The Cure to Nice Guys and People Pleasers

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No more Mister Nice Guy, no more people-pleasing, wanting other people to view you a certain way, being nice just for the sake of being nice. This is the blog that changes it all for you. This is the cure to being a nice guy, people-pleasing. I believe that this blog has the potential to completely transform your life. I wanted to make a video that I think will completely transform your life. That explains why things are the way they are. Why you might be a very nice guy or a nice girl. Let's exclude no one here or a people-pleaser somebody. That's a people pleaser. Oh, man. The hardest thing for people-pleasers to do is to say no.

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To say, Hey, can you come to help me move? Can you come, help me do that? Can you come up? Yeah, I'll help. The reason being behind all of this has to do with understanding your childhood, understanding how you grew up, and then doing the shadow work to flip the script so that you start to be able to hold tension better. Also, it's kind of weird. I'll explain it in a minute, hold tension better, and have a sense of self-worth. This is what's important. Many of you may know, I've talked about this a lot. My dad grew up when I was growing up. My dad is the nicest guy you will ever meet. No joke. He's the nicest guy ever. He also got walked on when I was growing up. I watched my ex step-mom walk on him and my brother and me. My ex stepmom was very controlling, very manipulative from the age of seven to 16 years old. She was in my life and the role models I had growing up because she kind of brainwashed my brother and me not to want to see our real mom.

All we had was them two as the feminine, a masculine archetype in my life. What I became aware of is I would watch my dad many times. He's so nice, very good at his job. He's a fire investigator for a living, but I would notice that he would just get completely walked on no matter how nice he was. It wasn't like he would actually come out on top. Even after the divorce, when I was 16 or 17 years old, my dad divorced my ex stepmom and my ex stepmom lied about a lot of things. She lied about how much money she made so that she got more money from my dad. I watched how much pain that caused my dad by not having a sense of boundaries, not claiming his own power. And it made me really look at why he is the way he is because then I realized that myself growing up for a good chunk of my life, I was also a nice guy up until about three or four years ago.

Especially this last year or two, when I've come, I feel like I've let go of that at such a great level. The nice guy, what I realized is a, of not feeling worthy, holding complete already. If I just do something more for you, then I'll finally be worthy whole and complete it's that notion it's that underlying story. What I became aware of is the more I was like that first off, it just didn't feel authentic. The author, the nice guy, or the people pleaser is not being authentic. They are doing something being a certain way to get something out of you. That thing out of you would be the validation, the approval. If you're the nice guy of the people, pleaser, which you might be, if you're reading this blog, it's about understanding that shadow aspect, understanding that there's a sense of unworthiness there and a thought, a belief, a story that if I am a certain type of way, then I will receive that validation and I will gain that love, but it actually works the other way around.

The first thing that I want to tell you is that it doesn't actually work. You don't gain respect as a people pleaser because people see that you don't have boundaries and they will walk all over you and you don't gain the respect of a nice guy. Women are not attracted to nice guys, theoretically, in the mind, it sounds like this great idea and this nice guy that will buy gifts for someone to do whatever someone wants. But guess what women do not respect. Nice guys. It does not sexually attract them because it signifies to the woman that the nice guy is more of what they call a beta male. The nice guy. It does not have boundaries. The nice guy cannot protect and keep the feminine to feel safe because he's not even authentically re really being himself. The nice guy, once you realize that the nice guy and the people pleaser, they think that what they're doing is getting what they want to be realized it doesn't work no matter how many gifts you buy for some girl that you like, it's going to actually most likely deep.

If you're buying the gift because you want validation. If you're buying a gift, cause you want to buy your gift, that's different. But it's, it's about understanding why you're doing what you're doing. People can feel the energy. If you feel like you're unworthy, that's going to be reflected back to you. Once you realize that being a nice guy or being a people, pleaser is actually hurting you. It is killing sexual attraction and it is causing people to walk on you and not respect you. That's when you can then make a choice to change. I know that when I became aware of this, I really became aware of it on my dad first off. I can notice it. My dad, I'm like, okay, well that must have affected me somehow. In many ways, I'm actually, I do kind of the opposite of what some of my dads have done because I saw it.

Didn't get them great results with my ex stepmom. There's a lot of things that my dad wanted me to kind of do growing up. I've really rebelled against it. Like, you know, go to go to graduate from college and stuff like that. I was just like, man, I want to own my own business. I don't want to actually do that. I made the choice. I said I'm going to go do this. It's obviously worked out well. But what I had to do is I had to like pave my own path. It really developed me. You either normally take on what you learned from your parents, or you reject it, you rebel against it. In many ways, that actually helped me because it helped me to deter myself to become someone that creates life on my terms. A lot of times you'll notice that nice guys or people-pleasers this isn't always but many times nice guys and people pleasers will be in what is called middle management.

They may work their way up to middle management, but then wonder why am I not being promoted to even a higher level? I'm sucking up, I'm doing this. I'm doing that. Well, the things that would cause you to be the kind of person that could be at the high level are normally what you would resist because it requires tension. It requires not always being the nice guy, maybe having to fire somebody or having to be the bad guy. Sometimes you see. When you realize there’s, pain involved with being a nice guy or a people pleaser, it makes it so much easier for you to say, Oh, this isn't actually getting me the results that I think I am anything we do, by the way, we do, because of some type of payoff, there's some type of payoff there being the nice guy, the nice guy to be in the payoff is that I'm going to get what I want.

If I'm nice, then you're going to like me. It doesn't actually work that way. But that's the belief being a people pleaser. It's the same thing. Well, if I do what you want, then what I get is I don't challenge. The payoff is I don't challenge you to redefine the way you see me. I don't challenge you and do something that you don't approve of. Once you realize it's not authentic, you're seeking out validation and it lowers your value. Because as a, especially as a nice guy, by the way, you need to have boundaries. You need to create, be the star of your own movie, beyond your purpose. As you have this, then you can have feminine energy. Somebody that comes in that can feel safe in your presence. The nice guy though has zero boundaries and the nice guy will do anything.

He can gain your validation, gain your support, to get your approval. Because of that, that then lowers the sexual attraction. It's the same thing with people, pleasers people, pleasers. It's the same thing. It's hard to say, no, it's saying yes to things that you don't necessarily prefer. I used to be a people pleaser. I used to work as a sales commission job. I think that one of the reasons I did that for selling this because I enjoyed that, that spike of validation that I get from helping someone look at a woman's shoes. But the key was being aware of what this is now. What does it really? It is a safety mechanism. It is a safety mechanism. You are doing these things because you believe you will get validation or approval back in return. It will make you worthier and it will keep people, people around.

What comes at the cost of that though? Your own sense of happiness, your own authenticity. These are things that get put on the background because of that perspective. The key is understanding where this comes from now. This is what notice about people, pleasers, and nice guys. A lot of times, these, these people come from, I use the word parent pleasing parent. Imagine you had to please your parent growing up, your parents withheld their love unless you were a certain way. If you acted a certain way, then they would give you their love. There are many causes. This is one of them. It could also have not even been from your parents could have been from friends. It could have been from other family members. It could have been from people you're around growing up. But a lot of times people-pleasers come from parent pleasing having to please and do and be a certain way in order to gain the love of your parents.

Then this primed in a way that I'm not good enough already. If I can make you happy, then I will get something and I'll get that validation, love, and approval with my ex stepmom and my, my brother and it was never good enough. We were always in trouble. We had to, we were normally locked out of the house, working outside all day. We had to earn, going to certain school activities. We weren't allowed to have friends. We weren't allowed to watch TV. We were given a bowl of cereal in the morning and a TV dinner at night. We were very skinny. In order for us to gain approval, we would have to do all of these chores and then hope it was good enough. Well, guess what happened after my dad divorced, when I was 17, 16 or 17, I then would go out into the world and I would then try to do and be a certain way, get through your approval of other people.

If I would just do and be a certain way, then I would gain their approval. But this left me feeling weak. Let me fill it in. Authentic, led me feeling drained. Then once I became aware of this, though, this is when it changes. It's the awareness of it. A lot of times as well, nice guys and people-pleasers, they may have had someone abandoned them. They abandoned their love from them. Because of that, you know, realize that as a kid, as a, as a kid, we are little narcissists. What I mean by that is as a kid, anything that happens, your parents' divorce. Somebody calls you a name, your parents tell you to shut up. You assume it's everything to do with you. We think it's all about us. If a parent abandons you, you view it as you are not worthy.

That's how we think. We don't understand that maybe the parent was addicted to drugs and left and all this other stuff we just assume, Oh, it's because I'm not worthy. I'm not enough. Here's what I noticed. My dad, who was like the nicest guy in the world, my dad's dad. I never actually met him. From what I understand, he was drinking a lot of alcohol. He was in and out of. He was like very intermittently in my dad's life. My dad did not have a great relationship with his dad. My dad's dad abandoned him in many ways. Because of that, and he also, my dad did not have a masculine role model growing up. Because of that, I believe that that caused and was part of his reason for being a nice guy. Because then this is the key to all of these.

It's rooted in a sense of unworthiness. It says I'm not worthy unless I do X, Y, or Z, unless I people please unless I'm a nice guy, it's rooted an unworthiness. If you focus on your own sense of worthiness, that would change everything. That's what I did. I started focusing on why I'm already worthy. I started to become aware of it. 90% of transformation is becoming aware of the story that was unconscious become aware of your story about abandonment, about parent pleasing, about not being good enough. If you become aware of these and it could have been, your parent was there, but they just emotionally weren't there. That you were treated a certain way. You know, these, there are different variations of this when it's all rooted in a sense of unworthiness, which is a story that I'm not worthy of. The way you transform this is first off, you become aware of it.

The next thing you do, this is the cure. The cure is to actually be selfish. The nice guy and the people pleaser does not want to hear this. You might be resisting it as you hear this right now, I want to be selfish. That sounds so bad. But you got to understand that your sense of value comes from within, by you doing what you want. If the nice guy is selfish, does what they want says what they want acts the way they want. They will become more sexually attractive in general, which would actually raise sexual attraction. If they would actually be selfish. Of course, there's a balance to this, right? You know, I look at my dad sometimes who attracted a narcissist in his life, which is my ex stepmom. Even though that's like the people pleaser verse, the narcissists, and a lot of times that'll be the attraction.

It's actually because the narcissist has something to teach the people pleaser. It sounds crazy right now, of course, the narcissist is the complete another end of the spectrum, the unethical and unbalanced and dark side of the spectrum who is treating and gaslighting people and all of that. However, what the people pleaser can learn or the nice guy can learn from the narcissist is take a little bit of a taste of what they do and how they are and apply it in your own life. Start to fill up your own cup. Start to be a little bit selfish, do what you want to do a site. That's why that polarity is there. That's why they attract each other. That's why I believe my dad attracted my ex narcissistic except mom. What my dad could learn is how to have boundaries, how to be okay with saying no to things he doesn't want to do.

As the people pleaser or the nice guy, when it started to be selfish and to do what you want to do, people would respect you more. Hey, can you help me do this? Do you want to come to do this? Come out tonight. You're like, oh, I don't really want to go out. But I guess I make now I need to because I want to be, I want their validation and approval. I don't want to let them down because you didn't want to let down your parent when you were a kid. But the key to this is learning that you can say no. By saying, no, you are actually saying yes to something else. If you say no to doing something you don't want to do, what are you actually saying? Yes to? You're saying yes to yourself. You're saying yes to your own happiness.

The other thing that nice guys need to learn to do and people pleasers in general is to be okay with tension, tension creates attraction, tension. Tension is having boundaries. What is okay? What is not okay. Being okay with that pool of energy. Instead of trying to please it's focused on its focused on the self is focused on making yourself happy. Of course, there's a balance to this. It doesn't mean becoming a narcissist, but what you need to hear as a nice guy where a people pleaser right now is to be a little selfish and by selfish, I mean, as a negative word for it, but to put the energy on you and what you want, you will then be more attractive. People will respect you more and be able to hold tension. Think about any movie you've ever watched. What makes it a great movie?

There is probably some type of tension in there. What's going to happen at the end. What's the main character going to do any, if you were to watch a sports game and the game and say you watch a basketball game and it's 95 to 12. You're not, you don't really even care to watch the end of it. Because you know, one, team's getting blown out. If you go to a basketball game, people will leave like in third. Cause it's that boring? There's no tension, but it's there's if it's like 96 to 94 and then it's from 97 to 1996 and then it's 196, like 97. It's like, it keeps bumping up and down. That's tension, tension creates attraction. What the nice guy has to do is be okay with tension. He says, Hey, you want to go here, go do this. Actually, I don't want to do that.

But yeah, nice guy. I would never say no. The people-pleaser would never say no if you are okay if you can become okay, but you see the tension growing up with the parent pleasing or the abandonment, the tension met as a survival mechanism that I want to lose love. I'm going, I'm going to become less. But if you were to be okay with tension, it's realizing there's good tension, good tension creates sexual attraction, telling someone, telling someone what you think, touching someone sometimes the nice guy to be afraid to touch someone that they're attracted to because it's like, Oh, they might reject me. When you start to become aware of these different aspects, that you have been afraid of tension because you've associated attention that it's bad because your parent may have been withholding their love or the abandonment. Then you can start to see that you can be an intention.

You can say no to people. You don't necessarily want to go hang out with and everything's going to be okay because your sense of worthiness does not come from them. It comes from within. This is the key. This is the key to transformation. The key to this though first off is becoming aware of this process, becoming aware of the story that you tell yourself about your past. One of the most powerful things you could do is to complete the past. If you complete the past, you no longer have to repeat the past. There's a meditation that when I began to do I let go of the pattern of ever attracting someone like my ex stepmom and know my life again because after my stepmom left, I attracted an ex-girlfriend that was similar to her and then a manager at a department at Nordstrom's that I used to work at.

Once I did this meditation, it let go of those patterns. I became aware of them. I completed the past. I no longer had to repeat the past. There's a meditation I have on completing the past. It's one of my most popular meditations. Let's do it for 21 days and watch how your life changes.

The Universe will Manifest FOR You when you do these 3 things…

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What if the universe could manifest for you and your ego didn't have to do so much. In this blog, I'm going to show you three ways to have the universe manifest for you and how this has absolutely transformed my life. I'll be sharing with you those three things that when I applied in my life, made the manifestation process so much easier because then things would actually happen for me because the energy dynamic was on point. Let me share with you the first one. The first one has to do with that of understanding this difference between our energy being completely 100% in something that we are doing. You see, we're always putting out a frequency. We're always putting out energy and the universe is able in a way to see how dedicated we are to what our vision is, how much we are putting our energy in it vibrationally, and this is a lot of times what happens though is we get a direct reflection from the universe, from reality in general, we get a 100% direct reflection of our own energy and our commitment to our own vision.

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What happens is if we are one foot in and one foot out, then we are sending the message in a way that we put out is what we get back. We are getting back the feedback from reality that yes we are one foot in, one foot out and if we were to just put both feet into it, we would then have the experience that we want. We would get more of that reflection. That's exactly what happened to me when I was in the first six months. I was on YouTube, I was on YouTube and I was making a video, one video a week, and I was getting not great results necessarily after like four or five months, I think I maybe had like 2000 subscribers or 1500 subscribers or something. There were different ways I would market my videos, but one thing I'd do is I'd like to comment on other people's YouTube channels and the ad like valuable advice.

From them seeing me add this valuable advice, they would then come to follow me. But it wasn't like I was getting that organic growth that I wanted from my YouTube channel. If you remember me from the very early days, some people remember me as the guy that was commenting on so many other YouTube videos. That was the way that I grew the first six months I was on YouTube. But then what I realized is that I had to invest more of my energy into it. There was like this realization I had that if I were to make a video every single day on YouTube and commit to it, and I say this to people sometimes treat your side hustle like your full time vibrationally. Like, do it as if it's your full time. Even if you have another job.

Keep in mind, I had a nine to five job selling women's shoes, so I'd go in for 40 hours a week plus make daily videos when I committed to that. Once I made that commitment to go vibrationally all in, that's when things started to happen. Within two or three weeks I had a video went viral. That video was on how to reprogram the subconscious mind. It was this really cringy video almost where my eyes were like doing this thing and I still see it on the channel. It's actually got like, you know, continues to do very well. But, that's the video that really took my channel from like a couple of thousand subscribers to 20,000 in one month. That's what it took. But that was the universe telling me, okay, you've committed to this vision 100% now I'll give you a direct reflection of it.

Not 99% committed. You need to be completely committed to your vision, completely committed to being that kind of person. When you're being that kind of person, you'll find that then you get a new reflection in life. The first step to this process of allowing the universe to manifest for you is making sure that you are vibrationally doing your part. I get it because for a long time in my own life. I'd be somebody that would like literally I'd be somebody like sit on the couch right over there. What I would do is I would sit there and I'd be like, I'm going to, I would sit there and visualize what I wanted to create my life. There really was no point. We'd take it off the camera. I was going to show you the couch out here because I'm like, Oh, that's a very nice couch by the way.

This is the last day in Costa Rica. After this I go to Miami, I go to a conference, and then go back to Vegas. I just wanted to get a little bit more context from this blog. I used to be somebody that considered myself part of myself. The image was that I was kind of a lazy person hoping that things were given to me and then I decided to commit to the vision vibrationally, which included taking action and making the daily videos. Since then you've seen it. The channel has gone from 33,000 subscribers to now over almost 800,000 subscribers from this one principle of committing to the vision. Right now, ask yourself, is there something in your life that you can commit to 100% do you find you're not getting the results you want?

You're like thinking of what I really, really want this. But and then you'd have a button and then you take some of your energy out of it. I encourage you to put 100% of your energy into it. The second way to have the universe manifest for you, and by the way, when you start committing to it vibrationally, then the universe will start bringing you more things. It will start. It's like you didn't work in concert with it because you're doing your part from the physical level. Then the universe can give you and show you opportunities and give you synchronicities. I just want kind of show that dynamic as well. The second part of having the universe manifests for you, I'd say, is the most powerful concept that I've ever come across. Let me share with you a little bit of a story.

I shared this story a couple of times before, but this is actually how I manifested the house that I used to live in. In Las Vegas. I wanted this house to rent and it was right when I started making good money from YouTube and from, you know, my business, and I was starting to get to the point where okay, I can get myself a nice place, a place that I'm really passionate about. In Vegas, there was that the rental market recently and just in the last couple of years it's been pretty hot. When a house goes on in the rental market, it goes pretty quickly. What happened was as I was looking around, looking around and looking around for different houses, I finally after two or three houses that I kind of liked, I found the house that I really liked.

It came on the market. I saw the house the same day I go to it and it's this big one-story house that big, not huge, but it was plenty big for what I needed. I needed, I wanted a house with a separate office. I wanted a house with a meditation room and then my master bedroom and then maybe an extra room for like podcasting or something else. I found that for some reason I like one-story houses. I don't know if it's because I'm lazy to walk up the stairs. I don't know what it is. I like bigger one-story houses versus smaller two-story houses like smaller square feet, but two stories if that makes sense. I found this house, I walk around, it's got the perfect vibe. It's got even like Zen statues in places cause the owners that lived in it before their furniture was still there.

It looks staged perfectly. Wood floors, real open layout, which I really enjoy. A perfect office space. Its kind of like on the other side of the house, which kind of lets me a separate house and word backyard has grass, which is very rare and Vegas has a pool, has nice grass in the front yard. It's in a gated community. Everything about it I loved. Well, I was then starting to put it on a pedestal. I really, really wanted it. I realized is I was giving it too much importance. what happened was I went to apply for the house, I put in a rental application. I was told by the real estate agent that there were four or five other, no, I think there were four other rental applications already submitted. I was one of five people that were applying for this house.

I realized, okay, there's a little bit of competition for this house. Well, then what I did is I switched the focus to something that I learned from a book called reality trans surfing, which is a very powerful process that has to do with all go ahead and link a playlist. I look played this called reality Chaun reality trips, everything. I'll link that in top of the description box below and put an end card or a little card thing for it here as well. it's one of the most powerful manifestation processes I've ever found. It has to do with quantum physics and has to do with understanding more of the energy of the universe. There's a scene called outer intention. I remember learning about it. The outer intention has to do with understanding. There are two types of intention. There's inner intention.

The inner intention is my own egos intention. Then there's the outer intention, which in a way is other people's inner intention. But when you have an intention of adding value, then what happens is that links up with the inner intention of other people and that gets them to then in a way get value, creates a win scenario. What I did is I didn't focus not on how bad I wanted the house because it would make me feel better. I focused on how it would actually serve the landowners for me to live there. What I mean by that is I would not have pets, I would not have a lot of people over cause I'm very focused on my business. I travel a lot so I wouldn't even be home all the time. What I did is I wrote them a letter that said, Hey, I love your house.

It's beautiful. I would love to live in it for a year. Let me let you know a little bit about myself. I work from home. I will be traveling a lot. I don't have pets. This is very clean. I never had somebody ask for pictures of the current house. I was living in like, I'm moving out of that house. Why did you pictures that made me know that they really value somebody that's clean? Even though I wasn't using it, it was in a furnished place. They wanted me to be clean. I really emphasized I was very clean. The pictures I sent them were a very clean house, which I naturally a very clean person anyways. I even when I was so far as to say that I want to live in this house because I believe I'll be able to make amazing content in this house that will impact a lot of people in the world. Having that intention and I even imagined the house itself had an intention for me to live there because I would appreciate it so much and it'd be something that I would really value. In a way, everything is energy. Having that perspective I believe helped me allow the universe to manifest for me because then it's in a way you give everything energy in a positive meaning that then out of all five people, I was the one that got the house.

I lived there for a year, a little over a year, and it was amazing. You've probably seen other YouTube videos of me with that house in the background. This is the Airbnb to Tamarindo Costa Rica right now. However, it is understanding we're all connected. When you add value to someone else, you add value to another aspect of you and then that can come back to you. You see, this is something I also learned from this guy named Thomas Campbell who is like a quantum physicist type guy. He's a physicist. I don't remember what kind of physicists, but he talks a lot about the energy system that we live in. We live in an energy system and the way this energy system works is we're all connected and when we add value and we do it with the pure intention, the universe will bring us more and more resources in order to complete it, to continue that energy cycle.

Because I've been making daily videos on YouTube as well, and I have the intention of adding value, I believe, because it's primarily the intention of adding value to other people. These ideas just keep coming to me and it just, it's like a, it's easier and easier for me to add value because the universe brings me this. It's a lot of these videos I do almost all of them. It's me bringing through information. It's not the ego, Aaron, it's me getting into a flow state and allowing this information through. The more you have the intention of adding value, the more you'll find that the universe just gives you more and more resources. The third thing I want to talk about is also very powerful. It's simply understanding that your ego does not have to do everything. You can allow the universe to work for you and you need to trust in the process itself.

I can't tell you how many times there's been something I really, really wanted and then I realized that my ego may think it really, really wants it, but maybe the universe has something even better. It's stored for me. Maybe what we could call it, the higher self. My higher self has something better in store for me. If I simply trust that process, it then allows even better things in my life. Something that I do for that is meditation. When you apply meditation as well if vibrationally allows you to then sync to that vibration. This is about trusting the universe and understanding that when you trust the universe, the universe can then bring you more and more things. But what you have to do is learn to let go of the outcome. One thing I have is one of the most powerful meditations for doing this. It's literally called the most powerful meditation for trusting the universe and letting go of the outcome. I'm going to link it in the description box below. I'm going to put it as an end card right here as well. Listen to that meditation for 21 days and watch how your life begins to change.

The Personality Shift that changed your Personal Reality Forever

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Do you ever get tired when your friends are like, Hey, do you want to go sniff warm Saturday? Doesn't that sound like a lot of fun to go sniff glue, as the good old days? Like we always used to sniff glue. Do you want to go and do that? You're over there. Like, no, I want to better my life. I want to read some books. I want to become the best version of me that I could possibly be. Then when you tell them that they look at you and they go, bro, who are you, even more, you've changed, bro. You might feel guilty or you might not. In this video, I'm going to show you the number one personality trait that will allow you and really change your life forever. But this is the one personality trait that will allow you to attract your dream life and anything you want. 

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I'm going to be sharing with you the truth on the number one personality trait that changes everything. Okay. Are you guys ready for this? This is next-level stuff. Honestly, real talk right now, this BLOG, I think has the potential to completely change your life. If you actually apply what I'm going to be giving you a prescription in this BLOGtowards transforming your life. It's what I did when for being in this nine to five job selling women's shoes to then doing what I love full time from having ADHD to still have an ADHD, but being able to focus really well, not just getting, I don't have an HD anymore. 

I let go of that part of my identity and I haven't taken Adderall since 2012, many of you know the story if you've been watching my videos, but for those of you that are new, this is my story. Yay. Another aspect of that is feeling worthy because of unworthy because of the past and having that really way down and attracting the same situations over and over again, to then changing and being able to have a completely new reality where you feel 100% worthy, whole and complete. Anything that you are experiencing that is more negative than you don't prefer to experience. It's because it's a program, it's a program. It is wired into your sense of identity. You think it's a part of you. You are. Here is the thing that changes everything. When you become aware of it. 

I'm not going to, I used to back in the day, I would make videos and I would wait for a while to get to the point. I'm not gonna do that today. The one personality trait, but I promise you it's a very powerful video. Personality creates your personal reality first off. If you want to change your life, you have to change your personality. The number one trait that is going to completely transform your life is if you realize that your personality one, it's not permanent personality, not permanent. It is flexible. Your personality is flexible. You can change at any moment. Think about this. When people go and what they do is they go to a party, they drink a little bit of liquid courage. Then they have all this courage, which is already within them. 

By the way, all they did was release it to give themselves permission, let go of the filter and give themselves permission to feel it. What happens is they give themselves, that's normally a shy person may give themselves permission to then be this fun, loving, outgoing person. What happened there? Well, their personality was flexible because when they are on alcohol, they allow themselves to be this new unfiltered version of themselves. We already know that if people are in need abbreviated, a knee abbreviated, if they are in knee abbreviated, then their flexible knees are flexible. Okay? I'm using metaphors in this video. If you want to change any part of your life, this is the other aspect of it. The current story that you think is permanent. You tell yourself, I am a shy person. I just attract these type of chicks or these type of guys. 

It's a part of my personality. Or you say, well, I can only attract this type of money. I've just not abundant. Well, guess what? Your personality is not permanent. It's flexible. You can change that at any moment. Here's the thing that keeps so many people stuck. What keeps them stuck is they believe it's permanent. They think act and feel the same way over and over and over again. If you think a certain way, you act a certain way and you feel a certain way, you're going to continue to create the same reality over and over and over and over again. What will happen is you'll be in that it'll become your comfort zone and you'll say, well, this is very comfortable. This just feels so comfortable. Eventually what you realize is you to say, well, it's really hard to change because I want to be this like better version of me. 

That's attracting more money and more love and is in like a certain state, but it just doesn't feel natural. Well, the reason it doesn't feel natural is simply that this old way of thinking, acting and feeling this old identity is in a comfort zone. It has become so familiar that it just seems natural. It seems like that's who you are. But here is the thing. What I promote, what I want to help people do is to break out of that box, to break out of that sense of identity and to realize you are so much more than who you have priorly thought and believed and labelled yourself to be and think about it. There are some books out. Maybe you've heard of it. It's called the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz says. What it talks about is how everything is based on agreement at a certain point in our past, we were acting feeling or thinking a certain way. 

What happened is someone said something to us, or we just agreed. Yes, this is who I am. I at one point had ADHD. What happened was then I was, I was feeling like I just had all this energy. Because of my personality, my personality came out a little bit later in life. Maybe I'm overcompensating now by using my eyes really big because for a long time, I couldn't really do that because many of you know, my story from seven to 15 years old, I had that ex stepmom in my life where I had no freedom at all. I wasn't allowed to have friends. I almost had no freedom at all. I had to earn go into school. So, 15 years old comes around. 

All of a sudden, my dad divorces her, my brother and I let our friends again, I'm allowed to have like a, I start to develop a personality. I start having all this energy and people are like, Whoa, where'd all this energy come from. Then what happens is I have that nine to five job. People are like, Oh, it's like hard for me to focus. Sometimes a lot of times it was. What happened is they'd say, Oh, you have ADHD. Then I go to a doctor and the doctor said, Oh, you have ADHD. Here's Adderall. Then I took Adderall, which had very hard side effects.  I agreed that this is true for me. I've seen many other people, somebody, for example, that's in one of my, uh, in some of my coaching programs, she was told that she would never walk again. 

She was told you're going to live in a wheelchair for the rest of your life. If she would have agreed to what the doctor told her because she had a certain type of disease or a certain type of illness that affected her spine and her, her ability to walk. She wouldn't be walking right now. But what she did is she, what she did was she did want to do my meditations and that meditation broke her out of her identity. When that happened, she then found that she was then able to walk again. She had to, she still had to work at it. Wasn't like she just came out of the meditation, just started running around, but she had to work at it. It was in a new possibility of new potential. She didn't realize, wait, this story, not even this story, this reality is flexible. 

I don't have to agree to what this doctor tells me. In the same way, here's that identity, that self-image. The self-image is controlling your life experience. The thing I want to ask you is how do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as worthy of love? Do you see yourself as able to are easily abundant or do you think it's hard? What are your stories about this? What are your stories about who you are? If you believe that who you are is fixed, then your life will be very hard to change. Many successful people have been asked or one trait that many, many successful people have is that they are very adaptable and that they believe things can change. They believe that they can make a difference, do their intention through their focus, through their identity of themselves. Think about this as well. 

People are responding to you based on how you see yourself. If you see yourself as a 76-degree type person, then what'll happen is you're going to, you're going to exude 76 degrees out energy and 76 degrees out body language in 76 degree out eye contact. Then other people are going to respond to you in that way. You're going to go, yeah, I'm a 76 degree, but then what will eventually happen is if you try to go up to 80 degrees, it'll feel a little bit of a natural for a while. You may feel a little bit more timid and you may feel a little more vulnerable than somebody look at you go, you're not 80 degrees, or you're a 76 or go back to your place and you're gonna be like, yeah, you're right. Then I was like, okay, this is comfortable. 

Again. I can agree with this. But the key is know that it is flexible. If you tune yourself to an 80 degree, you may get for a certain period of time or reflection back in life, where people doubt you, where you get these reflections back. That may be part of your doubts yourself, but you got to remember, you can change. The way you change is by becoming aware of what your current temperature is. Do you view yourself as lazy? Do you view yourself as not worthy? Do you view yourself as hard to attract money or to attract love? If so, then what you gotta do is change that image. It's just an image anyway. The way that you do this, by the way, have you challenged your current self-image? You've challenged it. This current identity to the new identity. Your current identity as a story and the key is that your story about love money, relationships. 

The key to this is unbecoming this current identity by questioning it and seeing how, and when you agree to it, if you're shy if your there's nothing wrong with being an introvert, by the way, but it's just being aware of the stores that you find yourself in social situations, just completely uncomfortable. Then there's something there that you can begin to integrate. Be aware of your stories about money, love, what you're worthy of, and then realize once you become aware of it is then you, a lot of times you realize that it's not really you, it's not really natural. What you can do is realize that you can then be this new version of you. Imagine the future version of you. How does the future version of you, maybe it's the 80-degree version of you? How does that version of you think feel and act? 

How do you carry yourself? What kind of books do you read? What's your morning routine. Like now imagine that version of you and realize it already exists. If you can imagine it, it already exists. There's this light. That's kind of poking on me right now and I kind of want to move, but it almost owned the video. Okay, there we go. Just be this version of you. Now, the bridge to this is going to be what you do, what you do as a part of your identity. You always act equal to the way you see yourself. When I started making daily videos on YouTube, that was me bridging Mike reality of nine to five job, not doing what I like selling women's shoes to then doing what I love, which I had to then do it and do it not because of what it'll get me to do it because it's who I am. 

If you want to become an artist, the moment you start is the moment you are. It, you are an artist. It's not like you have to do it for seven years. You're an artist. Do it and see it as a part of your identity. Bridge it and get out of your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is how you think feel and act are on a autopilot. You do the same things. You feel the same emotions and you think the same way you're going to get the same result. But if you do an act of something that breaks you out of your comfort zone, you're going to be getting to come free. This is what we call a stretch experience, do something you've never done before that breaks you out of your old identity. I used to tell myself a story that it is hard for me to make videos in front of other people. 

When I started making YouTube videos, I lived at my dad's house and I'd be nervous because I'd be like, well, if it does good, it probably thinks the stuff I'm talking about. Weird. I'd be in the backyard. You want to know how I broke that. I created a stretch of experience. I got out of my comfort zone and realize this old era that really cares what people think. Is it natural? It's not really who I am. What I did is I went to the Las Vegas trip. I walked from what, like the Bellagio. I walked through malls. I walked inside through stores talking and wearing headphones. But I was talking to the video. 

I was talking to the camera, and I was talking about like esoteric, weird stuff that I was worried about. People were going to judge me for after I did that, I did that for probably about 45 minutes after I did that. I was like, I got nothing to worry about. Most people only care about themselves. They only focused on themselves, but secondly, it just doesn't matter. I started my own movie. I'm not the cameo trying to make everyone else happy. I want to fit in their comfortable little spot. Create an experience that takes you out of your comfort zone and you will expand your personality, but the most powerful way to transform your life is as well to imagine the best possible version of you, the future version of you, how do you think to feel, and act? 

What are your daily activities? Like? What is your daily routine like your morning routine? Like what kind of books do you read? Simply decides that that is you now. Begin to create reference experiences, Bridgette, by what you do and decide. This is who I am. Find one thing you could do every single day. That'll change your life the most. If you do it every day, that's what I did with YouTube videos. That's why my life has transformed so much. But the most important thing you got to remember is that your personality is completely flexible. That's it. Once you realize that your whole entire life will begin to change. If you want to meditate to change your self-image, it's one of the most powerful meditations I've ever made. Listen to this for 21 days, watch how it transforms your life. 

7 Ways to Raise Your Vibration PERMANENTLY (life changing)

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I'm not just going to tell you how to raise your vibration to the next level permanently. I'm going to actually show you in this blog, how to raise your vibration to a completely new level so that things manifest easier than ever. You're in the right place. At the right time, you experience more synchronicity. You have more magnetic energy and life just happens with more flow. At the end of this blog, you're going to know exactly how to do that. Today, I'm going to be showing you and sharing it with you. How to seven ways you can raise your vibration permanently to a new level. First off you may have seen this.

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First off, the chart, shame, fear, anger, neutrality, willingness reason, love joy, peace, enlightenment. What happens is, as you raise your vibration, the more lap magical life becomes a lot of raising your vibration is letting go of what doesn't serve. When you let go of what doesn't serve, that's when you raise your vibration out, understand that your vibration does naturally high. The only reason you don't feel like it is because there are some attachments to lower vibrational. Things could be lower vibrational people that you're around. It could be lower vibrational foods. You're reading lower vibrational emotions that you're feeling that you're attaching to that you think are you instead of processing them and letting them go. The key to this is raising your vibration and letting go of what doesn't serve. When I went through my transformation back in 2012, I let go of my painful past.

I reframed it. A lot of the bottom emotions are about reframing. The things that have happened in the past reframing was we feel anger or fear. There's an attachment to some perspective. When you become aware of that, you can then let it go. As you reframe it, I reframed my painful past and realize that it led to my spiritual awakening. All that energy then propelled me into higher States. As you do certain things, it changes everything. There are seven main things that can permanently change your vibration of which if you follow even three or four of them, that I guarantee you, they will change your life. The first one has to do with simply following your passion thought. I know it's cliché as it sounds. Let me show you a little bit. Every single day. What I do is I get up and this is one of the first things I do.

This right here will diva ring land right over here. I get up right here and this is what I do now. This is what a lot of people don't know. Don't maybe aren't aware of, but when you are doing what you're passionate about, you're in your core vibration. When I started making daily videos, I always tell people this, in order for you to do your passion full time, you must first treat it as your full time. It will eventually become your full time. I was working that nine to five job, and I literally made videos every single day before I even had an audience. Because I was in that vibration, I was following that passion. My vibration was raising. At first, I was reading, I was reading a thing about this last night. There's like a book called the war of art or something like that.

When I was reading it, it said that resistance will come up when there's a deep love for something, you may feel a lot of resistance come up. That's because that resistance is trying to show you that there's a lot underneath, but all you have to do is push through it. I felt a lot of resistance. When I first started making YouTube videos, it's like, I'm looking into a camera. This feels kind of weird. I was making videos and, and it just, it didn't feel natural, but it just wasn't comfortable yet. It wasn't familiar. But once I pushed through that resistance so much happen. One of the ways you can raise your vibration the most is by following your passion. When you follow your passion, you're not attached to the outcome. How things happen. What you'll find happens is that by just following your passion, more and more synchronicity brings up.

When you follow your passion for the sake of following your passion, magic happens when you follow your passion because of something else, that's going to get you some magic may happen, but you'll find that there's a lot of resistance there. You have to do it because it's who you are. I make daily videos even years after I started making daily views on YouTube back in 2017. I do it because it's who I am. Following your passion, think of your passion, you doing what you're passionate about is the highest possible frequency you can be in. What happens is when you're doing what you're passionate about, and it could be small, it could even be things like, you know, you're passionate about walking your dog.

You're passionate about reading certain books, whatever you're passionate about. It doesn't have to be some overarching thing of your whole life. That's like, this is the one thing I'm going to do forever. I'm passionate about making videos right now. Eventually, I'm going to be passionate about doing live events like the way in which I express my passion is going to change. But here's the thing when you're following that passion, you're in a higher vibrational state, and then it allows these things to come up so you can look at them and, and let them go.

3 Things You MUST Know About the Rest of 2020

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As you can probably see, there is a lot going on in the world. A lot of this has to do with the energy that is changing on the planet that is changing in our own individual personal lives as well. In this blog, I'm going to share with you the three things you must know about the rest of 2020, about the energy and things to look out for that are extremely important. I'm going to be sharing it with you. Some honestly, I'll be opening up and sharing with you some of the personal themes that I'm going through right now in my life, but also just some things that I see that are also happening in the collective consciousness. For those of you that don't know, I believe what is happening is something called the great awakening.

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The great awakening you might look around and you might say, well, there are so many things that are happening in the world that are kind of tearing apart. There are some negative things that happen. How could there be a great awakening happening? Well, actually recently that have Eckhart Tolle. Many of you may know Eckhart Tolle wrote the book, the power of now seeing if I have the book, I don't think I do actually it's in my Kindle, the book, the power of now. He talked about it. He was on a Russell brand's podcast recently, and he said that a lot of the stuff that's happening in the world right now is spawning awakenings inside of people. It is something that I have noticed. It is something that is just happening because so many people are questioning things. There are things happening in the government.

There are people who are starting to realize how skewed the media is and when that stuff's happening, people are then going within themselves and saying something feels off here. For those of you that haven't seen my great awakening videos. I talk about how the media keeps us in a certain level of consciousness that when fear and we're much more easy, able to be controlled. Well, what's happened is people are waking up to this. People are waking up and they're taking their power back. On the collective level, what is happening is so much of the old paradigms are breaking down. As the old paradigms break down, we can then lay out something to be new, but there've been people that have been, you know, this will sound kind of conspiracy theory, Ash, but there've been people that have been in power for such a long time, even behind people.

We may have never seen before we call them, do you lead? What happened is they may have had power for such a long time that now what they're doing is kind of like their last cards to try to keep us separated from each other, to keep us in fear and anger. Then they can in a way control in the way that they are desperately trying to, because too many people are waking up. In an energetic sense, there's so much light that is being brought onto the planet that it is bringing up the collective shadow. It is bringing up the shadow within us, for us to become aware of and for us to then let go of. The amount of control is to try to keep Vern the elite or whatever we call it is to keep us at a certain level of consciousness so that we're much easier to control.

We're much more likely to give up our power and to listen to authority when you're in fear, you crave certainty. You know, there's a, there's definitely a lot of patterns there. If you look at a lot of what's happening in the world. One of the most important things though is to be able to observe and to not react what's happening in the world. Because if you're watching this blog, then you're someone that we could call a Lightworker and a Lightworker is somebody that came here to hold lights, to become aware, and go through the spiritual awakening in a way first. The energy-momentum begins to build. More and more people can go through it. A lot of people are tripping out about the news and talking to everything that's happening. You may have like a sensor and knowing that there's something else going on, maybe you're meditating, whatever you're doing, you're adding value by being you.

The reason I say you're a Lightworker is you can't perceive that you can only perceive that, which you're the vibration of. You're reading this blog right now, and I chose to say that. The three things you must know for the rest of 2020 now, the first one I'm actually going to do, I'm going to switch these around a little bit. The first one is the let go of old attachments right now. I've been having an attachment to a couple of things in my life. One is control. I've been controlling having a certain amount of willpower, and I'm noticing that this new energy of 2020 it's about re surrendering and allowing things to happen versus trying to control it so much. It's almost like the old way of going about manifestation, the old way of going about achieving your goals doesn't really work anymore.

What I'm finding is that what I need to do is to let go, and as I let go, I allow much more magic into my life. I've realized this when it comes to even like old relationships and in a way as well, I've been going back and forth, knowing that it's just time to let go. It's time to let go and to move on. It makes it so much easier once you start to really tap into the energy. But I think a lot of people are being shown right now and given like opportunities to go down one route or the other, and maybe one route is very comfortable.

This Meditation will SHIFT You to The Most Optimal Timeline INSTANTLY (WARNING NO GOING BACK)

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The most optimal timeline is the one where we are more smoothly moving into this higher level of consciousness. It's paradoxical because when you look around, you could be like, it doesn't look like we're shifting to a higher vibrational state of consciousness, bro. There are all these things falling apart. There's a lot of people that were going through these challenges, but here's the thing, things break down before we can build up. In order for us to be on the most optimal timeline, the key is actually raising our vibration. Our vibration is a level of consciousness and the thing is with our vibration is you don't have to try to get to a higher level of vibration. You have that of fear, anger, neutrality, willingness reasoning, the intellect of the mind, love joy, peace, and enlightenment. The idea and the understanding are that you are naturally high vibration.

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The only reason you experience anything less than that is because of some form of attachment to a low vibrational thing. Whether that's a low vibrational outcome, a low vibrational expectation, low vibrational people that are draining your energy. These are things that keep you in a low vibe. When you're in a low vibe, you're much easier to control. You're much in more, you're in a lot more chaos. There's a lot less uncertainty. There's a lot more lack of clarity. The energy is very dispersed and what is happening right now when it comes to these is so many people are waking up on the planet that it is causing all these old systems to break down. We have things like racism completely outdated idea was never really in fashion. Anyways, it was just something that was out of a lack of awareness, something that was exercised and practice.

What we're learning is that those are out of date. It's not re it's not anything that we need to continue to have within our collective consciousness. It's coming up to the surface for us to finally let go of, and in the same way, there's also another, we call the hidden enemy. People, elite people that understand how society and psychology works. What they do is that they keep people in fear and anger. They're much more willing to give up control. They're much more willing to be a, to say yes to vaccines, to say yes to curfew, to give up their power to have martial law. These are, these are different ways that that works, but so many people are waking up. The more optimal timeline is by us raising our vibration. What Bashar recently said is some of you may have seen that video is the more we individually raise our vibration.

The more optimal timeline, the more, a high vibrational collective we're going to shift to. It's just really up to us and raising our vibration and something that I have decided to do because I want us to be in the most optimal timeline. I believe in a group dynamic, it can be very powerful is I've made something called the 21 days, raise your vibration challenge. If you're watching this right now, then right, is open enrollment. You can go into that of a, my bio and you could go into the link tree. You'll see it there. You can join the 21 days, raise your vibration challenge. We will be raising our vibrations practically. This isn't just theory. This engine just cool ideas. 21 days in a row, you'll get video lessons and step by step processes of things you do. You hold yourself accountable for, and you, you show proof of that in the Facebook group, because it's community thing of raising your vibration.

This is practical. This is something that wires in a part of your identity of being a high vibrational person so that we all end up on the most optimal timeline. We also raise our vibration. The goal is to raise your vibration up to a solid eight or nine out of 10. That's exactly what I'll show you how to do all the hacks from my own life to give you clarity, passion, momentum. These are things that we're going to be focused on in the 21 day. Raise your vibration challenge. I would love for you to join me. You go to my link tree right now in my bio and joined the 21 day. Raise your vibration challenge, and this will help us to all be on the most optimal timeline.

Read This Blog to Meet Your Future Self (you’ll never be the same)

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In this blog, you are going to meet your future self and understand that when you do and you begin to model the behavior and you begin to be that future version of you, you also begin to see that reality reflection begins to happen in your life. In this blog, I think, is pivotal, and being able to transform your life at the end of this blog, you'll know exactly what to do, what steps to take, and the process for you becoming your future self now so that your reality begins to shift. Today, I'm going to help you shift your consciousness to a new version of you. Here is the thing about the future version of you. There's not just one. All right, there is a future version of you that is living your dream life.

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That is doing exactly what you want to be doing for a living. It's in the perfect relationship that has an abundance, that version of you exists. But at the same time, there's a version of you that is doing just about the same exact thing you're doing right now. That is staying on that timeline. Here is the insidious thing about that. Most people are living in what is comfortable. They're living in familiar thoughts, familiar feelings, familiar actions. They're doing the same things every day. Therefore, they're getting the same result. You may have heard of Joe Dispenza. Talk about this. It's a common thing. It's just quantum physics. It's if you do the same thing, stink the same things. Feel the same way every day. You're going to get the same result on autopilot. What has happened is people have become so familiar with it that their future self is pretty much the Sur the current self that they are normally a little bit declined, actually, to be honest with you, because when you become a kind of bored and stagnate and you're not growing, you kind of tend to move down just to tap.

There is also a future, a version of you that exists right now. This is what I did. Many of you may know my story. This is what I did to be doing. My life that I'm in right now is I literally was walking, living, working, you know, the story if you've been watching my videos. But if you have been watching my videos, I was walking from, I was living at my dad's house, trying to make it on YouTube. I was working nine to five jobs on woman's shoes. I was literally, I just had this intuitive feeling. I was walking from my bedroom into the, going to the bathroom. As I was walking there, I just had this intuitive feeling. This almost like the message, I feel like it literally was a message. It intuitively said, if you make a video every single day, moving forward for a year, your life will completely transform.

At the moment, I felt that and I just decided, I just decided the bridge between the current reality, you're into your future identity to you, having that future reality is a decision. It's a choice about who you are. Then what I did is I made that choice. I want to make daily videos on YouTube, no matter what, even though I'm working 40 hours a week at this job, I don't like selling women's shoes. I was very busy. I did that though. I'd go home every day, make a video, schedule a video to go out and go to bed and then wake up and do it over again with that vision in mind because that is my future.  I felt like I got a message from my future identity. Then as I wired that in, that became a part of myself.

Then eventually within six months, I was able to put in my two weeks, the last day I worked was the Connor McGregor McConnell. It's wholesale hard to say that, because I know I've told this story many times, but, but it's the, it's the Floyd Mayweather, Connor McGregor boxing match. That was my last day of work. I knew I wanted to work that day because it'd be very busy. I put my two weeks in and I scheduled to open that day so I could still watch the fight. That was my last day. Never had to work a job again. It was because I became that future version of me. We can either use our imagination in this blog right now you can use your imagination to imagine that future version of you. This is the step by step process that I'm talking about.

You can imagine that version of you and imagine one message that that version of you has for you. There's a future version of you. That's living your dream life. If you imagine what that is and it's like, doesn't have to be perfect. It can change a little bit as you go to, but what would be the one message that you get? Let's do that together right now. Literally this is a transformational type exercise to do. I did this to become full time on YouTube. I live in a cool house. I do what I love. I travel the world. I do. I work when I want to get up this morning. I make it a video because I love making videos. If I were to imagine the future version of me, cause there's, there are different layers to it. It's cool. I live my dream life. But the next version of me I imagine is doing live events. It's traveling the world. It's doing group activities in person, not just online. As I imagined this future version of me, I can close my eyes and I c

The #1 Personality Shift that will change your life forever

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Do you ever get tired when your friends are like, Hey, do you want to go sniff warm Saturday? Doesn't that sound like a lot of fun to go sniff glue, as the good old days? Like we always used to sniff glue. Do you want to go do that? Then you're over there. Like, no, I want to better my life. I want to read some books. I want to become the best version of myself that I could possibly be. Then when you tell them that they look at you and they go, bro, who are you, even more, you've changed, bro. You might feel guilty or you might not.

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Today, I'm going to show you the number one personality trait that will allow you and really change your life forever. But this is the one personality trait that will allow you to attract your dream life and anything you want. I'm going to be sharing with you the truth on the number one personality trait that changes everything. Okay. Are you guys ready for this? This is next-level stuff. Honestly, real talk right now, this blog, I think has the potential to completely change your life. If you actually apply what I'm going to be giving you a prescription in this blog towards transforming your life. It's what I did when for being in this nine to five job selling women's shoes to then doing what I love full time from having ADHD to still have an ADHD, but being able to focus really well, not just getting, I don't have an HD anymore.

I let go of that. That part of my identity and I haven't taken Adderall since 2012, many of you know the story if you've been watching my videos, but for those of you that are new, this is my story. Yay. Another aspect of that is feeling worthy because of unworthy because of the past and having that really way down and attracting the same situations over and over again, to then changing and being able to have a completely new reality where you feel 100% worthy, whole and complete. Anything that you are experiencing that is more negative than you don't prefer to experience. It's because it's a program. It is wired into your sense of identity. You think it's a part of you. You are. Here is the thing that changes everything. When you become aware of it.

Back in the day, I would make videos and I would wait for a while to get to the point. I'm not going to do that today. The one personality trait, but I promise you it's a very powerful video. I just, I'm going to lead with that. Personality creates your personal reality first off. If you want to change your life, you have to change your personality. The number one trait that is going to completely transform your life is if you realize that your personality one, it's not permanent personality, not permanent. It is flexible. Your personality is flexible. You can change at any moment. When people go and what they do is they go to a party, they drink a little bit of liquid courage. Then they have all this courage, which is already within them.

By the way, all they did was release it to give themselves permission, let go of the filter and give themselves permission to feel it. What happens is they give themselves, that's normally a shy person may give themselves permission to then be this fun, loving, outgoing person. What happened there? Well, their personality was flexible because when they are on alcohol, they allow themselves to be this new unfiltered version of themselves. We already know that if people are in need abbreviated, a knee abbreviated, if they are in knee abbreviated, then their flexible knees are flexible. Okay? I'm using metaphors in this blog. If you want to change any part of your life, this is the other aspect of it. The current story that you think is permanent. You tell yourself, I am a shy person. I just attract these type of chicks or these type of guys.

It's a part of my personality. Or you say, well, I can only attract this type of money. I've just not abundant. Well, guess what? Your personality is not permanent. It's flexible. You can change that at any moment. What keeps them stuck is they believe it's permanent? They think act and feel the same way over and over and over again. If you think a certain way, you act a certain way and you feel a certain way, you're going to continue to create the same reality over and over and over and over again. And then what will happen is you'll be in that it'll become your comfort zone and you'll say, well, this is very comfortable. This just feels so comfortable. Eventually what you realize is you to say, well, it's really hard to change because I want to be this like a better version of me.

That's attracting more money and more love like a certain state, but it just doesn't feel natural. Well, the reason it doesn't feel natural is simply that this old way of thinking, acting, and feeling this old identity is in a comfort zone. It has become so familiar that it just seems natural. It seems like that's who you are. But here is the thing. What I promote, what I want to help people do is to break out of that box, to break out of that sense of identity, and to realize you are so much more than who you have previously thought and believed and labeled yourself to be and think about it. There are some books out. Maybe you've heard of it. It's called the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz says. What it talks about is how everything is based on agreement at a certain point in our past, we were acting feeling or thinking a certain way.

What happened is someone said something to us, or we just agreed. Yes, this is who I am. I at one point had ADHD. What happened was then I was, I was feeling like I just had all this energy. I was expressing it at a nine to five jobs on women's shoes. People because of my personality, my personality came out a little bit later in life. Maybe I'm overcompensating now by using my eyes really big because for a long time, I couldn't really do that because many of you know, my story from seven to 15 years old, I had that ex stepmom in my life where I had no freedom at all. I wasn't allowed to have friends. I almost had no freedom at all. I had to earn go into school.

All of a sudden, my dad divorces her, my brother and I let our friends again, I'm allowed to have like a, I start to develop a personality. I start having all this energy and people are like, Whoa, where'd all this energy come from. Then what happens is I have that nine to five job. People are like, Oh, it's hard for me to focus. Sometimes a lot of times it was. What happened is they'd say, Oh, you have ADHD. And then I go to a doctor and the doctor said, Oh, you have ADHD. Here's Adderall. Then I took Adderall, which had very hard side effects. I agreed that this is true for me. And I've seen many other people, somebody, for example, that's in some of my coaching programs, she was told that she would never walk again.

She was told you're going to live in a wheelchair for the rest of your life. If she would have agreed to what the doctor told her because she had a certain type of disease or a certain type of illness that affected her spine and her, her ability to walk. She wouldn't be walking right now. She then found that she was then able to walk again. She had to, she still had to work at it. Wasn't like she just came out of the meditation, just started running around, but she had to work at it. It was in a new possibility of new potential. She didn't realize, wait, this story, not even this story, this reality is flexible.

I don't have to agree with what this doctor tells me. in the same way, here's that identity, that self-image is controlling your life experience. The thing I want to ask you is how do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as worthy of love? Do you see yourself as able to are easily abundant or do you think it's hard? What are your stories about this? What are your stories about who you are? if you believe that who you are is fixed, then your life will be very hard to change. many successful people have been asked or one trait that many successful people have is that they are very adaptable and that they believe things can change. They believe that they can make a difference, do their intention through their focus, through their identity themselves. Think about this as well.

People are responding to you based on how you see yourself. if you see yourself as a 76-degree type person, then what'll happen is you're going to, you're going to exude 76 degrees out energy and 76 degrees out body language in 76 degrees out eye contact. then other people are going to respond to you in that way. you're going to go, yeah, I'm a 76 degree, but then what will eventually happen is if you try to go up to 80 degrees, it'll feel a little bit of a natural for a while. You may feel a little bit more timid and you may feel a little more vulnerable than somebody look at you go, you're not 80 degrees, or you're a 76 or go back to your place and you're going to be like, yeah, you're right. then I was like, okay, this is comfortable.

Again. I can agree with this. But the key is knowing that it is flexible. If you tune yourself to an 80 degree, you may get for a certain period of time or reflection back in life, where people doubt you, where you get these reflections back. That may be part of your doubts yourself, but you got to remember, you can change. the way you change is by becoming aware of what your current temperature is. Do you view yourself as lazy? Do you view yourself as not worthy? Do you view yourself as hard to attract money or to attract love? If so, then what you got to do is change that image. It's just an image anyways. the way that you do this, by the way, is you challenged your current self-image. You've challenged it. This current identity to the new identity. your current identity as a story and the key is that your story about love money, relationships.

The key to this is unbecoming this current identity by questioning it and seeing how, and when you agree to it if you're shy if your there's nothing wrong with being an introvert, by the way, but it's just being aware of the stores that you find yourself in social situations, just completely uncomfortable. Then there's something there that you can begin to integrate. The other part of this though is to be aware of your stories about money, love, what you're worthy of, and then realize once you become aware of it is then you, a lot of times you realize that it's not really you, it's not really natural. Then what you can do is realize that you can then be this new version of you. Imagine the future version of you. How does the future version of you, maybe it's the 80-degree version of you? How does that version of you think feel and act?

How do you carry yourself? What kind of books do you read? What's your morning routine. Like now imagine that version of you and realize it already exists. If you can imagine it, it already exists. There's this light. That's kind of poking on me right now and I kind of want to move, but it almost owned the video. Okay, there we go. Just be this version of you. The bridge to this is going to be what you do, what you do as a part of your identity. You always act equal to the way you see yourself. When I started making daily videos on YouTube, have a nine to five job, not doing what I like selling women's shoes to then doing what I love, which I had to then do it and do it not because of what it'll get me to do it because it's who I am.

If you want to become an artist, the moment you start is the moment you are. It, you are an artist. It's not like you have to do it for seven years. Then you're an artist. Do it and see it as a part of your identity. Bridge it and get out of your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is how you think feel and act is on autopilot. You do the same things. You feel the same emotions and you think the same way you're going to get the same result. But if you do an act of something that breaks you out of your comfort zone, you're going to be getting to come free. This is what we call a stretch experience, do something you've never done before that breaks you out of your old identity. I used to tell myself a story that it is hard for me to make videos in front of other people.

When I started making YouTube videos, I lived at my dad's house and I'd be nervous cause I'd be like, well, if it does good, it probably thinks the stuff I'm talking about. Weird. I'd be in the backyard. You want to know how I broke that. I created a stretch of experience. I got out of my comfort zone and realize this old era that really cares what people think. Is it natural? It's not really who I am. What I did is I went to the Las Vegas strip. I took this thing that I was walking around and play a little selfie stick. I walked from what, like the Bellagio. I walked through malls. I walked inside through stores talking to that of the wearing headphones. But I was talking to the video.

I was talking to the camera and I was talking about like esoteric, weird stuff that I was worried about. People were going to judge me for after I did that, I did that for probably about 45 minutes after I did that. I was like, I got nothing to worry about. Most people only care about themselves. I started my own movie. I'm not the cameo trying to make everyone else happy. I want to fit in their comfortable little spot. Create an experience that takes you out of your comfort zone and you will expand your personality, but the most powerful way to transform your life is as well to imagine the best possible version of you, the future version of you, how do you think to feel and act?

What are your daily activities? Like? What is your daily routine like your morning routine? Like what kind of books do you read? Simply decide that that is you now. Begin to create reference experiences, Bridgette, by what you do and decide. This is who I am. Find one thing you could do every single day. That'll change your life the most. If you do it every day, that's what I did with YouTube videos. That's why my life has transformed so much. But the most important thing you got to remember is that your personality is completely flexible. That's it. Once you realize that your whole entire life will begin to change. If you want to meditate for changing your self-image, it's one of the most powerful meditations I've ever made.

My Journey of Raising My Vibration… Step-by-step (Spiral Dynamics)

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When I raised my vibration to a new level of consciousness and started to perceive the world in a completely new way, my whole entire life changed and this has happened at many different levels and now that I understand spiral dynamics at a much deeper way, I can see why my life changed so much, how it progress and even deep progress or whatever you call that digressed a little bit, and in this blog, I'm going to show you my personal journey through spiral dynamics.

I've been studying spiral dynamics for the last couple, last probably a month or a month and a half were pretty in-depth. I'm pretty fascinated by the whole entire model of reality. That's really what spiral dynamics is. It's a model for understanding evolutionary psychology and understanding other people and ourselves. I'm going to go through a very quick summary of it. I'm going to be making some connections in this blog of these different colors and when I was in different colors, how I was raised, when I went up, but then had to go back down and then exactly what you can know about this process as well because most likely you are in an orange or green gravity state.

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I'm going to share with you exactly how that works. In general, this is spiral dynamics. To kind of summarize it, what we have at the bottom, the bottom two, they're represented different colors and the bottom color is beige. Beige is the level of consciousness of a baby. It is in survival mode. It is strictly instinctive and relies on the environment, relies on different things for safety and comfort. Then we have purple. Remember every time a color oscillates to the next level, it goes from individual to collective, individual to collective. Beige is an individual as a baby and then purple is collective and it is a tribe mentality. Groups of people, a lot of times this level of consciousness is all about pleasing the gods.

Think of it as base times could have been like cavemen, somebody that is our cavewoman. Some of that's inside of a cave and needs want us to survive. But what happens is eventually might find the other cavemen or women and say, you know what? If we get together, this is a little bit easier to survive. What they do is they then get together and has some people might go hunting, some people may protect the tribe, some people may raise the children. That's the idea. Then we have a tribe mentality. Eventually, what happens though is there'll be certain individuals that decide, you know, all of this tribal stuff, they may feel like certain things aren't fair. They may feel like certain things aren't getting done. They made them want power. The red level is when we start to get into people in our reality now is there are people that are definitely red.

Red is all about control. It is all about competition. It is about power. It's about dictating. When back in the day, and remember this is going back to the individual. So, purple was a group. Red is an individual. That would be like someone like Hitler. Very red criminals are very red. The mafia is very red. The red will take what it wants. People that commit crimes a lot of times could be in a red mentality because if they don't, they don't know how to get what they want. They will just take it. That's the idea behind red. What happened back. If you look at the evolutionary psychology of it is back, we had the tribes and then people decided I want power. Then what they would do is they'd have power and they'd go and maybe dominate other tribes.

That was a certain time in our past history. But then what happened is eventually we evolved to the next color. The next color is once again collective red individual power collective of the group is blue. Blue is about conformity rules, religion, regulation. There's a lot of blue in our current world. A lot of people that are very religious, maybe in a blue mentality and they may even believe that other people need to believe what they believe in order for them to feel safe. Blue is about wanting to feel safe and wanting rules and that back in the day may have been good because then it stopped the tire. Any of certain people that had too much power, but once again, every level has its own limitation that then propels us to the higher levels. So, blue would be that of the regulation rules, religion. There's a lot of countries in the world that may be very blue, maybe Middle East, very much based on tradition.

It's also a level of the high level of tradition and anything that threatens that we feel afraid of in the blue level of consciousness. Eventually though, what happens is you, we may, and I'll explain my story behind this and how I evolved around. I'm just going to finish this up really quick. We eventually in blue we realized, Hey, this is kind of boring. I'm beginning to question the rules. I'm beginning to question tradition. Why do we even do this? This doesn't really resonate with me. They may not use the word resonate, but that's the idea. Then orange is where the like the book think and grow. Rich comes orange is about success, achievement, capitalism, business hustling, hard-working, being a hard worker, marketing science, technology. That's when we'll learn about the law of attraction and we'll want to create our own reality and put hard work in.

When we might though, for example, I used to work for a nine to five company. I used to abide by rules and even that company I worked for, I had a commissioned sale of his job so he could argue that I was maybe bluer, orange. But then eventually I said, you know what? I don't want a job anymore. I want to work for myself. I decided that I was going to read books like that and did make the path for myself. I integrated orange. Eventually though all of this, this is very materialism, this is very much most companies, and marketing today is orange. That's what brings in all the money and all the abundance. Eventually, the other's limitations because eventually an orange. You may get all the money in the world, you may have all the success in the world, but you may still not be happy.

In fact, you may be older and then realize, you know what, this money thing didn't really make me happy. What you do is you realize, Hey, there's the next level of consciousness which is green. Here's the thing is, is normally it's a bitter pill to swallow for someone in orange to then move into green. Because what they must do is realize that Hey, money doesn't equal everything, but sometimes it takes people a while to get there, and then what happens is they let go of that and that's a lot of times when a spiritual awakening will happen.

That's when spiritual awakening happens. That's when you see a lot of really rich people, by the way as well, that then move from orange into the green. They become philanthropists. It's because they're like, Hey, all this money doesn't mean everything. I want to now give to the environment as them becoming a little more orange greenish now then this is all about the hippie movement. This is about like us, you know, maybe smoking a joint, just relax and listen to the Beatles. That was all a very green movement back in the seventies and the thing is, as well as sometimes different colors will trigger different people. For example, the way the orange will see the green person is the orange. We'll look at the green a lot of times and say, Hey, that person's lazy. They're not doing anything. Yes, they love the environment, but what is that doing?

The orange just thinking about themselves in their business. The green looks at the orange and says, Hey, you got to relax man. Why are you taking life so seriously? What are you working so hard for? Don't, you know, the present moment is already perfect, whole and complete. And not only that but when you're an orange, the orange people are destroying the planet. They're trying to grow. Their business is so big so that they can make money, but it's, it's destroying the planet. That's where then these conflicts will happen. Then the green will, the blue, the orange. We'll look at the blue person and be like, I remember when I was blue, I used to be brainwashed and want to work for a company. That's kind of how they're going to do it. I'm not saying this just, I'm just kind of pointing it out now as he raised up, you can't skip a level.

If you do skip a level, you're going to have to go back down. That's what happened to me. I'll share that with you. However, as you move up, you'll normally remember what it's like to be the lower levels. Eventually, we're then in green. Then the last one I'll talk about the kind of is yellow, very little. The turquoise. The limitation of green is that when you're in green you realize that you realize that you can care for the animals, you can care for the environment, you can care all you want, but caring doesn't necessarily get things done. That's when Daniel moved more into yellow and yellow is systems thinking. It's problem-solving and yellow. You're able to understand all perspectives. That's called flex-flow from yellow and above. This is tier-one from the green database is tier one, tier two is yellow and turquoise.

Tier two you are able to adapt to these different levels. Whereas prior you said this is the way reality works. You need to care for the environment. You need to be this way and didn't understand the orange and yellow. You understand all of them because you understand spiral dynamics or at the subconscious level you just get it. This is where then we apply that knowledge and change and remember the collective was the green. It's all about community-saving the planet. We're all about, it's more individual and yellow, very intellectual, very practical, able to see these different perspectives. Then eventually though, then turquoise is kind of like the collective and the environment of enlightenment in a way. It's like you become everything. You don't know that average between who you are and what that is like you and a tree, you don't know the difference you feel as if everything you believe everyone is a reflection of you.

You feel so connected and to everyone you thought one with the environment. Then you also connecting these different pieces together. Everything's already perfect, whole, and complete. Or in yellow, you're trying to fix things and turquoise, everything is perfect, whole, and complete. That's like a level of enlightenment. Here's the thing. We have a gravity, but then we also move. We may be moving towards different colors and we may move down towards different colors as well, but I may have like 50% of my energy and orange, 30% of my energy and grain, and 20% of my energy in yellow. That's probably quite what I think about this. The thing is as we move through at different stages of our life, we may oscillate between different levels. We may let go of certain levels and then move upon. That's kind of what I want to share with you in this blog is these different levels.

I had that of a narcissistic ex step-mom, the narcissist, ex stepmom, between seven and 15 years old. My brother and I did not have very much freedom. We weren't allowed to really eat the food that we wanted. We'd get a bowl here in the morning, TV dinner at night, and she would run the whole entire show. My dad's a fire investigator. He wasn't home very often. My dad had a very blued job. It's funny cause blue-collar jobs anytime times will be also indicative of the blue level of conscious or the blue level of spiral dynamics, conformity rules, regulation. My dad's a fire investigator, so there's a protocol for everything. He's very good at what he does, but he also worked 24-hour shifts, 24 hours on and off. Then that meant that my brother and I were at home a lot with our ex step-mom and she was what we would call a narcissist.

A narcissist is in a red level of consciousness. There is control power. She would bet as far as crime goes, she would bend the rules and bend the truth to make it work in her favor. There were times that she would make, she would say, you're not going to that band camp tournament unless you admit that you did this thing. But the thing is we wouldn't, we didn't do the thing. We'd have to lie and say we did something to then go to like some school activity. And many of the times we were locked, my brother and I were locked outside and not allowed to, not really allowed inside. It was a complete control thing and that was a very narcissist. He was very narcissistic and kind of sociopathic in many ways as well and in order for her to get what she wants in order to retain the power. It's interesting because my dad's very blue.

My dad's still to the state. He's not necessarily religious but he very much is about rules. He's all about doing the right thing. When I look at my dad and my ex, my ex step-mom, red can still influence blue many times. It still does. My dad goes to court against my ex stepmom because they divorced when I was 15 years old when I was 15 then I had all this freedom. My brother and I who's a couple of years younger than me. However, on the other side of that, he still has, I still have two half-sisters that are, that's my ex stepmom's their real mom and then my dad is their dad. The thing is my dad has to go to court sometimes and when he goes to court, guess who will manipulate the truth and completely blatantly lie about things that would-be red. My accent, mom, she will literally say things that never even happened in front of the judge that then she looks better and she will bend the truth. But my dad, he won't play that game because he's like, no, we got to go by the rules. He's also a fire investigator and he goes to court sometimes too if people, you know, started fires and stuff.

Then the judge is like, well, who do I believe? It's interesting because red can still take advantage of these different levels. What I eventually was is I was in growing up, I was in blue for a period of time. You know, I had my dad around me, he was very blue and I always had. I was very much a rebel for much of my life. What eventually happened is I was working a nine to five job that I wasn't passionate about selling women's shoes. It was commissioned sales though, which is kind of cool because that allowed me to be more orange, blue, orange because in orange you have success and achievement. With a commission-based job, I can kind of write my own paychecks in a way. I'd go into work at Nordstrom's, I'd start at zero every day and I'd get paid 10% commission on whatever I sold. I sold two, $3,000 with the shoes, which is an average day. Then I'd make two or 300 bucks. It was kind of cool cause every day I could go in and kind of learn what worked, what didn't work when it comes to, you know, that mindset and what my intentions were. That's when I was living in a way of learning orange. That was when I became very passionate about the law of attraction. Then, I was there for a couple of years. As I look through, I worked at Nordstrom's and women's shoes from until about 2012 when I went through my spiritual awakening. A spiritual awakening happened. Basically, what happened is at the time I was filming a lot of resistance. You may know my story, sorry, I know it's repetitive, but I had ADHD, I was working a job, that job I didn't really care for and I had like a similar pattern that was happening in my life.

I started to question things and I started to realize that I was taking Adderall for ADHD. At nighttime, I'd be spoken a lot of wheat in order to balance out the Adderall. That was kind of what I did in order to get by. What I realized though is there were such harsh side effects of Adderall. You can eat very much, can sleep very much. I was like, you know, it's got to be something else. I went online and I found black and white proof that showed that if you meditate, there's like all these positive benefits. I was like, you know what, I'm going to give it a go. First. Two or three days didn't get really a great result, but then eventually I started to feel completely different. I learned how to observe my thoughts rather than react to my thoughts. I found this way of staring at a candle flame and by having my eyes centered on one point I realized that if my eyes didn't wander, my mind didn't wander and it allowed me to focus. Then I started to observe my thoughts as they come in and as they left, as they come in, as they left and I started to feel completely different, I started to also become more aware of different aspects of myself that I was previously unaware of. I became aware that I felt I was unworthy. I became aware of my ex stepmom's kind of in a way influence over my sense of worthiness and how I believed I always deserved and I, I thought that there was always a woman in my life trying to control me and that was always the case. There was a manager in my life when I went through the spiritual awakening that was the same exact like personality as my ex stepmom.

She couldn't get away as much because she's part of this corporate place, but she got away with a lot because she was protected by upper management. As I went through the spiritual awakening, then I realized all these things I did, started to move into green. I'm working this nine to five job that no longer really resonated with me because I started to feel completely different. I started to realize that I believed that the world was going through in a way, a shift in consciousness. I started to meditate a lot. I started to do everything I could. I became vegan in like a minute, like literally within the next day. I, after having some of these realizations, I was like not doing that. I was becoming very green. In 2012, I had a spiritual awakening that took me from orange into green.

Then I was in the green for probably about six months and I was just focused on, on, on these different labels and these different things and focusing on, on loving things. I remember I was at this house that was in Vegas is in Sloan, Nevada, which is like just a couple miles south of Las Vegas, but it was a house that kind of in the middle of nowhere is where I had my spiritual weekend was really cool. I lived with my mom and her ex-husband at the time of her husband at the time. My brother and sister on my mom's side and when I was there, it was really cool. I was like, I get up every morning and I would like to go. I'd go like sit in the sun as it became very spiritual because also I went in one day, I was very ungrounded.

This is one thing I want to share with you guys. That may happen a lot of times when we get into the green, we didn't resist the orange. I said you know what? This whole nine to five job, I don't care about it anymore. I realized that a lot of the stuff, the, you know, it may sound more conspiracy theories, but I realized that a lot of the taxes and stuff, what we think is going towards the roads and stuff may not actually be going there because of different things that I was learning at the time. Literally went into work one day and said, I'm not coming into work tomorrow. I'm done working here. Then I was just living the kind of at that house and I had a little bit of money saved, but I was like, Nope, don't want to, don't want to have that nine to five job anymore.

I became ungrounded in a way, in many ways. Then what I did is I got up every morning, I would water the plants. I would like to talk to the plants, communicate with the plants. Nothing wrong with this. I still got plants in my backyard that I love. But, I can see how different my energy changed so fast. I was watering the plants every day, laying in the sun, became very green and I was resisting any orange in my life and all I wanted to do was meditate, lay in the sun and focus on helping the collective shift into a higher level of consciousness. That was the green in me and then I was there for probably about six to eight months just strictly in green when I went through my spiritual awakening. However, then something very interesting happened. Then what happened is I realized, okay, actually this is what happened.

This is going to sound kind of interesting. I don't know if I've shared this maybe once or twice. I was talking to a lady that does this kinesiology thing where she could like to measure yes or no answers and she was like this old 80-year-old lady on the phone and she was really good at it. She had had recently like she'd been doing it for a couple of years, but recently I got connected to her and I asked her yes or no questions and she was able to find that at certain points in my past. I developed this thing called a heart wall. I forget. It's a certain type of healing modality. But anyways, everything she said is extremely accurate. Then one of the questions I asked was, Hey, should I have a job right now because I, you know, got rid of that job.

Should I have a job right now or does the spirit want me to have a job? Because by then I was connected to like spirit guides and stuff and she goes, ah, yeah, I'm getting a strong yes. I was like, could you do it again? She didn't shake, I'm still get a strong yes. I was like, no, maybe everything she said was right, but this can't be right. I don't think I should be having a job right now. That was the green in me that just wanted to kind of be in like add energy to the environment and in that way. Then eventually I realized I need to get a job again. What I did is instead of going back to Nordstrom's, I went to a new place called Barneys New York, which is almost the same exact thing, selling women's shoes a little bit higher end.

I worked there for years and then eventually what happened is I was integrating back into society. What I realized is that I looked back now and I can see this totally, I was in green, but I hadn't completely mastered orange yet. Not that I had to master it, but I didn't integrate orange yet. I was resisting orange. I go back into that nine to five job, I have it for a couple of years, and then I realized, you know what? I want to do what I'm passionate about and I want to pave my own way. At the time, I had just broken up with the neither, like an ex-girlfriend. I asked her, I said, okay, I'm going to move it back in with my dad. I moved back into my dad who didn't understand that I was used more in blue.

He didn't really understand that I wanted to like, you know, start my, started making YouTube videos and stuff. He didn't really understand the YouTube world and I said, you know what, I'm going to move back with my dad and I'm just going to make YouTube videos until something happens. I'm working my nine to five job and when I'm not working my nine to five job, there was this moment of this insight that I had where I said, I'm going to make a video every single day until I'm a full-time YouTube and doing what I love. This is when I was then starting to really dedicate myself to mastering orange. I was working nine to five job 40 hours a week and I was making videos about 30 hours a week. But over the course of a couple of weeks, I had a video go viral every single day, no matter what a video would be scheduled before I went to bed to schedule for the next day at 10:30 in the morning and within a month or two, my channel went from 2000 subscribers to over 20 something 30 some thousand subscribers in one month.

That's how fast it grew. I was then focused on developing hustling hard work. I was listening to Gary V at the time, Gary V is very orange and you want you to notice is that there are different ways of, of tuning yourself to different levels by looking at who is it? You know, Tony Robbins isn't being a lot of his teachings is an orange. If you look at that of Gary Vaynerchuk, a lot of its orange. I was listening to a lot of oranges at the time to help me master orange. Then what happened is I started to become successful within three to six months. August 2017 went into work and I put in my two weeks, my last day of working was the Connor McGregor, Connor McGregor Mayweather fight. I worked that day because I knew it was commissioned. I make a lot of money and then I go home for the day and then go watch the fight with some friends.

That was my last day ever having a job and I was then dedicated to mastering orange. Then what happened is I did something called plant medicine. Plant medicine is in green. I'm not telling everyone, hey go, if you want to just up your level of consciousness, let's go do that right now. You know, you have to find out what resonates with you and do it in a safe manner. If you do, I mean it's starting to become legal in some places, things like mushrooms and stuff like that. But I did plant medicine and in Costa Rica and something called IIF. You ever heard of it? When I did it, basically what I learned is that I was working, this is after two or two years of a year and a half of about a year of working really hard, but starting to become successful.

I started developing an edge. I started to develop in some ways like edgy energy. I'd become very serious, very businesslike. I realized that the orange has kind of taken over me. What I did eventually did is as I would do the AIA, it made me realize, Hey, you don't have to work so hard. What are you, you, you could enjoy your life more. You can focus more on your relationships and loving other people and spend more time with friends and family.  I can see it was literally the green talking to me while I was in the orange state. I'd be in ceremony and be like, Whoa, I don't need to work so hard. Now what I'm doing is I'm learning how to transition my energy from orange into green, my business as well from orange.

A lot of times it's this as well when people, let's look at plant medicine in green, whether we're talking about, you know, there's many different types of plant medicine, you can look them up to see what I'm talking about. Just cause if I say the words then, if the way that YouTube works or whatever with the AI, I don't say certain words just to be safe, but blue is sometimes be afraid of doing plant medicine because blue, that's going to challenge what blue thinks to be true. However, here's the thing, once you get a taste for a certain level, you then have more potential to experience more of that. If you get a taste of that, sometimes what'll happen is when you have more ability to become more and more like that. I was an orange and an orange does dream, does it plant medicine?

A lot of times I can, that can help kind of see it from a different point of view. But blue and red may be afraid of it. But if it does do it, it may open it up a little bit. That's just kind of the idea. When I did that though, it's something that normally the will kind of soften up my energy a little bit and kind of helped me become more oranges green versus just orange and then achievement work, hard success mentality. A lot of what my YouTube channel as well as models of reality that I love studying, I'm understanding that all trues are true. Whatever we believe to be true is reflected back to us. That's a very yellow statement because then you're able to see green reality is the way it is because of the beliefs.

Orange is the way it is because of its beliefs. Blue is the way it is because of his beliefs and in a way its values. That's really what spiral dynamics it's a value system. Seeing the values of different levels and blue, their values in blue are a certainty, safety, a community of, of that safety. Orange is progress growth. Green is loving compassion. You see how you can see, you can see the yellow would be understanding green would be compassion. Red would be power and certainty with power. You know you can see, you can look at these and see what the values would be, but that's the understanding of it. But nonetheless, I do know a lot of my YouTube videos. I create art in between greenish and yellow. Maybe orange and green depending on the topics like you may have seen. If you look at my older YouTube videos, I was sharing information on orange and it was a law of attraction. How to attract love, how to attract money, how to become successful, very orange mentalities. You may notice that recently, a lot of my videos haven't been on that. I hardcore made those videos at the beginning of my YouTube, like the YouTube career.

I had, are you making YouTube videos? But then eventually I started to move greener. Hey guys, it's all about understanding. We're all connected there. There's a consciousness shift that happened on the planet. Here's how you raise your vibration. Here's what you need to let go of. Here's how to let go to then be in a higher vibe state. These are all very green mentalities. Even as I look at my YouTube channel, I can see when I went to different levels, and still, I'll talk about some of these, but what I realized is that there's definitely more of an interest in the green now than anything else. Then yellow is understanding the systems and spiral dynamics itself is a yellow concept. Here's another thing that I'll share with you anytime I go to Sedona. What do they have? Green as well. There's a guy, he has a channel called actualized.org. He talked with him, Leo, he talked, he talked about green. He said green, the epitome of green is burning man. You ever saw burning man, burning man, that doing all of which of us, they're doing a whole bunch of plant medicine, they're all-loving.

There are all these amazing art sculptures and at the end of this like week-long thing, what do they do? They clean up every little piece that they left behind and a big desert in Nevada. What I realized though is that at certain levels of my life, there are certain, there are certain energy dynamics that will happen and one of the most common ones I see though, especially people watching this video, is that sometimes we'll be in green. A lot of you watching this may be in green, and my buddy Victor Oddo and I were talking about the say the diet as well as a YouTube channel because a lot of his audience is green, but he realizes that a lot of the people may need to integrate more orange. We'll make a jump up. But remember you have to kind of master the stage below before you really move up.

Some people may be in green. Having these third IOA contains all these crazy things but not be rooted and understanding the orange of achievement, success, building a business and that's where a lot of people may have a lot of people may have resistance. Then that's what I did though. I had to go back to orange, become and realize the hard work mentality, marketing, learn the business and that really helps. Another thing I'll realize is I'm getting ready. I'd like to, I'm in the process of possibly getting a house in Sedona and if I get a house in Sedona, Sedona is very green. What I noticed in Sedona is it sometimes a little bit harder for me to do business work because business work of achievement, hearts, hard work when you're in Sedona and you just want to relax and go inwards, the energy there is so high and I noticed it's a little bit difficult.

What I'm learning though is what I can do is either bring my business more into green or go back and forth for a period of time to get all the technical business stuff done between Sedona in Las Vegas. But, but Sedona is a very green place. It's all about, you know, it's very, you feel very connected. You feel very tapped in. You got all these hiking trails. It's amazing. But that's an interesting thing that I realized. You can go to different places in order to become more like a certain color, maybe even be around certain people. If you realize that you're around a lot of people that are blue, that are in tradition, a lot of your family, Navy blue, they may not understand your whole spiritual awakening and stuff that may be weighing you down from actually moving ahead and to orange.

Even as I look at my dad is something I realized recently when I was living at my dad's house. I loved watching the shark tank because I was way more orange at the time. My dad at first it was like, what is this show? Like he didn't understand it. He wasn't even interested in it. He didn't even want me to watch it for some reason and he was in blue. Here's the funny thing, he has now become more interested in orange. What I mean by that is my dad now loves shark tank. My dad's in blue working that nine to five job with a salary and he started to become intrigued with orange. That's why he loves watching shark tank, which has a very orange type show. Even now, I still love watching shark tank every now and then. It's me tapping into my orange and seeing these cool ideas and all this stuff.

Sometimes you'll see some green companies that come on orange if they're that their mission is to change the world. Something that really adds value to other people. But it's very interesting for me to see these different, like how people become curious were a lot of my audiences, maybe you watching this a lot of my audiences, maybe an orange, wanting to attract love, money, success and being in the state and they're starting to become curious about green. They're starting to realize, and I'm over here kind of talking about, yes, you know, I've, I've accomplished and, and been very grounded in orange. I'm relatable in that way. If you focus on adding value to others, on your relationships with other people being in a high vibe state, doing the inner work, you're going to feel amazing.

Then guess what? You're going to attract more love, money, success than ever before because you're going to be in this high vibe state. In a way what happens is the orange then gets curious towards the green and then one day the green will be like, Hey, well we were in love and everything and we're going through all this process, but you know what? Let's get to the next level of actually creating systems that help solve these problems. Let's create courses that help with those ways of connecting communities together. That's what I'm realizing has been happening in my own life up to this point is now I want to take my business from orange into green and to travel the world, do live events, connect communities together. That's the next stage that I'm moving into. Maybe one day I then moved from there in the yellow, you know?

But I definitely have gravity in orange, green and yellow. I'd say that it kind of goes back and forth in between depending on what I'm doing and my intentions. But in general, there's sometimes we may also get tastes of turquoise. A taste of turquoise may happen to do any crazy, cool epiphany or insight. I was talking to Lee or the other day, she said that she's definitely had some, some insights into turquoise. Once you have an insight into it, you have the potential for more of it.  believe that right now in the world we are moving from orange into green and yellow. I believe that in this lifetime we're going to have the ability to move up in the United States. It's mainly orange. In the Middle East, it might be blue and some like places in Africa and other places it might be very red. But we're beginning to move up in our life experience and it's super exciting. I have a question for you. Where do you think maybe your gravity of energy isolates in between? What are maybe the two colors that you think really resonate with you?

Why You Attract Feminine Men or Masculine Women (and what to do about it)

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If you are attracting either feminine males or masculine females, there's a reason for that and in this blog, I'm going to show you exactly why that is, what you can do to switch that up if you desire and how you can more so also heal feminine or masculine runes inside of yourself. I've made a couple of other videos on that of understanding the masculine-feminine energy. I'm going to go ahead and link those below in case you're interested in them. The thing that I've noticed, even in my own life as I go through the shadow work of integrating more and more of myself, is that for a period of time I was attracting more masculine females into my life.

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One of the reasons being was because I think of some inner wounds that I had from growing up. I noticed this in a lot of other people, especially a lot of spiritual people too. I've seen it, and there's nothing wrong with this. Understand that we all have feminine and masculine energy inside of us. The thing that sometimes happens though if something that happens when we were younger and we then make a certain meaning or we start to play out things in a certain way that then depolarizes our own energy.

For example, let me share this with you now. When I was growing up, many of you know, between seven and 15 years old, if you've watched some of my other videos, I know I talked about it a lot, but seven to 15 years old, I had an abusive ex stepmom in my life and she was very masculine and my brother and I had almost no freedom. We're not to have friends. We weren't allowed to watch TV. A lot of times we were just locked outside working outside. We were given a cereal in the morning and TV dinner at night. We're very light and skinny. After my dad divorced her when I was 15 years old, all of a sudden, we had all this freedom again.

Even after my ex stepmom left my life. First off, one of the things that my brother and I had to do to get by is we had to please her. Meaning we had to do things that would make her happy. Like, if we wanted to go to some school activity, we'd have to clean up, do all these chores and do all this stuff and then look to her and say, Oh, was it good enough? Can I go to school activity? That was the kind of mentality that my brother and I developed. Then we would also see our dad as the masculine presence in our life. My dad is like the nicest guy in the whole world. What ended up happening is the role model that I had as, as the masculine was a very, it was more feminine energy that was letting the masculine run the show.

What I found is that I kept attracting women into my life that were very controlling and women that were also in a way much more masculine woman. That just kept happening. I kept attracting more masculine women into my meaning. By masculine, I mean controlling, trying to be very dominant, trying to tell me what to do, nitpicking me. That was a pattern that I kept attracting into my life until I became aware of a lot of this information. I eventually integrated those old wounds, integrated that old shadow. With this process, awareness is key because as you become aware of it, you then begin to change your energy and then you attract something different. It's awareness has a keynote. If you find that you are attracting either feminine men or masculine females, a woman than it is because of your energy, your leading energy is the other side.

This can work for also same sex, you know, if even in, in same-sex relationships. Normally there is one that is more polarized, masculine, and one that is more polarized feminine normally. When we're talking though, imagine there's a, just for the example state, imagine that there's a woman that is attracting feminine men. Then most likely the woman inside of herself has a bit more masculine energy activated and doesn't have anything to do with physical looks or anything like that.