STOP Chasing a Specific Person and instead do this (they will chase you)

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If you treat someone like a celebrity, the many times they will treat you like a fan or the key to this is understanding that power dynamic, and to this blog, I'm going to show you exactly how to switch that around so that they chase you.

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Today, I'm going to show you why chasing someone else is the problem in itself and the energy dynamics that are going on. Anytime we are chasing someone, and I'm going to show you exactly what to do and said because when you switch this around, it actually has the dynamic power work in your favor. In general, anytime you are attracting a specific person into your life, a lot of times, what happens is we end up putting them on this metaphorical pedestal, so we put them high up on this pedestal, and then they are automatically further away.

In my own life, I've had many times where this had happened, especially early on when I began dating, I started dating, and a little bit later in life, I was probably about 16 or 17. And I remember that one of my first girlfriends that I ever had, I really liked her. We started dating. What happened is she started to pull away. She started to pull away, and I started to feel that resistance and I would be thinking about, or I'd be wondering what is she doing? I would kind of get in my head about it. What happened was this was a time when my dad divorced my ex stepmom, for those of you that don't know my story, my ex stepmom was emotionally, physically, and mentally abusive and controlling. My brother and I weren't allowed to have friends before that.

When my dad divorced her when I was 15 or 16 years old, now my brother and I are allowed to have friends. My brother and I are allowed even to date. I had one of my first girlfriends and this was like a whole new world. At the same time, we started today, I started to put her on a pedestal, and then I started chasing her, hoping that she would like come back to me and just like me and validate me. Then what happened is I started to realize that I started to become friends with the new group within high school. There was like a new group of friends that I started to be with. At the same time, there were a couple of girls in that group that liked my brother and me; both of us were called the Doughty pros.

What happened was, is as that started to happen. My attention went away from the one that I was chasing. I remember when that happened, she then started to become interested in me again. It was like she felt that energetic pool. Then I remember she would call me for like two or three weeks, and I just wasn't as interested because now I have this whole new group of friends, and I realized that there were many more opportunities than me putting this one person on a pedestal. It was like two or three weeks of her colony calling me. Then eventually she kind of got the hint, got the picture. However, what changed was my own energy.

Once my energy changed, that's when everything began to change with this process is I didn't view her on the pedestal. When it comes to attracting love into our life, if we put someone on a pedestal, what we do is we put them vibrationally separated from us. We say I want you, I want you. If you say I want you, it means I don't have you. People aren't possessions anyways, but the idea behind this is that when we feel resistance. We feel the resistance because we feel the lack of that person not being in our life. Also think about the frame of this perspective when we come at it from the frame of I want you, and I lack the love, and I wouldn't want you in my life cause then I can love myself more.

That's vibrationally what we're saying without even knowing it. What we are doing is externalizing our own happiness. Plus, we are trying to be the cameo in their movie. Imagine this energetic dynamic right here. I really, really want you. I am chasing you. If I could just have you in my life, then I would feel so good, so complete and so whole. Would you just please come? Jimmy, what if I was like, would you watch this video and like it, would you please like this video? I really appreciated if you would just like this video would make me so happy. Do you see that energy? Do you see that entities dynamic? The key is when you're doing this when you and this specific person's putting them on a pedestal, you are trying to be the cameo in their movie, and until you become the star of your own movie, that another person that you think is the star won't find you attractive.

Just like the quote at the beginning of this, if you treat someone like a celebrity, they will treat you like a fan. The key to this is seeing it as natural as a part of your self-image, for you to be loved, seen as natural, for you to have your own things going on because you are the star of your own movie. You are the star; you're a star. Honey. Let me tell you that right now. You're a star. You are meant to be loved because you love yourself. You see, and this is an interesting thing too, I used to work with this girl and she would, she told me this and it always kind of stuck with me even though it's been years, it's been probably like six years. She said that any time she was in a relationship, and she was starting to date someone when that would happen, she would get hit on by like eight or nine guys in a week.

But prior to that, if she wasn't in that relationship and feeling the love from someone else, she wouldn't get approached eight times in a month or eight times in six months. What is happening there? Well, what is happening is there's a different energy dynamic that's going at play, and when somebody then has someone else in their life they met, they didn't give themselves permission to feel that love. Other people feel that off of them. They may feel more love or more attractive, and then everyone all of a sudden is hitting on that person. Can you give yourself enough love? Can you realize you are the star of your own movie? Can you develop your own gravity when you do this? This is when the dynamic energy changes. It is when you switch up the vibration of what you are putting out. The thing to this process that it's about, it's linking up your current self-image.

Let's use this metaphorical example. If you've used someone and you put them, and you say on a scale of 1 to 10, this is getting very superficial. I understand that on a scale of 1 to 10, this person is like, Oh man, like a 9.8 out of 10 and I though see myself as like a five well guess what? When that person is around you, you're probably going to feel resistance. You're probably going to hope everything goes a certain way. You're going to be very attached to the outcome. Because of that, that puts you into scarcity mode. That puts you into scarcity. When you're in scarcity, it's not as attractive. It doesn't have its own gravity. The other person will feel that resistance. People feel what you feel about yourself. When you change how you feel, what will then happen is they will then change how they feel about you as well.

All reality is on the outside is a reflection of the internal state of your internal vibration. You could say vibration is another word for saying your energy state. When you change that, and you see it from that point of view, this is where everything begins to change. Here's something I realized as well. When it comes to, you know the thing with this specific person, when we're trying to attract a specific person, out of the 7.8 8 billion people, however, many people are on the planet, and it was growing every day, however many people are on the planet, we're saying that out of everyone on the planet, I only want you and when we do that, what we end up doing is many times we get into a scarcity mindset. We get into scarcity because if things don't go right with that one person, there are no other options because I'm only focused on this one specific person.

The key to the process is realizing there are eight, seven, and a half plus billion people out in the world, and by putting only one person saying, I want this one specific person, you are limiting your options, and your ego wants that specific person as well. What if the universe could bring you someone that you resonate with at even a deeper level? What if any relationship you've ever been in has been so powerful, and it's you that maybe this one person that you want to be with? Maybe it's showing you that there's someone out there that could be even a deeper connection, but you're not aware of it because you're so focused on just one person how everything goes. The key to this is understanding that you can shift into a funded mindset by realizing your own self-worth by realizing your own value.

When you focus on your value, and you focus on really doing what you love, when you do what you love, you're at your core energy, you always attract what you are and if you're right, your core energy, you're going to attract that specific person to be in alignment with you are not in alignment with you, but you'd rather them know who you really are. I noticed that anytime I was in prior relationships, anytime I would have that of a, of a working a job I didn't like, I would always attract relationships with people that also were jobs that they didn't like because you always attract what you are. I am not doing what I love. They also don't do what they love, which means where there wasn't as much passion because we're not really happy with ourselves and what we're doing.

The key is knowing that when you do that first, and you have the gravity first, you then will have enough gravity, and you could then focus on being the star of your own movie. When you're not chasing them, when you give up the chase, that's when everything begins to change. Imagine that right now, you are chasing a butterfly. Many times, you won't cheat. You won't catch that butterfly. But if you were just to chill and relax, you may find that butterfly purchase itself on your shoulder, and what did you have to do? All you had to do was relax. All you had to do was chill out a little bit. I used to work with this coworker as well, and we noticed that there was this one guy we worked with, and he was always chasing women, chasing women, chasing women.

He wanted to be in a relationship for wanting to date some woman. She said something very interesting. She said, do you notice that when anytime someone's chasing someone else, it implies that the other person is running? You see, so what if by you thinking you had to chase them, you're also resisting them and it's pro, it's there in a way, just playing off that energy dynamic. If you switch that energy dynamic by going out and having fun with yourself if you switch that dynamic by changing the way you relate to them, you'll find that then your energy becomes more attractive. I've seen it happen so many times with people that are in a relationship; they break up. One person may be devastated about it. One person may really want it to work out and maybe texting that ex that another person. Then what happens is they go out, they have fun with their friends.

Just kind of like I was talking about the beginning that happened when I was in high school. They go out, the friends, they start to forget and not put so much attention to the other person that they're thinking about. Then all of a sudden, that other person feels that energetic pool and then texts them says, Hey, so what are you doing? What are you up to? Because they can feel that energetic pool global way. The key to this is understanding that energy dynamic and knowing that you can pull away by knowing your own worth. Do things every day that you love doing. Realize you are the star of your own movie. Focus on your own state of being focused on doing what you love. Focus on about being around friends.

Would you just please like me? They'd go out with me, and everything just goes, well, if we have that perspective, we put it on a pedestal. And what ends up happening from that point is we feel resistance. They feel resistance. Then they're running, and we're chasing them, and we're just trying to get them to be in our movie. Would you just be in my movie? I want to be a cameo in your movie. I want to be you can't you would like your movie, if I could be in your movie, it would feel so much better. I'm going to keep chasing you. I'm going to keep chasing you. I see you running. I see you running. Can I just get a, can I just get your number? Can I just talk to you? This is the energy of chasing. Instead, imagine you just walked in, and you're just swab.

Cool. You're having fun with your friends. You understand that you attract what you are, so you choose to be loving. You choose to love yourself. You choose to see yourself. You've linked up to your self-image to know that you deserve. If you think yourself as a five and someone else's, a 9.8 they're on a pedestal, they will probably be annoyed with the energy you're putting out because you're putting out the energy of you are better than me. They're playing off that power dynamic. The key to this sees yourself at the 10 out of 10, and everyone else has a 10 out of 10. There's no judgment here. There are no ranking people. That's just an analogy. Just show the link up the self-image, change your self-image, and you change your life. This is the key to that process. That's exactly why I make videos like this to help show you the different energy dynamics that are at play so that you can create the life of your dreams.

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My name is Aaron Doughty and I help people expand their consciousness. My areas of interest for this blog include motivation, meditation, neuroscience and enlightenment. The purpose of aarondoughty.com is to inspire change to those who want to experience more in life. I will openly and passionately share the tools, resources and processes that have made a difference in the quality of my life to help you do the same in yours. I’ve always believed that finding ways to add value to other peoples lives is the fastest route to both happiness and fulfillment and this is my genuine intention.