'm willing to give myself in this way, and then the universe will give back to you. But there's a certain level to where your ego doesn't have to do everything. And my ego is very strong when it comes to this because my ego is like, this is what it takes to do this, you know this, there's a certain format in my own mind and what I had to learn is how to surrender that ego, that that ego's desire to try to control situations, to try and control outcomes. And I realized this in my own life as well because there are some times like I want to help people. I found out, one of my family members thinks that sometimes about myself that, you know, I'm trying to, I try to console control family situations too much.
And the thing is like I have some people in my family that are going through some rough times right now and what I tried to do is I tried it. I'm a fixer. I'm a fixer. That's kind of like a way that I always taught myself that actually I never even really saw myself as a fixer, to be honest though. I wasn't even really aware of it. But I had this conversation with my dad the other day because I realized that I was always trying, you know, someone's had gone through a rough time. The way that I helped was like;
I'm going to help you. I'm going to do this; I'm going to help you to get on your feet again. And it has good intentions, but sometimes that's not what some people need. Some people just need you to listen to, or some people just need, they need to like do it themselves, and they don't want you to give them things to help make the process easier. And I had situations where I was trying to control and help someone get back on their feet, and I realized that I was just doing too much and I said, I have to let go.
And when I let go, then it's like the person has the freedom to like figure it out themselves. And that's more empowering sometimes. In general, it's the ego's necessity to control that causes a lot of resistance and solidly in your own life. But if you're trying to control other people's way, they can move into their life with good intentions. Be aware of that because you may be over intending for yourself and you may also be over intending for other people.
And at the same time though, there's a certain level of surrender that you may. Also, there are times in my life when I'm over surrendering, Hey, I'm going to light in this area of my life. Maybe in my personal life, I was too over surrendered. I was like just so focused on the business side, the YouTube growth. I remember I used to go to this spiritual counselor. I still do every now and then, but I remember that you'd always, I'd be talking to her and I would talk about YouTube. Then an entrance, you be like, okay, what's going on in your personal life? And I'd be like. Personal life was like; I make videos like 10 hours a day. Like I edit, I do all of this stuff. Like what do you mean by personal life?
What is your personal life? What about this? What about this? What are you doing for fun? What are you doing to fill up your own cup? What are you doing for this? And I was like, Huh. But I realize I was too surrendered in my personal life. I wasn't doing enough things for me. I wasn't taking enough action to fill up my own cup, do what I love. And now when I go on vacation like I'll go jet skiing. I know it sounds like, well how was that? But that's personal. Like I enjoy that, you know, I'll go. You know, like the other day, Laura and I went to this fellowship, you know, Yoga and I ended up, you've heard of Yogananda. He wrote the book autobiography of a Yogi. He's got this place in la.
It's like a fellowship place where you go, and it's got a lake, and it's just such a high vibe. And when they are just like relaxed for like an hour, you know, things like that fill up your own cup. But are you surrendered in your business? Maybe too much and you're just focused on like your personal life. And maybe it's about balancing, maybe what I would say you can do that's very powerful, is fine. The middle way when it comes to your business life and your personal life, your success and your, your financial, and then also your personal or maybe your health.
Maybe break these down into different categories like your health, your finances, your relationships, your success. You're doing what you're passionate about and see, are you over surrender or over intending? Because if you're over intending, you're creating resistance. If you're over surrendering, you may be finding yourself lazy and not focusing enough. You need to focus more to get the energy moving. You see, it's like the more you focus, the more laser. If it becomes too focused and too rigid, if as it has to happen in this way and this is what the ego sees, then the answer might be to surrenders that then you brought in the scopes that you can allow more amazing things to happen.
And if you're over surrendered, then your lasers just to pop out and it's not focused enough. Be aware of this middle way. The danger of the over intention is that then you create so much resistance in your life that then you feel like locked in and you feel like your ego has to do everything. You feel like literally the weight of the world is on your shoulders, is dependent on your little ego. And then on the other side of that over surrender, the danger of that is that you're not taking action. You remain the same, and you remain just in the stagnant energy.
For years, I was that person that was like, I want to attract this in my life, and I'll just sit there on my couch. I want to check going full time on YouTube. But I wasn't making videos. And the thing that I needed to hear at that moment was to take massive action, take massive action. And then I took massive action, and I kept taking massive action. And then it got to a point to where I said, okay, now surrender. And then I would surrender. But then if I surrendered for a certain amount and it was just too much, and then eventually the universe was saying you need to take action again, but it's not, you don't have to go boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. You could just instead go boom the middle way.
Just be aware of where you are indifferent categories in your life. You may be at a different spot; you may have health that like you're just over surrendered with health, there's no focus. You might just be eating whatever. But then not over the intention. Sometimes I feel over intended with my health. I eat very, very healthy, very clean. And then when I go, and you know, we're eating at these nice restaurants and stuff, I'm like, I almost feel guilty, you know? And that's an over intention because I can't enjoy life. I can't just enjoy life a little bit, you know? It's the middle way. I'm aware of what I'm eating. I'm aware of eating high vibe food, but sometimes if I eat a little bit of a mix, it's not the high-end side between the world. I'm still enjoying my personal life. I'm still enjoying life.
Life is meant to be enjoyed. You know, this will sound esoteric, but I believe that we're all spiritual beings having a temporary experience, we may not incarnate very often into a reality. This dead is where we are able to eat and, and touch and smell and use our senses like this. I think we're meant to enjoy life. We're meant to come here and enjoy what it's like to be visible, to eat amazing food and all these things, but not to become identified with it, not to become overly identified with it, just be aware of it, to enjoy it. And then to let it go. And then to just be in the present moment right now. These are what I learned for this process and for this process. It's about finding that middle way. And understanding. When you do find that in a way
you'll see that things happen even easier for you. Maybe in a way you need like a prescription right now. What is it? Are you on the over intended resistance side? Maybe you need a little bit of surrender and trust in the universe. That's your prescription. Are you on the over surrender side? Maybe your prescription is to take more action, to do something this week that puts you in this direction and that by doing so, you'll begin to tap more into this and you can even imagine. One of the meditations that I have that will help with this process has to do with a feeling is the secret meditation, which is one that you listened to, where it combines both of the feeling and the intention, and you put it over your you. You do this guided visualization as you fall asleep at night, and when you do that, you wire into your subconscious mind. This state of already had not what you want. It's a very powerful meditation.