The Vibration of a Control Freak and How to TRANSCEND it and TRUST the Universe

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I'm going to show you the vibration of a control freak. Show you how to transcend it and reveal to you the illusion of the ego's sense of control.

Today, I'm going to be showing you the vibration of a control freak showing you why you may be a control freak, or do you know someone that's a control freak. When I say, and I do this blog, just know I am somebody that definitely has gone through periods of where I like to control different aspects of my life. I've gone from somebody that was working a nine to five job I wasn't passionate about to becoming successful on YouTube, doing what I love. There have been moments where I realized that at that moment, I decided that I had to have this insane willpower, and the more I could control everything, the better.

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I've learned a lot through this process. There are moments of when I go back and forth with this, but I've learned a lot about my own vibration in relation to being a control freak or controlling different aspects of my life and even you know, trying to help other people. There have been times where I'm like, Oh, I want to help this person better their lives and trying to help them too much rather than letting them go through their own lessons, and sometimes I think a lot of us that are going through the spiritual awakening process, we'll try to help people so much and sometimes that kind of backfired on us because then we overextend ourselves and by trying to control, we end up having them resist because whenever, whenever you're trying to control something, there's normally a rebellious type attitude and I know that that's how it was with me.

The vibration of a control freak, let's first off understand that we have our ego right here. What happens is at a certain point in our past, our lives, if you consider yourself to be a control freak, someone that is controlling situations, trying to control outcomes. There was a certain point and your past when you had no control, or you felt out of control, and when you felt out of control, you got pain. For example, that was me. I had my ex stepmom and my life between the ages of seven to 15 years old. And in that period of my time, I didn't have much control over anything.

I was completely controlled by my ex stepmom. My brother and I weren't allowed to go out and have friends. We were many times locked outside of the house, and there were just chores and things that we had to do for eight or eight hours at a time. It'd be drinking water out of a hose. We weren't allowed to eat the kind of food that would sustain us. We were given a TV dinner at night and that bowl of cereal in the morning, we were both very skinny.  My brother was like 11, and we had no control and that no control brought us pain because it was completely controlled.

Then what we did is we made a choice. That choice was after that pain that I am going to control. We make it a choice to then come to control. Then what happens as we start to control different aspects of our life. For me, for example, I eventually came to this conclusion when I was working with nine to five jobs on women's shoes that I wanted to do and be a full-time YouTuber. I made a choice to completely start to control my willpower, to assert myself, and to do what I'm passionate about. To really just be calm. There were no other options like I'm going to do this and then guess what happened? Then I started to get pleasure.

I started to get pleasure with having control. It's either these two things or a combination of both. You either get pain from having no control or you get pleasure and from having control. What happens is at a certain point in our past, this was decided maybe at an unconscious level, we're not completely aware of it. There's a certain level of sense of I am in control, just say I am, and it's, it's the ego saying it though the ego saying it. It's almost like the ego has to step in, and at a certain point, this is how it works. The reason I'm sharing this is that when we understand that this is why we're the control freak, we can realize that there's no longer a reason to feel threatened.

I don't have to assume that reality is always going to be like that. I now have a fulltime YouTube, or I do what I love. I don't have to assume that I'm going to have to work a nine to five job that I hate. Again, this is my reality now. The threat is gone. However, there is a certain level of this control freak that is still there. Let me show you another example and vibration of the control freak. We have levels of consciousness. At a certain level, let's say we have a, we have the fear, we have the lower vibrational emotions, right? And eventually, we have a, let's say, willingness.

They have love, joy, peace, enlightened, enlightenment. These are different levels. What happens is when there was a certain level of no control, there was most likely negative emotion. There's negative emotion there. That negative emotion causes us to feel that lower vibrational energy. Maybe it was the fear; maybe it was a feeling like you couldn't survive and understand the ego's job is simply to help you to survive. That's it. The ego's job is to help you to survive. And I have an analogy that I'm going to share with you in a minute as well for that. I'm going to write that here, so I don't forget.

The willingness is that of the ego. In a way, it's the willpower, the willpower to go in a certain way. That is something that then gets to be built so that when we associate pain with not having control, we start to build a controller and a life, which is when we started to get pleasure. The realm of, I would say the ego is the middle level because even the intellectual ideas, the intellect of reasoning, which is like your beliefs create your reality. The reasoning is building up the ego and the willingness, building up the eco, and building up the ego to then move in a certain direction. In general, when we're in lower vibrational emotions, maybe what we need to do sometimes is to actually start not to develop the ego, not to identify completely with the ego, but to let the ego in a way start to have more responsibility.

Start to have a little bit more, because it brings you out of the lower vibration of emotions. A lot of getting from the lower vibrational emotions into the mid vibrational emotions is about taking responsibility, which means the ability to respond to responsibility. It's about getting to these mid-levels of vibration. To get from the mid-levels into the high vibrations, you actually have to let go of the ego. You have to surrender the ego. It's almost like there's a loss of ego and a loss of power and the lower vibration emotions because we don't feel like we're worthy. And then we start to develop the control. We start to develop the ego start to go in a certain direction. We start to have reasoning the intellect. Then we're in the middle where we're building up the ego, and then we have to let go that you're going to get into the high vibrations.

The reason I share this because now we can kind of see that we may build up the ego for a certain level of success, but then eventually, we have to let it go. You don't have to. But if we let it go, then it will find that the universe can then create things for us or help us in this process. Now here's the analogy, and I know my spelling's a little off. I haven't done one of these in a while. This analogy I got from Bashar because I had checked off the shower, he's awesome. This analogy has to do with understanding a diving mask. Imagine that we have a diving max. Now imagine in the higher dimensional realms, let's get a little esoteric here. Imagine the higher dimensional realms; you have a higher self. In the law of one, they say your higher self is mid-six, the density, it's a little more esoteric.

What happens is we are in, let's say the higher self or in the mid-six densities. We project our consciousness here and think of it as our ego, like a diving mask. Let's say. It's just like sometimes the diving masks, that's our head or whatever. That's the diving max, though. The diving mask and the job of the diving mask with the school bus, you know, the snorkeling, the snorkeling, the snorkeling equipment is to help you to survive your underwater right now. And you have this scuba max for the snorkeling mask that gives you air. Rather than knowing that we are connected, and it's a tool, it's something we use to survive. We start to identify with the snorkeling scuba mask and equipment that's supplying this oxygen that's helping us to survive, and what happens is then there are times when we start to think then that the scuba snorkeling mask is us and we may even go into murky waters.

Things may get a little bit scary, but rather than trusting the process, we tried to read a move. We tried to remove it in a certain way. We ended up cracking it because we mess around with it too much. The point of that is that then trying thinking that this is supposed to guide us. This is not supposed to guide us. The snorkeling mask does not guide us. The higher mind guides us. We can trust in, we can trust in the process of us directing where we need to go through our higher mind and trust that the ego will do its job to help us to survive. But the problem is we then get into the murkiness when we start to assume that the scuba snorkeling mask, whatever we call it, is meant to help direct us in our life. That's when the pain starts to come. That's when we may get a little bit antsy. We may start to move it around and then crack it, and then we're supposed to get up very fast.

But we're a little bit too deep. If we were to do that, it could be very painful, and it can be very dangerous. The moral of this is understanding that this school historically, last thing is just to help you survive the sense of control and look at this from the past, and when we decided we got pain from no control is our ego is trying to survive. This is all about survivalists and trying to survive when we that the ego is just doing his job to help him. We can then realize that what got us there isn't going to get us to the next level. That's what I've been learning lately. What got me to where I'm at today is not going to get me to the next level. I have to let go of that control, bring a little more grace into my life. Trust the process. The vibration, I'm thinking about this as well.

If we have the ego and the consents of a control freak, think about if we have all of these rules, which is what a lot of times the ego does is the ego is the rules. If you use many different papers, because this really thin I'm going to have the other pay for, I'm going to put on for tomorrow's video. That's way better. The ego has many rules. When it's a control freak, it says people need to act this way. People act a certain way. Imagine the more rules you have, the less you can feel a positive emotion. If your rules are people, have to trick you a certain way. People need to take their own initiative in their own life. You need to have things be a certain way on the outside, which has been projecting out your own happiness because things need to happen on the outside a certain way for you to internally be happy.

Then all of these rules end up, causing us to stay in the lower vibrational emotions. The key to this whole process and everything I'm sharing with you today is simply becoming aware of it. Awareness is normally 95% of the process because now that you can see that you may have just had this meaning, this time that you decided this is who you were, that's what then kept you in that lower vibrational emotion. But then now that you can see that this is outdated and now what you can do is you can focus on other things. What is the solution to this? What is the solution to this? Become aware of it every time the ego is trying to assert its own dominance, becoming aware of any time the ego is trying to control things and then stepping back and then saying, it's okay. I can trust this to work out the right way.

Challenge that belief system as well. Challenge the belief that comes up and goes, Oh, it's supposed to happen this way. I've been doing this recently, and it does work. It really does. All you have to do is observe these things as it comes up to observe that you go the sense of control and then to be okay and to understand this as well. Magic happens a lot of times people that have this control freak mentality are trying to control things, aren't afraid of new things that have tried new things because it's less certain. The thing I'd encourage you to do is to step into the unknown because the unknown is where the magic happens. The only thing you're going to get in more of the known is more of what you already expect. If you stepped into the unknown, what you're going to get is you're going to get something that you wouldn't expect you. Your brain will not know where to go and how to control the situation. If you can simply observe it and allow it to be there, you'll find that then you have more power.

The purpose of this blog is knowing that you can focus more on surrendering to the present moment, surrendering to it, and trusting it. One big lesson for me in my life, too, is patience. When you're trying to control things, you're normally not a very patient person. I'm in this Airbnb right now, and I want nothing more than to be in this house that I'm getting ready to move into within the next week, and I'm waiting for the tenant moved out tomorrow. He's turned to the keys, and I have to wait for property management. Things aren't happening as fast as my control-freak mind would like it. Then I can start working and have a better background for these videos and had been in the house. I've been traveling for three months. Part of me really wants to get to the house.

By the time you see this blog, I probably already showed you that house on Instagram or something. However, it's about surrendering and trusting and understanding. What if the higher mind, the higher self could bring things to you and even a more amazing way if you would just let go of trying to control it because it's almost like the ego's insisting this is how things have to happen.

But what's happening is you are set on your ways, and as you're set on your ways, you're making this little, this little box for yourself. This is the way things are, but you see the key to this is trusting, letting go and knowing that you, if you actually realize that you're getting pain from these beliefs, you're getting pain from these rules that are giving you reasons not to feel happy, that keep you trapped in lower vibration emotion. You can see what you're doing in a new way.

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My name is Aaron Doughty and I help people expand their consciousness. My areas of interest for this blog include motivation, meditation, neuroscience and enlightenment. The purpose of aarondoughty.com is to inspire change to those who want to experience more in life. I will openly and passionately share the tools, resources and processes that have made a difference in the quality of my life to help you do the same in yours. I’ve always believed that finding ways to add value to other peoples lives is the fastest route to both happiness and fulfillment and this is my genuine intention.