#8: 3 Ways to STOP Desire From Blocking Your Manifestations

Today I'm going to be sharing with you the three ways you can stop desire from blocking you and this is something that maybe you've heard me speak before about the power of decreasing importance and how anytime we put something and we make it very important, we put it on a pedestal and then we create the potential for resistance.

The key for many of the things that we want to create in her life is actually to take them off a pedestal and to stop identifying so much with wanting them because at the moment that we say I really want that, we are also saying I really don't currently have that. In a way, you want to think of this like a radio station and you want to think of this as the vibrational frequency of the channel that we want.

That's what we're going to be speaking about today. Right now, it's early in the morning. I just woke up a little bit ago. I just got blackout curtains actually for my bedroom. I moved into this new house and for a long time, I was wondering why I wasn't sleeping as good at night. And at the last place, I had blackout curtains, and I had a sleep perfect and I just never thought of it because now I get up at like 5:30, six in the morning and when I get up it's like there's not as much light.

I'm like, “Oh, it's probably doesn't matter.” But even the moonlight and stuff at night it makes a difference. And was like street lights and thing. I got these blackout shades. I slept so well last night. I know that's a side tangent, but yeah, the blackout shades made a big difference, and now I feel rested.

I feel ready to go. I just filmed the video. I get up every morning. That's what I do.

The first thing I do is I film a video and a then now here I am doing podcasts. I want to start maybe doing a podcast every single day. If that's something you'd be interested in, let me know, maybe comment on my newest Instagram photo or something like that.

I wish that on iTunes there was a way to like set comments per episode so that I could see the comments from this. But yeah, let me know if you'd like me to do daily videos or daily podcast episodes. Maybe that's something I'll do. I'll make it part of my morning routine to film the video and then come straight into my podcast room.

A lot of DMs have people saying, well, this whole thing, because it's a. it's something that it's a little bit counterintuitive because many times in the old school Law of Attraction way of thinking, what we do is we focus on our desires. We are told as having a white-hot burning desire is the key to success and that is true for the old school way of going about it and it does get results.

It just gets a lot of resistance with the results because the thing is when you have a white-hot burning desire, what are you willing to do to achieve what you want? You're willing to do, like anything you're willing to put yourself in a certain position in. You focus on it a ton, so when you have anything you focus on grows, so it's a way of going about it, but what I've found is that there's actually more powerful ways to go about it.

Those are the ways I'm going to be sharing with you today, the three different ways that I've mainly a kind of upgraded my paradigm with this because I've realized that the old school paradigm also emphasizes that lack. You know, the way I thought about this I kind of analogy just popped into my head a minute ago is a, think about it.

If you've ever seen the movie Lion King, the Disney movie, Lion King, I grew up kind of watching that movie and in that movie, which may you, maybe you've seen, maybe you haven't. There's these lions are like the protagonist, like the main parts of the, of the movie. And then there's these bad guys and the bad guys is like a scar, which is like the bad lion, the jealous line of the, uh, the king doesn't move Fossa with was his name is all coming back to me now.

And the lions have a very lax vibe, you know, to kind of chill. They want, they're hungry, they'll get something, but they mainly just chill. And then you've got the hyenas that are like looking for a fix to like how even do you imagine a Hyena? Hyenas are like a kind of vulture, like trying to find whatever it can get. It will, it will go out and it'll wait for other people and then it'll take what it's wants if it can, it's got like this, this desire attitudes like you know, I'm trying to breed like it, you know, but you got to get what I mean.

But it's kind of is needy type vibe. Like is that something that, that you would want to be like, would you want to be led the Hyena that really, really wants something that's, that's really desiring it and that feels almost desperate. That's kind of the mentality of somebody that really, really want something that really, really is currently saying they really, really don't currently have it vibrationally.

It's kind of like being the Hyena and the way they go about it even better is to just be more like the lion. The lion is very sure of itself. The lion just sits on the grass and then when he's hungry, he goes out and intends to get his food or her food or whatever it is, but it's a different mentality, and it's a different vibe. And when we. A couple of the ones I'm going to share today out of the three are going to help to do that.

1. Gratitude

And the first way I want to share with you has to with gratitude. The gratitude is one of the quickest ways for you to unify yourself with what you already have, the vibration of what you already have. 

I said it's kind of like a radio station, right? In a radio station, you tune to a certain frequency and you get the channel or whatever you tune to.

Gratitude is one of the quickest ways for you to unify yourself with what you already have.

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The thing that all we do with gratitude as we focus on what we already have, which is a channel that is in vibration with abundance and by focusing on what we already have, we bring more things in our life to affirm to us that this is what we already have and that we get what we want in life. This is more about a perspective of understanding unification with who we really are.

Gratitude is really a choice. Think about it. It's like when something happens, we can look at that thing that happened and we can be mad that it didn't happen the way we wanted it to. We can have a perspective that lowers our vibrational state and by lowering our vibrational state, we then get a lower vibrational radio frequency.

Or what we could do is we could simply decide that there are many other reasons to be happy. We can be happy because we have family members in our life that we love. We can be happy because we are able to do what we want when we want to do. If we want to go eat, we can go eat. We have food, we have the bare necessities in our life. We have shelter.

All of these things are things we take for granted because, oh, that's just the way things are, but if we were to focus on them and see it and really feel into that gratitude, we didn't put ourselves in the vibration of that gratitude and the vibration of what we already have, and we turned to that vibration on the radio station of more of what we can have.

Right now, think to yourself, maybe just think of two or three things that you're grateful for. What are you grateful for in your life? Could be grateful that you have a certain relationship, could be grateful that you are maybe aware of, uh, how to eat healthier. And when you eat healthier, you have more vital energy. Maybe you're aware of many different things. Just think of what you're grateful for. It really depends on the person, but there's you can be grateful for the bare necessities.

But when you focus on what you're grateful for, you then tuned to the vibrational frequency of that abundance and in that abundant state, you realize that you are and you can feel that high vibration energy. It's just that normally what we do is we think that some outside thing is going to make us feel a certain way and that's something that I've done in my own life as I've focused really more on what I already have.

You know, sometimes I get caught up, I get caught up and success and becoming to the next level and if I could just get to the next level and do this much more than I know I can feel good about myself. Yes, there might be these many subscribers on YouTube, but what about this many? What about 1 million subscribers?

And I get identified with that, but I'm like, wait, I have so much to be grateful for. Like just a year ago, I was little over a year ago. I'd just gone full time over a little bit over a year ago. I was working a full-time job. I was way less abundant than I am now. I was in a completely different space and now I have a house that I love. I have the ability to do what I want. When I want to do it. I get to do what I want for a living.

I can travel anywhere I want to go. I can eat whatever kind of food that I want. Of course, I eat healthily, but you know I can. I'm not limited and I feel so grateful for where I'm already at, but sometimes it depends on whatever you focus on you feel. If I focus on those perspectives like, well, I could be at even more.

I could be traveling the world right now and of course I am getting into my next step is me doing live events and stuff, but I can't be too identified with the future because then I emphasize the lack. I lowered my vibrational frequency. Instead, I focused on what I already have, which is the gratitude. And by focusing on what I already have, I experienced more of that in my life.

2. Understanding your higher self

What's the second way we can decrease in importance or let go of desire that may be blocking us. It has to do with being that of our higher self. This may sound like a new concept of you haven't heard me talk about it before, but the thing is when we desire, we desire from the self-image that does not have. We are wishing from a place of wanting to become more in hopes that becoming more will make us feel worthy.

And the key to this is becoming aware of why do we want what we want. Many times, what we want, why we want, when we want is because we believe it will make us feel better. But the thing is we can make ourselves feel better right now and our current self-image. We only want from our current self-image like now imagine this with parallel realities.

For example, there's an infinite number of parallel realities that exist. If we desire something, we're desiring it from the parallel reality that says, I don't currently have it, but that's just one frequency.

That is one radio station out of an infinite number of them will we could instead decide to do is we can decide to embody the best version of us now and as we embody the best version of us now by being the higher self-version of us.

We begin to that frequency because that for that version of us, these things are natural. The thing is when we desire something we think, and we put it on a pedestal, we think it's going to make us feel so totally different, but normally it doesn't. If we train ourselves to be happy in the future, we will put our happiness on hold and that's something that I'm learning more and more is how I can let go and how I can know that whatever my perfect.

Like if I imagined the best self-image of me, what I meant to be doing in my life, which is traveling, speaking, traveling the world, interacting with people. If I imagine that version of me and I put that on a pedestal, I'm saying that is not who I currently am, but the key is for that version of me that lifestyle is natural.

Just like a year ago, I dreamed the lifestyle I live today, I had written in my, like affirmations and I had these, these, uh, goals written down. I just go written down that I was going to have 300 subscribers, 300,000 subscribers on YouTube. I had this goal written down. I was going to travel the world when I want. I was going to make videos and beautiful places.

And I was like, one of the quotes actually, I had this desire that I was going to, uh, what else was there? I'm trying to think of everything that was on that list, but those things were desires that I had, that I set the intention for that I now live.

But now that I live it, that's natural for me. It's not on this pedestal. It's not this euphoric feeling. Although it is a high vibrational feeling, but it's not like. It's not like something that's on a pedestal, so for the best version of you, the key is to imagine the higher self-version of you. Hire yourself means what you intended to experience in your life, connecting with your soul purpose.

If you don't know what that is, set the intention to figure it out. Sometimes people will say that to me, it's always just set. The intention is always the answer. Set the intention to figure it out, set the intention to find out what the purpose your purpose is, and you will start to find patterns.

Your brain is always looking for patterns, so he's looking for things to correlate and you'll begin to figure out what that is and once you begin to figure out what that high vibrational frequency is and you start to embody that, you choose to be it. You can get into the mindset of that version of you by letting go of the old mindset, which brings me to the third point.

3. Letting go

The third way we go about it is we let go. Let go. This isn't so much about desire is about a place of attachment, of attachment to our ego of attachment to thinking that the things we want and will make us feel better.

It's more about just letting go because then we can let in. You see so many times what happens is like we go to a doctor, the doctor prescribes us some type of prescription for something that is treating the symptoms. Then we go, we come back a month later and the doctor gives us three more prescriptions to deal with the side effects of the prescription.

He subscribed last month or she subscribed last month to us and then what we do is we have to keep going down that rabbit hole, but the key is to stop trying to treat the symptoms to get straight to the cars and getting to the cause.

In this metaphor is us finding out why do we want what we want. Because I study psychology a lot. I study why people do what they do and one of the things I've noticed with myself is one of the reasons I have such a desire to help people may be partly because and being, being aware of this and where the power is because then I can be in that abundance now and maybe because I don't have.

And I believe that if I achieve more, I will become worthier because I went through a lot of pain growing up. I went through a lot of abuse from my ex-stepmom. If you've heard my story before and maybe that diminished my self-image at a young age and now have such a desire to help people, which isn't a bad thing that I have a desire to help people, but I may be coming at it from the point of maybe if I become more well known.

If I become famous. If I become all did these things and I become known as this person. Maybe I'll be worthy. Then maybe then I'll be enough. But see, the key is for me to let go of that perspective and it just is enough already. Still, take action. I still. What I love doing is helping people. It doesn't mean it's going to change it and I just sit around doing nothing. It just means the frame. The energy from which I come from changes.

The perspective has changed because I realized the awareness, the first step is always awareness. When we become aware of why we want what we want, what would then become aware of the holes in our bucket, the things that we can never quite fulfill and the key to letting go is knowing we are already whole and complete as letting go of trying to become more. Instead just be more and said, just be yourself because you are more than you could ever possibly imagine.

And the key to embodying that is just a let go to let go. And you know we don't have to try so hard. Things don't have to be so hard. How do we relate to that of the process itself? Because if we believe the Law of Attraction process is hard and difficult than it will be hard and difficult, but it can be so much easier when we allow it to be easier when we know that it's just natural for us to experience what we want.

Decreasing desire is really just about going about it. Desire comes from lack and it's not that desire is bad. It's just being aware that we can feel the emotion we want right now by choosing to feel the emotion right now, by choosing to have perspectives that actually serve us. This is about knowing that the best version of US already exists.

The higher self-version of us that has the sole plan, what we're meant to be accomplished, her life already exists. The key is to embody that right now in the present moment, and we can do that with a matter of choice and awareness. When we become aware of why we want, what we want, we then become aware of the things that no longer serve us.

We then become aware of how we can let go of the lead in because as we let in more of who we are, we will raise our vibration. One of the easiest ways to raise your vibration is to do what you're passionate about and is to have gratitude. Gratitude unifies you with the source that you naturally are.

When you say and you're grateful for something you already have, you're in a vibrational frequency and you're tuning into the radio station, have more of abundance where normally either in abundance or scarcity, scarcity can we can have desired from scarcity, we can have desired from abundance.

The difference is simply what we're attached to, the perspective we're attached to and why we want what want and when we start to embody more of us being the best version of us, of us following our passion, I was making the decision that that is who we are. We are naturally already, whole and complete. When we come at it from that awareness, things happen easier than ever.

Remember, the three easy ways to stop desire from blocking you is to first off, have gratitude. Having gratitude will merge you with the vibrational frequency of abundance. When you're in that abundance states, when you feel gratitude, you can't feel lower emotion. When you feel gratitude, you can't feel the lack.

The key is a focus on that gratitude. Whatever you focus on, you feel secondly, know that that is natural for you. It is natural for you to experience the best version of you when you get there. It's not that it's on a pedestal. It just becomes a part of who you naturally are. Understand that the parallel reality you want to experience already exists, so the version of you doing exactly what you want to be doing already exists.

You don't have to try so hard. You don't have to create your own reality. You simply have to choose it by making the choices as the best version of you and being that the third part is letting go. The more you let go, the more you let in will know why you want what you want, because when you know the why, you can then become aware and then you can let go of the perspectives that don't longer serve you.

And what you can then do is you can let go to let in more of who you are, more of your light, you are already whole and complete, and when you begin to embody that, everything begins to change.


My name is Aaron Doughty and I help people expand their consciousness. My areas of interest for this blog include motivation, meditation, neuroscience and enlightenment. The purpose of aarondoughty.com is to inspire change to those who want to experience more in life. I will openly and passionately share the tools, resources and processes that have made a difference in the quality of my life to help you do the same in yours. I’ve always believed that finding ways to add value to other peoples lives is the fastest route to both happiness and fulfillment and this is my genuine intention.

Ana - September 8, 2018

Hi Aaron,

The podcast really helped me how to don’t seem desperate by using the LOA.

The fact that you use examples is extremely helpful, and also the fact that you talk a bit about your personal life creates a link between your readers (and your YouTube subscribers).

You seem so passionate in your work so Keep it up!

Best Luck and thanks A LOT for all your helpful podcasts and videos!

Neslihan A - September 9, 2018

Hello Aaron,

Thank you very much for all videos ????

I like your style because you are explain simple way and clearly,.i was many times some seminars,courses and some of the teachers,gurus or life Couch etc just want to followers for get more money ,if you give money you can take your apple pie piece;)
Of course money is important in the life but if you use the people just for money this is wrong way.
That’s why what you share in YouTube Channel, everyone can listen it and do it .
I wish you all good things become your life ????what you give your lovely heart ????

Devon ware - September 9, 2018

I really learned alot from your podcast today keep it up

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